Honestly, I'm not one to be worried about communication because I never have discussed any details in those communications. I've merely booked time and set it up. Let them read whatever they like in those texts or emails because there is no illegal act in there whatsoever. I think this is the thing that gets lost in all of this. Don't talk about menus and rates and there is nothing that can happen, period. We will figure out things, I believe. Carefully worded ads, reviews, websites will tell a client what he needs to know and we just need to be patient and smart.
As for hotels, I'm not really concerned there either, as long as discretion is used. In the big cities, apartments or condos work but in the smaller towns, it's not really safer or more discreet, imo. Open court motels still aren't very great, never were. But the larger hotels are completely safe, imo. Just act smart and don't draw unwanted attention like nervously watching the staff or looking at the text message several times. Get the room number and directions while in your vehicle, park in a discreet location (near the restaurant,if there is one is always good), put the cellphone away and walk in with confidence and go straight to the elevator or whatever like you belong and the staff doesn't even notice you. One thing I will say though is I never book really late at night (past 10:30). That could change staff perception. SP's may want to limit hours when in a hotel, I don't know.