Are we EXPECTED to be available last minute?
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I agree with a lot of the comments that have been given so far. I had this exact discussion with another sp yesterday. She had something very similar happen to her and I personally think it's better not to leave your work phone on/respond to work messages if you're not available. And if you really prefer to still respond, I don't think you need or should give a reason or explain why you're not available.
I think most of us are ok with last minute appointments and most men are aware that sometime it works out and others it just doesn't. I try to explain this and that chances are always better if they make plans ahead of time but if they're unable to, they are welcome to try again. But they cannot give you a hard time if it doesn't work out. I think these guys assume you're available since you're able to respond to them. That's why I think it's better not to respond if you're not available. They'll realize it and just try again..
But this guy's attitude shows he's immature, self centered and the whole entitlement thing is a real turn off for me. It's disrespectful and whenever something like that happens, I'm actually relieved it happened before things have gotten any further. You dodged the bullet, so to speak.
I understand that a lot of men simply can't plan days or weeks in advance and I'm fine with same day requests. But I'm always a bit puzzled when people really seem to expect me to be able to see them with 15 minutes notice. I understand there's no harm in them trying and I assume some girls must be able to accommodate that but I have to admit I have to try not to feel a bit insulted by the assumption that I'm expected to sit around at home, all done up, candles going and everything ready on the odd chance someone might decide they want to see me right now?... Seems presumptuous of someone to assume or expect us to do this!
I think most of us are ok with last minute appointments and most men are aware that sometime it works out and others it just doesn't. I try to explain this and that chances are always better if they make plans ahead of time but if they're unable to, they are welcome to try again. But they cannot give you a hard time if it doesn't work out. I think these guys assume you're available since you're able to respond to them. That's why I think it's better not to respond if you're not available. They'll realize it and just try again..
But this guy's attitude shows he's immature, self centered and the whole entitlement thing is a real turn off for me. It's disrespectful and whenever something like that happens, I'm actually relieved it happened before things have gotten any further. You dodged the bullet, so to speak.
I understand that a lot of men simply can't plan days or weeks in advance and I'm fine with same day requests. But I'm always a bit puzzled when people really seem to expect me to be able to see them with 15 minutes notice. I understand there's no harm in them trying and I assume some girls must be able to accommodate that but I have to admit I have to try not to feel a bit insulted by the assumption that I'm expected to sit around at home, all done up, candles going and everything ready on the odd chance someone might decide they want to see me right now?... Seems presumptuous of someone to assume or expect us to do this!
My .02....turn off your phone when you're not availible. I do that for my job, as a contractor. Weekends my work cell is off, leave a message and I'll talk to you later. Don't answer it, or texts...simple.
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Something to consider...
The guy you referenced was/is clearly an asshole... courtesy is to be expected in all dealings and also those of us who see SP's and respect them realize that you have your own lives. I will point out one thing though... for many of us - this is a pursuit that we can be ambivalent or slightly uneasy with. There are risks and stigma and so on.. they may vary from person to person but the point is... for some of us it's a guilty pleasure.
We may have wives or girlfriends that we are worried might find out. We may fear health risks... the financial expense, bad SP's , getting ripped off, having an unpleasant or unsatisfying encounter etc. So sometimes when the urge hits we may be phoning you impulsively. It can be a sudden and exciting yielding to temptation. Hence the thrill of spontaneity.
Sure you can book a week ahead.. but I've found that maybe that day rolls around and you don't necessarily have a raging hard on. So there is a tendency to book when you're loins are on fire or the idea 'suddenly' occurs to you 'Hey wouldn't a hot session with so and so be great right about now?'
So I always appreciate SPs who can accomodate short notice - provided they are made respectfully and with time for her to prepare properly. Pre booking is better and I do like to do that as well but remember that some of us are a little impulsive. Maybe you could have a policy of book/confirm for new clients but be available on shorter notice for those you've seen before.
Clearly the answer is to book ahead of time - but I hope this gives a little insight into the average Joe on here who is suffering from a sudden acute 'swelling' in the groin area
The guy you referenced was/is clearly an asshole... courtesy is to be expected in all dealings and also those of us who see SP's and respect them realize that you have your own lives. I will point out one thing though... for many of us - this is a pursuit that we can be ambivalent or slightly uneasy with. There are risks and stigma and so on.. they may vary from person to person but the point is... for some of us it's a guilty pleasure.
We may have wives or girlfriends that we are worried might find out. We may fear health risks... the financial expense, bad SP's , getting ripped off, having an unpleasant or unsatisfying encounter etc. So sometimes when the urge hits we may be phoning you impulsively. It can be a sudden and exciting yielding to temptation. Hence the thrill of spontaneity.
Sure you can book a week ahead.. but I've found that maybe that day rolls around and you don't necessarily have a raging hard on. So there is a tendency to book when you're loins are on fire or the idea 'suddenly' occurs to you 'Hey wouldn't a hot session with so and so be great right about now?'
