I didn't refuse to pay I don't do that. what happened was a few months ago she decided to tell me that there was a minimum to see her, I just said thanks for letting me know and thats it and didn't set an appointment with her. the next day she texts me back saying she would still see me under the old terms, so i set an appointment.
as another example: just last week, she asked to see me for a 2h date, I said sorry I could only do 1h. she insisted for a bit then, a few hours passed and she said 1h was fine.
now with this these extra's. I have not said anything other than I read what she said. late last night as expected she texts me if i will see her this week and tells me when she can. I have not replied.
yes there is more going on...she is actually retired and only seeing regulars now, but I suspect its mainly me since she is after me more often now to set dates.
the last meeting we had we had a little episode. I took her shopping, and we got back to the hotel late, we were about to have our private time and she says there is only 10min left and have to hurry up. I was a bit shocked by this and lost my mood so I got dressed and didn't want to continue and gave her donation. she insisted to ask me whats wrong I just told her I like her alot and I don't like to rush and take my time I said it many times. anyways, I am pretty sure these extras are a retaliation for this. There are a few times in past she would tell me I can't go down on her anymore, then amazingly a few dates later during a meeting, she would tell me it was ok to go down on her.
its unbelievable sometimes...
I'm pretty sure if I don't book her soon, and then tell her its because I don't have the budget for all these extras but I would like to still do them. I am pretty sure a few hours after saying this she will come back and tell me its ok extras are included for now.
You cannot "politely refuse to pay" a woman for her services.
Young girl? Condescending there.
It can't be too much of a shock if it has been ongoing.
She has been giving you signals and you are not picking up on them.
We are only reading one side of this and there may be a lot more going on.
Move on, it's better for both of you.