I know that I am nothing to her, I am not stupid. I just like doing those extra's and not sure what to do, There has been a few times in the past year where she tried to charge more for things, and I just politely refused to pay it, after a couple days, she changed her mind and things went back to before.
I just want to know whats the best thing to say to a young girl about this?
would it be ok if I told her that I am overwhelmed by these changes and that I am shocked she would try to charge extra for these things? especially after seeing her for a year regularly?
and more importantly that I want to do these extra's and I don't have the budget for them on top of her donations?
Well, its a good thing you have some experience and politely declining price increases.
It sounds like a valuable skill that would be helpful for you to acquire is how not to give a fuck. Someone wrote a book on that.
Using words like being 'overwhelmed' and 'shocked' should not be in the vocabulary of a paying client. So don't even think of including anything in the discussion that conveys you are shocked or overwhelmed. She has the right to change prices. The correct response is that you remain polite and say you respect that, but you have a budget. End of story.
If a gas station charges 5 cents more than another, I'll drive an extra mile to get to the cheaper station and continue going there.
For a longer explanation you could give, I would just make it clear that, given the many choices available out there, the sole reason you keep coming back is because of those 'extras' that the vast majority of girls do not parcel out and charge extra for.
If you are prepared for the risk of dumping her, you can also take the hard line and say the risk she is taking now is simply losing the entirety of the cash she has been getting for the past year, and just say "there are lots of other customers out there" (that could be a bit rude).
She can say, you are right dude, and adios buddy. You better be prepared for that. The upside of that outcome is that your spend on unappreciative pussy just stopped, so now you can get that new camera you always wanted.
You have made it clear that time is time, one 5-minute portion is not more valuable than another 5-minute portion in the same session. You'll see lots of guys that are perfectly happy to pay extra for CIM, COT, COF, foot fetish, GS, pegging - but the vast majority of them are one-timers, not regulars; you just happen to not be one of those one-timer guys.
In my case, a regular decided she wasn't going to do DFK anymore. I kept seeing her regardless for many more months, but kept my eye open for a replacement. I suspected that if I offered more cash she would reinstate DFK, but I didn't. Eventually over time, visits slowed then I stopped seeing her. There was no long winded explanation or discussion about loss of something I liked doing, I just found replacements.
Another regular decided one day that future visits should be 50% more. I ignored it. She was free to tell me to leave, and if that happened I wasn't returning, and and didn't say that, she knew. I just wasn't going for it. Life continued as normal and she didn't try again. No long explanation was needed.
Yet another girl decided that instead of coming over, she would do car dates at the same price. I nixed that, and she has continued to be my regular for several years. We make dinner, watch movies, yap for hours, screw, then off she goes back to her boyfriend.
The choices are pretty simple, since you have made it clear the budget takes precedence over the extra services:
- Keep the budget, reduce the visits, pay the extra she wants, no discussion needed
- Keep the budget, reduce the visits, pay another girl for the extras
- Keep the budget, find a replacement girl doesn't charge for extras
- Get a better paying job, pay your regular more