So I always appreciate SPs who can accomodate short notice - provided they are made respectfully and with time for her to prepare properly. Pre booking is better and I do like to do that as well but remember that some of us are a little impulsive. Maybe you could have a policy of book/confirm for new clients but be available on shorter notice for those you've seen before.
Clearly the answer is to book ahead of time - but I hope this gives a little insight into the average Joe on here who is suffering from a sudden acute 'swelling' in the groin area
Many good points here
Thank -You for starting this thread BOBBI!:clap2::clap2:
We do have lives outside of work. I myself advertise availability from 10am to midnight, but I cannot chain myself to the house, ready at all times JUST IN CASE someone calls and wants to see me RIGHT NOW. During my hours of work, if I choose to take care of personal errands, I try to make sure that I am "appointment ready" prior to departing, including the state of my incall. That way, should I answer a call and I am able to agree on terms that work for BOTH parties involved, there is very little to do once I get back. As I am a very low volume provider, I do answer my phone, as PRE BOOKED APPOINTMENTS are my bread and butter.
Its all the guys who EXPECT
1.That you are not previously booked
2. Just because you happen to be working, they can arrive at your incall within 15 minutes, with NO THOUGHT that you MAY need to freshen up, or get ready for the appointment in SOME WAY, SHAPE OR FORM.(?)
3. That you will see them without asking a single question.
4. Have not taken a look at your website, which would answer a LOT of questions.
5. Even if by some MIRACLE, you HAPPEN to be available, and say YES TO THE CALL, they ask you something that is NOT part of your menu, or is CLEARLY on your "RESTRICTIONS LIST" AND DON'T COME TO SEE YOU ANYWAYS! (OR BOOK AND NO SHOW!)
NO RESEARCH, NO TACT AND ABOVE ALL NO APPOINTMENT.
These types of fellows are the ones that make this job extremely frustrating. We want to be Fresh, Ready, Relaxed, and able to greet you with ease, class and charm. It is kinda hard to pull this off when you are running around like a chicken with your head cut off trying to get ready for someone who doesn't appreciate it, but EXPECTS IT. The more time you give us to be COMPLETELY ready for your visit, the more relaxed and appreciative we will be......... and we have MANY ways of conveying our APPRECIATION
Thank -You for starting this thread BOBBI!:clap2::clap2:
This is fine, if you are planning on being off, and have had a chance to have your advertising reflect this. Sometimes we still answer, as it is all part of the customer service part of the job. You never know, it MAY be for a booking we CAN actually fit into our schedule, so, not answering the phone =Loss of possible appointment. This is my personal experience speaking, that is why I TRY to answer my phone WHENEVER possible.
Good point Angie,
We do have lives outside of work. I myself advertise availability from 10am to midnight, but I cannot chain myself to the house, ready at all times JUST IN CASE someone calls and wants to see me RIGHT NOW. During my hours of work, if I choose to take care of personal errands, I try to make sure that I am "appointment ready" prior to departing, including the state of my incall. That way, should I answer a call and I am able to agree on terms that work for BOTH parties involved, there is very little to do once I get back. As I am a very low volume provider, I do answer my phone, as PRE BOOKED APPOINTMENTS are my bread and butter.
An hour or two is COMPLETELY within the realm of acceptable as far as short notice is concerned.
Its all the guys who EXPECT
1.That you are not previously booked
2. Just because you happen to be working, they can arrive at your incall within 15 minutes, with NO THOUGHT that you MAY need to freshen up, or get ready for the appointment in SOME WAY, SHAPE OR FORM.(?)
3. That you will see them without asking a single question.
4. Have not taken a look at your website, which would answer a LOT of questions.
5. Even if by some MIRACLE, you HAPPEN to be available, and say YES TO THE CALL, they ask you something that is NOT part of your menu, or is CLEARLY on your "RESTRICTIONS LIST" AND DON'T COME TO SEE YOU ANYWAYS! (OR BOOK AND NO SHOW!)
NO RESEARCH, NO TACT AND ABOVE ALL NO APPOINTMENT.
These types of fellows are the ones that make this job extremely frustrating. We want to be Fresh, Ready, Relaxed, and able to greet you with ease, class and charm. It is kinda hard to pull this off when you are running around like a chicken with your head cut off trying to get ready for someone who doesn't appreciate it, but EXPECTS IT. The more time you give us to be COMPLETELY ready for your visit, the more relaxed and appreciative we will be......... and we have MANY ways of conveying our APPRECIATION
I agree also. This missed appointment is all a bunch of balloon juice.
If a guy is phoning to make an appointment one week from now, let him try again tomorrow, I'm sure six days notice should suffice. If you are not available, turn the bloody thing off or leave a voice mail with your future availabilty.
if you're out on a break, or out on your free time... then that's exactly what it is. While I imagine sp's don't have particularily normal business hours, they are entitled to time off, just like anyone else. Also, if you are the independant owner/operator, you call the shots as to when you work... if you don't want to work that day, then tough cookies to the clients.
