Cheaper to rent than marry? Let's explore that.
Spending 1k a week, 52 weeks a year, for 10 years is still six figures. If you lost more than 500k in the divorce, the choice seems obvious for the hobby over the traditional way.
The longer you're in this lifestyle...
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Spending 1k a week, 52 weeks a year, for 10 years is still six figures. If you lost more than 500k in the divorce, the choice seems obvious for the hobby over the traditional way.
Very good thread. This one needs some thought put into it if we are thinking broader strokes here and not just the obvious in the moment activity.
My thoughts, opinions, comments for what they are worth:
Quantify Intimacy in $$'s
- married twice, first one was too young and pooning was something we all did as young people in the 70/80's but the 2nd one was 7 figures and it wasn't intimate so add in pooning for 25 of the 28 years and that adds to the bill.
Leave this activity if I was in a relationship where it might harm my partner
- yes I would do that
Re the kink
- And isn't that a topic. How many of the guys when you were first in a new relationship and you and your gal were literally fucking your brains out. Maybe there were twists in there and new things maybe not but you were getting it and good.
- And then, the wheels start to come off and it all slows down and just like that you are looking at options, your hand or some $$$s. And for some $$$s you can find something you weren't getting even back in the fuck your brains out days.
Financial
- As a job, a good provider can pull in some good money, keeping safe, looking after herself and so on. Are there transferable skills? Hmmm. I would supposed while providing maybe one could be learning coding? Financials? And that draws a question. Do providers qualify for current CERB benefits?
- As a pooner well you need some disposable income to partake so that is a choice.
- Unless there is sex addiction either party ...
Is it hard to leave?
- for me, I really REALLY like sex even in my 60's and thankfully I'm fit and everything works well so yeah its hard to leave and in general the women I meet in my general age have parked their libido somewhere far far away. And some look and act youthful ... too bad.
- for a provider? I guess it depends and if the years of accepting donations has built up a portfolio. Which I sincerely hope is the case as 99% of the women I've hooked up with are really nice people and they deserve a decent standard of living.
Well, that's about all I have to say on that.
cheers
My thoughts, opinions, comments for what they are worth:
Quantify Intimacy in $$'s
- married twice, first one was too young and pooning was something we all did as young people in the 70/80's but the 2nd one was 7 figures and it wasn't intimate so add in pooning for 25 of the 28 years and that adds to the bill.
Leave this activity if I was in a relationship where it might harm my partner
- yes I would do that
Re the kink
- And isn't that a topic. How many of the guys when you were first in a new relationship and you and your gal were literally fucking your brains out. Maybe there were twists in there and new things maybe not but you were getting it and good.
- And then, the wheels start to come off and it all slows down and just like that you are looking at options, your hand or some $$$s. And for some $$$s you can find something you weren't getting even back in the fuck your brains out days.
Financial
- As a job, a good provider can pull in some good money, keeping safe, looking after herself and so on. Are there transferable skills? Hmmm. I would supposed while providing maybe one could be learning coding? Financials? And that draws a question. Do providers qualify for current CERB benefits?
- As a pooner well you need some disposable income to partake so that is a choice.
- Unless there is sex addiction either party ...
Is it hard to leave?
- for me, I really REALLY like sex even in my 60's and thankfully I'm fit and everything works well so yeah its hard to leave and in general the women I meet in my general age have parked their libido somewhere far far away. And some look and act youthful ... too bad.
- for a provider? I guess it depends and if the years of accepting donations has built up a portfolio. Which I sincerely hope is the case as 99% of the women I've hooked up with are really nice people and they deserve a decent standard of living.
Well, that's about all I have to say on that.
cheers
I think it depends . What are You defining Intimacy as ?
The definition of intimacy isn't cut, and dry IMHO !
Mr Q.
Obviously the answer is choose love or intimacy for the intangibles a healthy relationship can provide. Unfortunately, those are few and far between.
If we are being objective, relationships these days have become more about a compatible business situation, than about love in the Disney sense.
Consider the few posts in this thread and the six or seven figure costs they have endured from marriage. The math from this hobby for men, not seeking offspring, compels them to stay. Whether it's variety or the freedom gained from not being responsible to a partner, is clearly there to support not leaving it.
