The longer you're in this lifestyle...

[Miss Hunter]

And I enjoy it because of my fascination with the human mind and human behaviour...

But to wield power over others just for the sake of wielding power? That would make me feel empty inside. And tired. Very, very tired.

 

[happymoments]

It's hard to quit, been doing this for well over 10 years. I found a partner who is understanding, and as long as I am safe, and don't spend too much on this hobby (a few times a year), than I think this will be a life-long thing for me.

wow i'm amazed your partner is ok with it how did the discussion come up? I think it's a natural life long thing, provided one can afford it as the basics of life is procreation and evolution of human kind. - to keep the genetics and gene growing like any other living organism.

Hope we're not fodder for some alien race

 

[volvoguy1979]

...the harder it is to leave

Agree or disagree??

Kinda.
I think it can be labeled as an addiction just as any other drug. For those who do not have an addictive personality (such as myself) i can leave once i find something that works outside of my main relationship.

 

[TenderLover]

I'm not a quitter...
Quitter never wins and winner never quits LOL

 

[wickedlicker49]

i lost 6 figures in a divorce, no thanks

also know friends who are financially wrecked for decades on spousal support because the wife was a stay at home mom and now gets 7k/mo for doing nothing

had to talk a buddy out of suicide lol, he is scarred from being abused and manipulated by women unfortunately. Everything he worked decades in the zone for, taken in one decision.

the younger generation of men seem to be either getting married much later or not get married at all. Times are indeed changing. Marriage rates continue to lower and delay at the same time while birth rates are at historic lows.

really good for pooning business. There is no supply of endless new young girls every year to be honest, its definitely hard to “quit”

personally i will never sign another contractual agreement like marriage again, girlfriends or pooning only

I’m gonna be the guy that says maybe you’re thinking about it wrong. Me, married and divorced three times. Lost a lot, Loved a lot. Learned a lot. It’s all just stuff you can rebuy later. She carried your child, and unless you don’t plan on being a father then she gave you something wonderful. I never had kids of my own. I was abused as a kid and never thought I could do it without causing myself all sorts of damage. But now that it’s almost too late I regret that.

Maybe you’re venting, but your message reads as very misogynistic. I never met a mother who “stayed at home doing nothing”. Try to think of a marriage as a partnership, or any relationship and you’ll be less bitter when it ends. I think with your current head space you’d be more inclined to get women who don’t value themselves and to me that’s not what it’s about.

You knew damn well when you got married that all assets would be joint. Suck it up now that the bill is due.

 

[maniacalone]

I’m gonna be the guy that says maybe you’re thinking about it wrong. Me, married and divorced three times. Lost a lot, Loved a lot. Learned a lot. It’s all just stuff you can rebuy later. She carried your child, and unless you don’t plan on being a father then she gave you something wonderful. I never had kids of my own. I was abused as a kid and never thought I could do it without causing myself all sorts of damage. But now that it’s almost too late I regret that.

Maybe you’re venting, but your message reads as very misogynistic. I never met a mother who “stayed at home doing nothing”. Try to think of a marriage as a partnership, or any relationship and you’ll be less bitter when it ends. I think with your current head space you’d be more inclined to get women who don’t value themselves and to me that’s not what it’s about.

You knew damn well when you got married that all assets would be joint. Suck it up now that the bill is due.

I disagree. I see no bitterness whatsoever in his post.

It's an objective take from his personal life experiences and those of his friends.

If marriage has become no more than a business relationship to reduce expenses, or have children, and he needs neither again, who are we to judge.

He did not generalize whatsoever about the opposite sex. He simply put forward a personal calculus on what he desires out of life. For him taking the ride once was good enough. For you three times and counting perhaps? You have done a different calculation and how is his position any less fair to the discussion?

 

[g eazy]

It's an objective take from his personal life experiences and those of his friends.

That is literally what subjective means...

IMO there's a decent amount of bitterness in the tone of the post. But we are all products of our environment and experience, so no one can fault him for feeling the way that he does.

 

[80watts]

So Ms Hunter if someone sees you for 20 visits, do you offer 5 mins of hard spanking overtime.....or just to the ones with cute asses......

Bitterness no.... Its all about the money..... I mean, do people really like shoving their fist up another person's ass.... Or its about the feeling of control.....

 

[johnnydepth]

First we form habits, then habits form us. Someone's quote, I don;t remember who.
Is it a hard habit to break? In my opinion the habit isn't seeing escorts; it's having sex. If you are having sex on a regular basis you are happy with then there really is no reason to see an escort. I haven't seen an escort in years. It wasn't hard to quit becuase it simply no longer served any purpose for me. As far as sex goes I've been there and done that. It would have to be a very special circumstance for me to jump back in.

 

[wickedlicker49]

I disagree. I see no bitterness whatsoever in his post.

It's an objective take from his personal life experiences and those of his friends.

If marriage has become no more than a business relationship to reduce expenses, or have children, and he needs neither again, who are we to judge.

He did not generalize whatsoever about the opposite sex. He simply put forward a personal calculus on what he desires out of life. For him taking the ride once was good enough. For you three times and counting perhaps? You have done a different calculation and how is his position any less fair to the discussion?

