metoo113 said:
I used tack, discussion and talking to defuse a situation. Sometimes it would come down to fighting but those times were rare. It's a choice you make and how you react in a situation.
"I object to violence because when it appears to do good, the good is only temporary; the evil it does is permanent." Gandhi
Thanks for answering that question metoo113, I really wanted to know and indeed I have seen people talk other people down. Tough if English isn't your first language since it involves tact, discussion and taking though. Myself, if I see someone looking for a fight, I just light up a joint and 5 minutes later they're as mellow as a newborn kitten, lol.
However, my favorite weapon of all time, which always always works and has never ever let me down, I like to call "shrill voice that gets louder and louder until I have a huge audience". Men can't pull it off and get away with it, but women can.
For example, Last year at the nude lake I go to, some uptight weirdo sitting beside me on the dock got splashed when I dove off the dock. (The peril of sitting at the edge.) I swam around and had just sat down when he said to me "if you ever splash me again I'll fucking kill you" so calmly I thought he was joking until he threw his (now damp) french newspaper into his bag angrily.
Initially I felt shocked, then angry as I realized I could have been a shy woman who would never come back and would think all nudists were horrible woman-threateners. I couldn't let him get away with that so I said (with a shrill voice getting louder and louder) "did you just say you would fucking kill me if I splashed you again?" with astonishment. His reply? "Keep your voice down" so I got to carry on my act "
I will not keep my voice down when you just threatened to kill me for splashing you!" Keep in mind there are 30 of us on this dock, but some of them haven't heard me yet. He said again with real worry and panic "shhhh,
please be quiet" so I said it again and added really loudly "anyone know this asshole?"
He was shitting himself by this point but someone is mediating and he wouldn't admit it was wrong so I walked away. Straight to Jodie, the lake gossip. I told her and her friends and they're eyeballing him, then I went to Daryl and his "harem" and related the story to them, then over to Rolf who actually had spoken to him before, and it turns out the guy had already addmitted he had an anger problem and usually sat by himself to avoid confrontation. Oops, bad day to come out of his shell! I'm pretty sure I taught him never to threaten a woman again, and I did it without violence....but I think he would have prefered the violence...
(I accidentally said Hi to him about a week later and he sheepishly said hi back, so my paradise was not tarnished by bad vibes, thank goodness!)