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Idiot client. You don't need anything like that.
Thanks for the info ladies.
What IS needed is a bigger client base so idiots like that don't bother phoning in the first place because they know they don't have a hope.
I agree the impulsive last minute thing can be fun for the client but you have to accept the dissapointment when it doesn't work out.
Some questions for you Bobbi.
Would it be good for you if most of your work was booked a few days or more in advance?
Is the last minute stuff sometimes fun for you or just a hassle?
Idiot client. You don't need anything like that.
Thanks for the info ladies.
What IS needed is a bigger client base so idiots like that don't bother phoning in the first place because they know they don't have a hope.
I agree the impulsive last minute thing can be fun for the client but you have to accept the dissapointment when it doesn't work out.
Some questions for you Bobbi.
Would it be good for you if most of your work was booked a few days or more in advance?
Is the last minute stuff sometimes fun for you or just a hassle?
to be honest its nice if your out drinking or just horny
and you can email up a lady and she tells you come right over.
i have done it a couple of times with sps that new me well, it was just the spur of the moment thing.
other then that, it doesnt matter other then its just nice,
i have been a regular with a lady for years every two weeks.
but i haven't seen her or any one for a month i think,
she had stuff going on and canceled on me,
and i too had something going on couldn't make it,
seeing her latter this week.
but whatever, sometimes its easy to get into see some one,
sometimes even if your a regular in good standing life happens and you can't make it.
and you can email up a lady and she tells you come right over.
i have done it a couple of times with sps that new me well, it was just the spur of the moment thing.
other then that, it doesnt matter other then its just nice,
i have been a regular with a lady for years every two weeks.
but i haven't seen her or any one for a month i think,
she had stuff going on and canceled on me,
and i too had something going on couldn't make it,
seeing her latter this week.
but whatever, sometimes its easy to get into see some one,
sometimes even if your a regular in good standing life happens and you can't make it.
I think simply put, we have a life and obligations. We are available when we are available, and we try to accomodate everyone as best we can. I also agree it is not a good idea to meet new clients if you are drinking.
Normally one calls an hour or so before actually getting together to confirm. That said, once that's done, one would hope she would follow through with her commitment. If not there's not much you can do about it, other than to post here on perb and share your experience with others, who may choose to avoid seeing her if she's not acting in a professional manner.
Fuck him, the guys an ass, I have on small occasion in the past called at last minute(usually an hour before I want company) because my other brain waited till my mind was weak and hijacked my body. If I can get lucky sweet for me, if not I try to book for a day or so later. If by chance she answers and I hear alot of background noise or other voices I ask if they are able to talk if not I will call back at a more convenient time.
He just needs a kick in the head form the commons sense mule, anyone with half a brain would have realised something was up and not a good time for you. Also after dealing with some guys I could understand that you ladies may need time to recover or need a bit of time to regroup. Not all of us guys are easy to deal with.
also if any guys wants more than 2 hours that is a call that should be made at least a week in advance, if shit comes up then reschedule.
His loss was my gain in the end :0
I still get tingles.
He just needs a kick in the head form the commons sense mule, anyone with half a brain would have realised something was up and not a good time for you. Also after dealing with some guys I could understand that you ladies may need time to recover or need a bit of time to regroup. Not all of us guys are easy to deal with.
also if any guys wants more than 2 hours that is a call that should be made at least a week in advance, if shit comes up then reschedule.
His loss was my gain in the end :0
I still get tingles.
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I PREFER to book in advance as my home is about an hour from my incall... but some days I want to work and didn't get a pre-booking... so if I get a short notice call, I do take it. I enjoy sponteneity too - I am human. It was the rudeness of the texts, not the idea of being available last minute...
No matter how busy a working girl is - we all get down time (especially in this economy) and appreciate the short notice booking.. as short notice is definitely better than no work at all.
ps. I don't have a booking for tonight..
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Quote Originally Posted by ReluctantPooner View Post
Or at least if it's a work related text, ignore it until the next day. A client, especially a new one, does not need to know that you're out, or drinking. Return the text the next day, and say "Sorry, I was unavailable last night..."
exactly....
Or at least if it's a work related text, ignore it until the next day. A client, especially a new one, does not need to know that you're out, or drinking. Return the text the next day, and say "Sorry, I was unavailable last night..."
exactly....
but sometimes it's not discreet to text/phone the next day - it's a tough call. Turn your phone off and you become "never available" and have to worry when is it okay to return the call -answer the phone and you get people arguing with you for availability. Some people phone and turn out to be WOT and that is even more frustrating. I think patience on both ends is always needed. I know for me, it's guaranteed that if I wait around for calls I will get few or none, but if I go out my phone won't stop ringing.... murphy's law!
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