What is sex?

[ExpCharlee]

I’ve noticed a lot of guys recently comment that they “didn’t last long” when we’ve been having sex for a good 15-20 minutes. I think there’s a misconception that sex is just a penis in a vagina, but there’s so much more! kissing, touching, oral… all that is part of sex. just because you only last a few minutes during intercourse doesn’t mean we haven’t been having sex for longer than that. Don’t forget that!

PORN IS A LIE lol

<3

 

[masterpoonhunter]

As a purveyor of sensuality I cannot agree more!
I read somewhere something that went like:

I don't just want sex
I want the light brushes
The light kisses
The body presses that lead to deeper kisses
The breathing that becomes breathless
The build up of the passion
Then
I want sex

 

[ExpCharlee]

As a purveyor of sensuality I cannot agree more!
I read somewhere something that went like:

I don't just want sex
I want the light brushes
The light kisses
The body presses that lead to deeper kisses
The breathing that becomes breathless
The build up of the passion
Then
I want sex

Yeah IMO these things are all sex 🤷🏼‍♀️

 

[cruefan]

Foreplay is just as important as the actual penetration of p and v.
However not all providers allow kissing, daty ,bbbj , gfe , etc...

When it comes to sex most men want to last a set amount of time especially when they are paying for it.
Not having a good performance as a male client is like throwing your money down the toilet so I can definitely understand their disappointment.

 

[ExpCharlee]

Foreplay is just as important as the actual penetration of p and v.
However not all providers allow kissing, daty ,bbbj , gfe , etc...

When it comes to sex most men want to last a set amount of time especially when they are paying for it.
Not having a good performance as a male client is like throwing your money down the toilet so I can definitely understand their disappointment.

If I give a guy a 20 minute blowjob and he goes down on me for 5 minutes and we make out and touch each other for 10 minutes and then have sex for 5 minutes he’s lasted 45 minutes 🤔

Time to reconsider what “good performance” means. There is SO much more to intimacy than sex.

 

[Mclovinit604]

I’ve noticed a lot of guys recently comment that they “didn’t last long” when we’ve been having sex for a good 15-20 minutes. I think there’s a misconception that sex is just a penis in a vagina, but there’s so much more! kissing, touching, oral… all that is part of sex. just because you only last a few minutes during intercourse doesn’t mean we haven’t been having sex for longer than that. Don’t forget that!

PORN IS A LIE lol

<3

Aopreciate the reminder. We live in such a phallocentric culture. We are more than a penis. Like using only one gear while driving. Our bodies are an erogenous zone. Especially our minds.

 

[cruefan]

If I give a guy a 20 minute blowjob and he goes down on me for 5 minutes and we make out and touch each other for 10 minutes and then have sex for 5 minutes he’s lasted 40 minutes 🤔

Most guys typically don't consider foreplay or kissing part of lasting long in bed.
Lasting in bed to them is from the moment of penetration to the point of climax for the man.

There are unrealistic expectations put on by society on how long intercourse should last for sex partners which does put pressure on the man to perform to during intercourse.
https://globalnews.ca/news/3916453/how-long-should-sex-last/
Not many men would even make it past a 20 minute bbbj especially when it is done by a pro.

 

[Number17]

This article describes what is considered sex:
https://simpson.edu/system/files/2018-08/Definition-of-Common-Terms.pdf
“A sex act is sexual contact between two or more persons by penetration of the penis into the vagina or anus; contact between the mouth and genitalia or by contact between the genitalia of one person and the genitalia or anus of another person; contact between the finger or hand of one person and the genitalia or anus of another person, or by use of artificial sexual organs or substitutes therefore in contact with the genitalia or anus.”

Oral sex is sex.
Fingering is sex.
Kissing is not sex.

 

[angry anderson]

Sounds like a rationalization for older folks. I try to convince myself, and I agree about the journey not just the destination aspect. It's all nice. But I can't help but look back in regret at not filling up my dance card when I was younger on a more steady basis. Humble bragging and all, but I took it for granted that I could fuck all night. Would have been less humble if I knew what to expect in later years.

 

[Uncled]

Sex is when the husband inserts his penis in the vagina of his lawfully wedded wife (missionary position only !), for the sole purpose of procreation (not pleasure).

Anything else is perversion in the eyes of Almighty God.

 

[Steve_French]

I always thought of it as mutual satisfaction.

 

[Bridge]

Sex is when the husband inserts his penis in the vagina of his lawfully wedded wife (missionary position only !), for the sole purpose of procreation (not pleasure).

Anything else is perversion in the eyes of Almighty God.

The golden age of Victorian values!!

 

[ExpCharlee]

Most guys typically don't consider foreplay or kissing part of lasting long in bed.
Lasting in bed to them is from the moment of penetration to the point of climax for the man.

There are unrealistic expectations put on by society on how long intercourse should last for sex partners which does put pressure on the man to perform to during intercourse.
https://globalnews.ca/news/3916453/how-long-should-sex-last/
Not many men would even make it past a 20 minute bbbj especially when it is done by a pro.

this is the entire point of this post babe! To point out that all of that IS sex.

also i’m the edging master which is why i can do such long blowjobs

 

[Dick Ford]

Amen! I am pretty sure whenever a woman has ever complimented me about being a great lover, it had about 0.0000000000001% to do with my P in her V.

 

[skycrush99]

I’ve noticed a lot of guys recently comment that they “didn’t last long” when we’ve been having sex for a good 15-20 minutes.

good reminder that sex is much broader than we men often conceptualize. Sex can start at mutual eye contact!

when I say “last long” I’d usually be referring to situations in which I’d need to exercise some restraint, like receiving oral, or a HJ, or p to v penetration.

 

[Bridge]

Sex is sensual with sight, sound, smell, taste, and touch playing on the mind.

 

[John Aston]

I’ve noticed a lot of guys recently comment that they “didn’t last long” when we’ve been having sex for a good 15-20 minutes. I think there’s a misconception that sex is just a penis in a vagina, but there’s so much more! kissing, touching, oral… all that is part of sex. just because you only last a few minutes during intercourse doesn’t mean we haven’t been having sex for longer than that. Don’t forget that!

PORN IS A LIE lol

<3

 

[take8easy]

For me foreplay is the big part of it all. I have always enjoyed sensuality and older I am getting, kissing, touching, stroking, holding is becoming more and more enjoyable. I want the foreplay to last as long as it possibly can. That's sex for me!

 

[Kissmepassionately]

So nice to see this thread, thanks!

 

[pussydoctor]

Sex is friction and moods.