The longer that I have been doing this the more control I have.
I have seen multiple gorgeous providers over the years and I am even more selective now.
Knowing that if you have a couple hundred dollars in your pocket that you can see a gorgeous woman at any time you choose is a good feeling.
The only thing that would ever make me quit is if I was in a relationship.
I have seen multiple gorgeous providers over the years and I am even more selective now.
Knowing that if you have a couple hundred dollars in your pocket that you can see a gorgeous woman at any time you choose is a good feeling.
The only thing that would ever make me quit is if I was in a relationship.
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Aside from the guys that are jaded...
I think it depends on how far along the "spectrum" you are in this lifestyle. Once you've gone off the proverbial deep end, I don't think it's too hard to exit. Of course it varies between individuals, but I find that for many (hence "aside from the guys that are jaded") there are things that they value greater than pooning.
I can't speak from a provider perspective, but I think similar concepts apply. They could be jaded after terrible experience with men/clients, and/or made enough money to not give a shit (although more rare, probably exists somewhere). Of course this is purely theoretical and probably full of shit.
I think it depends on how far along the "spectrum" you are in this lifestyle. Once you've gone off the proverbial deep end, I don't think it's too hard to exit. Of course it varies between individuals, but I find that for many (hence "aside from the guys that are jaded") there are things that they value greater than pooning.
I can't speak from a provider perspective, but I think similar concepts apply. They could be jaded after terrible experience with men/clients, and/or made enough money to not give a shit (although more rare, probably exists somewhere). Of course this is purely theoretical and probably full of shit.
I echo the sentiments of many of the Pooners here. I indulge for peace of mind, connection and having a safe healthy interaction with a lovely woman for a few $....and it's wonderful. Relationships for me with women have usually wound up being a fucking fiasco financially, emotionally crippling and mentally exhausting. I discovered the lifestyle in my 20's and found over the years some great ladies who I became a regular of for years and developed a wonderful working/business relationship with them...not quite friends, but in the scope of the moments that we're together I've experienced pure bliss at the hands of these goddesses of pleasure...Thank you to all the wonderful women who provide this important service...
How sad it would be if your primary interaction with women is mostly paid sex providers instead of a girlfriend or wife. What's you plan for vacations, paying someone to come along? Someone who may flake at the last minute, who you may find sucks to travel with, who has zero commitment to you. How do you explain to family, friends, co workers... that the woman in your vacation photos is an escort. Are you going to bring an escort to work related social events.
If travelling isn't your thing and you like just hang around the city sitting home by yourself then sure maybe a paid companion for that one or two hours per week is all you need.
When you just need to get laid and escort is what you're looking for but is no replacement for having someone there you can count on. Its depressing to think every time you want to want companionship you have to run to an ATM and pay by the hour. Escorts have a roll but its not to replace committed relationships. And sure relationships can end but you have some control over that.
If travelling isn't your thing and you like just hang around the city sitting home by yourself then sure maybe a paid companion for that one or two hours per week is all you need.
When you just need to get laid and escort is what you're looking for but is no replacement for having someone there you can count on. Its depressing to think every time you want to want companionship you have to run to an ATM and pay by the hour. Escorts have a roll but its not to replace committed relationships. And sure relationships can end but you have some control over that.
Wait until theu retire, and then things may change.
Two of my best friends are retired ladies.
As long as you each respect limits!
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And, in hindsight, I feel this subject deserves its own thread, I'll post one eventually...
I agree with your thoughts. I feel too you can't replace the love and connection you have with a real partner than a paid one. The paid one fulfills the physical side and not really the emotional one. It is living a fantasy but in the end doesn't really satisfy.
or how about "Just when I thought I was in, she pulled me back out"
And it actually depends on whether, in your new career, you can keep yourself accustomed to the standard of living you had before, or better still be happier
Acquaintances are easy but finding a person who really cares about us may be a once in a lifetime find.
Underestimating that can be a painful lesson.
Actually makes sense, when you think about doms in terms of control. While the majority of people in life, things that happen to them are out of their control. Where as a dom is always in control, that mindset can become addictive to the power of controlling another person... Now control many persons.....
In my case I disagree, I find kink addictive because I get high off of it.
I personally find being in control ALL of the time to be exhausting.