Like g easy said, it’s subjective. I felt there was adequate bitterness to comment. Not to correct him or admonish him. His feelings are valid and I just wanted to shine a different perspective on what he said. When love ends things get difficult but I try not to carry resentment towards anyone. I’ve survived cancer so I think that put a lot of it into a different light.

 

[jgg]

You can check out any time you want, but you can never leave.

 

[myselftheother]

Wait until theu retire, and then things may change.
Two of my best friends are retired ladies.
As long as you each respect limits!

I do agree...you actually said it better than I did./

 

[Metaxa]

And I enjoy it because of my fascination with the human mind and human behaviour...

But to wield power over others just for the sake of wielding power? That would make me feel empty inside. And tired. Very, very tired.

 

[Metaxa]

I’m pretty sure though that the narcissists who do wield power over others just for the sake of wielding power feel very, very energized. I’m thinking of Donald Trump and Justin Trudeau. They each have their base who are true believers. Neither of their bases realizes they are voting for the same man .... a corrupt, silver spoon, narcissistic racist.

 

[johnnydepth]

I’m pretty sure though that the narcissists who do wield power over others just for the sake of wielding power feel very, very energized. I’m thinking of Donald Trump and Justin Trudeau. They each have their base who are true believers. Neither of their bases realizes they are voting for the same man .... a corrupt, silver spoon, narcissistic racist.

That might be true, but somehow Trump managed to beat out someone who quite likely was a better candidate. Trudeau on the other hand is in office because so far there hasn't been another option. Andrew Scheer makes Donald Trump look like Donald Duck.

 

[Metaxa]

That might be true, but somehow Trump managed to beat out someone who quite likely was a better candidate. Trudeau on the other hand is in office because so far there hasn't been another option. Andrew Scheer makes Donald Trump look like Donald Duck.

Actually any option is better than Trudeau. He is an intellectual lightweight who only got the job because the Libs realized they could package and market him. His Daddy’s name got him the job. Unfortunately for Canada he has his mommy’s brain.

 

[Shanghai]

The longer you're in this lifestyle... ...the harder it is to leave

Dating lotsa souls you mean? (Leaving out the monetary societal judgmental aspect and odd diseases and what your kids would think of you if they knew, of course, that's what I'm sure you meant.)

That would be a resounding "Yes" to both the addiction and self-improvement aspect. The motivations and reasoning behind such choices are far more interesting, which this thread shows.

Going to church is a lifestyle, the same as gambling, or painting, or music, a trade, what have you. No one likes the Mormon door-knocking bible thumpers addicted to The Lord, but someone that studies many different religions and has gained a valuable world-view with their lifestyle choice is more cool.

So, the lifestyle is either a pointless addiction that really doesn't add much to your flavour to you as a human being or it is part of the never-ending maturing and refinement process. Then there are the accomplished privileged that view the lifestyle as part of their earned benefits, what possible reason would they want to "leave"?

The next question might be, knowing what you know now, would you want your kid to follow your path. For those who have been burnt by awful exes did not possess a great deal of worldly education before their unfortunate choice of a life partner, there is an aspect of what you learn about experiencing many dozens of individuals that lets you see first hand a wider range of low and highs of human existence so that BETTER LIFE CHOICES can be made when choosing someone to have kids and make memories with.

You learn quickly and cheaply the type of person that would screw you out of a few hundred dollars the path that led you to make such a shitty choice, versus choosing that same individual and not discovering until after getting married and having kids, that oops, bad choice. Ho-hopping is the bestest, cheapest, fastest-learned lessons ever, I say - PLUS you get your rocks off at the same time.

So, I would definitely want my kids to get their life-education that I now realize I never got, all-said-and done as quickly and efficiently, and safely as possible, then make sure they are well-equipped to EXIT any non-productive addiction aspect and move on with other more important and relevant, and life-cumulative events that result in photo and video memories that don't have to be burned at some point.

As for just plain fun, pursuing more interesting variations to keep life interesting, again, if one has a high mental or physical energy level, the choice to keep up the lifestyle would be pretty darn easy to say the lifestyle would be hard to leave.

Girls tell me about the variety of their clients that all have different reasons for seeing them, the wide variety of different kinks and so on, so it is pretty darn interesting to personally experience all the variety is out there. There certainly is no danger of getting bored if you have the right mindset.

 

[Miss Hunter]

I think when it boils down to it, either side will leave for the right reasons, if they actually care.

Sometimes we have to make difficult choices in life...

 

[Miss Hunter]

When we stand back and look at the big picture... why is the world's oldest profession such a lucrative profession?
Well, in a nutshell, it's because MEN are the dirty sluts who are willing to pay for whatever dirty things they want done to them.
If there was no demand, we wouldn't be here...

 

[Mr Quim]

When we stand back and look at the big picture... why is the world's oldest profession such a lucrative profession?
Well, in a nutshell, it's because MEN are the dirty sluts who are willing to pay for whatever dirty things they want done to them.
If there was no demand, we wouldn't be here...

Thank you for providing the Services you offer, and taking care of our dirty little needs ! ?

Mr Q.