to be honest, i really dont understand why some people suggest that "generally" since the SP is experiencing many clients then the guy "must" do the same thing to make it "fair".
first of all i dont believe the number of people someone sleeps with defines the quality of their sex life, or love life for that matter, it can certainly affect it, but by no means its not a must, and unlike public believe it does not necessary improve it.
and even if we assume that "its always better to be with 10 women instead of 1" still one points being missed here: i really believe relations are about being there for your partner and she/he be there for you, its about making each other happier and supporting each other; naturally different people in different situations may have different needs, what im trying to say is, at a given time for a given person, no matter how much those "expectations" change something for sure applies: relations are "NOT" about trying to get "even" with your partner.
i understand that the idea that "im sharing my loved one with others" may sometimes come to mind, but even if we assume that its a credible feeling, it does not change the fact that its a personal preference, certainly not something to pass to everyone as a rule of life.
i wanna go back to my previews point and try to elaborate a little: different people have different good values, weaknesses, mistakes, problems... no one, and nothing is perfect, and is not supposed to be perfect to begin with. the idea that "i MUST sleep with other women to make us even" is like saying since you wake up earlier and wake me up then later at night i wont let you sleep in peace!
or lets talk about a regular relation, like a normal marriage, definitely one partner will always have more income, are you suggesting that the one with less income is not allowed to eat as well, wear as well or enjoy trips together simply to make things even?
no matter what is your definition of relationship, i guess we all agree that its not about hurting each other deliberately in order to feel better about it.
i think regardless of who we are talking about suggesting that "ill do to her/him what she/he is doing to me" clearly means that that person is not in a mental state of a "relationship" but wanna simply hang out and enjoy their time, its not a bad thing, not at all, but thats not a relationship to begin with.
im not saying that everyone should do date SPs or should not, i have no right (or knowledge for that matter) to even remotely try to lead people to what to do with their lives, but personally i think part of a healthy relation is about accepting mine and my partners flaws (even if we consider this job a flaw which im not gonna discuss, i personally dont think that way), even sacrificing things in my life for my partner (and of course receiving support and sacrifices from my partner)...
if im not ready to pass on somethings for my partner then it simply means "thats not my person or im not ready yet".
i really dont think theres a general rule thump for this matter, as any other relationship it may or may not work; best way to know? its easy, give it a try
(edit)PS: i have no intention to down vote other peoples believes, i hope no body feels offended by it, i was simply trying to put on some perspective on the matter.
after all each person is responsible for their own life, and each person can decide who they find "worthy" of taking extra steps for, its just personally i have other standards that matter more to me than "the number of people shes sleeping with". who knows, may be im the one at wrong here.
