I would hope anyone would use their gut feeling when dealing someone, whether it be a with a potential client or a potential service provider (isn't there a better synonym than that?)
Ah - good question there Olivia!
There are several different names for a gal in your line of business.
Some are more flattering than others but we pretty much have all heard them at one time or another:
The following are from encyclopedia.com:
courtesan, prostitute, harlot, whore, woman of ill repute, streetwalker, call girl, lady of the evening.
http://www.encyclopedia.com/doc/1O998-courtesan.html
This is from Thesaurus.com: courtesan
bawd, call girl, camp follower, harlot, scarlet woman, streetwalker, strumpet, tart, whore
http://thesaurus.reference.com/browse/courtesan
Merriam-Webster has no clue about a courtesan:
No entries found.
http://www.merriam-webster.com/thesaurus/courtesan
And the nerd needing lots of info will appreciate Encarta
(which has 2 full pages on the subject.)
Pretty much covers the gamut from ancient Greece to Bill Clinton.
http://au.encarta.msn.com/encyclopedia_1481570684/Courtesans.html
Answers.com provides this definition as well as synonyms:
A woman who engages in sexual intercourse for payment: bawd, call girl, camp follower, harlot, prostitute, scarlet woman, streetwalker, strumpet, tart, whore. Slang: hooker, moll
Answers.com also provides an interesting little history on a courtesan which I will give a snippet of here:
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Essentially, there were two types of courtesans.
In one category was a type of courtesan known (in Italy) as the cortigiana onesta, or the honest courtesan, who was cast as an intellectual. In the other was the cortigiana di lume, a lower class of courtesan. Although the latter was still considered better than an average working-girl, the former was the sort most often romanticized and treated more-or-less equal to women of royalty. It is with this type of courtesan that the art of "courtisanerie" is best associated.
The cortigiane oneste were usually well-educated and worldly (sometimes even more so than the average upper-class woman), and often held simultaneous careers as performers or artists. They were typically chosen on the basis of their "breeding"—social and conversational skills, intelligence, common-sense, and companionship—as well as their physical attributes. It was usually their wit and personality that set them apart from regular women.
They were prostitutes in the sense that sex was one of their obligations, but unlike the average prostitute, sex constituted only a facet of the courtesan's array of services. For example, they were expected to be well-dressed and ready to engage in a variety of topics ranging from art to music to politics.
In some cases, courtesans were from well-to-do backgrounds, and were even married – but to husbands lower on the social ladder than their clients. In these cases, their relationships with those of high social status had the potential to improve their spouses' status – and so, more often than not, the husband was aware of his wife's profession and dealings.[1]
http://www.answers.com/topic/courtesan
As you will discern from reading the Anwers.com & Encarta pages, a courtesan is traditionally not an average prostitute but a woman of a certain pedigree with the intelligence, wit, charm & education to associate with those at the royalty level.
Those who did not meet the above criteria were not considered a courtesan but a mere prostitute.
Hope this helps you to find a more appropriate term to use in your communications.
Being professional is really key and isn't this a business like any other? I mean one should be on time, give the best service of their ability, being true to their word.
Reputation is everything...
Wow!
Someone who gets it!
You hit the proverbial "head on the nail" there Olivia.
A "Service Provider" can be anybody doing anything from plumbing to "laying pipe" in the bedroom by the minute.
You are in a client-provider relationship which has to be conducted in a professional manner or it causes a negative reputation for the industry.
The old saying that "It only takes a few bad apples to spoil the bunch" is very applicable here.
Thanks for pointing out that there are rotten apples Cara.
You gals should be concerned about these rotten apples because whether or not you are like that it is happening in your chosen field of occupation & affecting your image.
I knew this would become a heated topic when I chose to post the CL ad here.
And I know how fired up people get when;
BUT I just LOVE a good debate!
It's so invigorating for the mind & stimulates the passion of people who just cannot resist voicing their views.
So - for that reason I think I will continue to:
And I especially love all the 300/hr comments from the guys who never go to see the reputable sps who do charge more, so really have no clue as to what they do or don't do. You think someone who charges 300 an hour and sees 2 guys in one day is going to be tired or out of sorts lol.
Myself being one who has spent upwards of $500p.hr on an escort can speak with experience & candor on the fact that:
price has only an associative connection with service!!!
To date I have about 13 years in this "hobby" & would estimate my expenditures easily over $100,000
Some of my best sessions have been with a gal who just happens to LOVE her job & the company of men.
The other major criteria is that you have a connection with the provider. If you don't "click" then don't expect sparks in the bedroom.
I keep hearing all the guys saying they pay afterwards, but there isn't one sp who says she collects afterwards lol.
I rarely have paid up front in my experiences, usually on the first encounter if that.
One caveat on this though is that upon my entering the gal usually feels so comfortable with me that the business part of collecting money seems to become less of a worry.
I don't walk in looking like I just collected my welfare check (which is why I always go on a Thursday)
Kind of like the marathon man who pumps away for 45 minutes, another urban myth, I guess. If you see a reputable non-micro sp you will pay first, because, unfortunately, there are far too many guys out there who try to take advantage of the sps, and try to get something for nothing. This is the sort of business where after it is done, there is no longer any incentive for the guy to come up with the correct $ amount, buyer's remorse, guilt or whatever kicks in, and if they short change the sp when paying up front in an envelope, what are they going to do with someone stupid enough to get paid afterwards.
It's got f-all to do with service and everything to do with contempt for sps and women in general. And because they think that sps don't matter, or that they are entitled or that she has nowhere to go that is what they will do. Those of you who don't simply have to live with the distrust that evolves because of those of you who do.
Wow - all those negative vibes man!
I'm one of
the most critical people here or anywhere on SP's but those who have seen me will tell you that I do not shy away from paying at the end of a session.
On more than one occasion I have gone beyond the arranged time due to having too much fun & offered to go to the bank & comeback with more cash to ensure the gal was properly compensated for her time.
On every occasion the quality SP has said it was not necessary that we would take care of it "next time" but I have insisted on making it up either that day or add a gift to it on the next session.
It comes down to a matter of honour & respect.
