The vast majority of my special friends are regulars, and most have been for a very long time. I love to see new people, but it happens so rarely! It's always is a treat to connect with somebody new, and to learn, share and grow in a completely new way. There is an excitement and different type of anticipation which goes with meeting somebody for the first time (or in the first few meetings).
I absolutely love my regulars though! Each one is a special friend to me, on a real and deep level. We may not have a 'traditional' relationship, but it is a genuine, deep and meaningful one. We realize we are not going to run off with one another into the sunset, but that doesn't diminish the quality of the time we share.
From a strictly sensual level, familiarity allows for a more intuitive understanding of how to enjoy, please and interact with the other. An established comfort level allows us both to be fully ourselves, without fear of judgement. It creates a safe and sacred place of pure acceptance, joy, love and being.
We are all so guarded these days, and it can take a while to really open up and trust enough to let all you be fully seen. The closer we get to being authentically who we are, the deeper the connection we forge with others, and the more meaningful and exquisite all our interactions become. Anybody should be able to provide a fantastic service. What differentiates one time liaisons from those with regulars is the level of EXPERIENCE that is enjoyed. How much does it transcend the mere physical, and truly encompass the mind and spirit? Fun on a physical level is easy to provide. A meaningful connection that stirs the soul and brings about deep connection, personal change, growth and REAL passion usually take time to develop.
I know some people will read this and not understand, but the most meaningful, deep, transformational and genuine relationships I have ever forged had their beginnings in this arena.....and every one of those began with what could have simply been a one time interaction.