I was not suggesting it was easy or common. Just saying for me I think I could do it. The emotions in a GFE for example I realize are fake ones (http://sexworkclients.wordpress.com/2013/09/12/what-are-fake-emotions/) and would hope that in a relationship my partners and mine would be real with each other. The sex need not be about PIV, but about intimacy and affection. Just sayin'
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I totally agree. Other wise you put her in a bad position. She is damned if she says yes and mned if she says no. You are on thin ice her.
I do tahe exception to the comment that if you paid for a friend you are at the bottom of the food chain. I pay ladies to travel with me, to go out for dinner with me but I don't think I am that sad.
Thanks for your thoughtful comments. The bottom line is that, while she (for the most part) will engage in sexual activity with a variety of men that she otherwise might not choose in a personal setting, and thus her "enjoyment" is suspect (body parts being stimulated notwithstanding), his extracurricular sexual activity would involve choosing partners whom he found attractive and got together strictly on a 'choice' basis. She does not get this choice, in fact, quite the opposite, and often will tolerate gentleman callers far outside of her realm of preference or even comfort, the likes of which her guy would never ever engage with in a female counterpart.This post of yours has a density to it I think would be interesting to respond to. You have delineated in a way from what is more often smoothed over together. The point if sex gives the SP for work or not sexual pleasure is actually germane. And it is not just a "typical guy" whom may have problems, for of course in my personal experience it is the "typical" (hate that word though) woman has a hard time decoupling sexual acts from emotional attachment, which is really more natural for most people in an emotional relationship - and there is nothing wrong with that per se. I mean to say that it is very normal for most people that express a vulnerable emotional attachment to another that sexual intimacy and pleasure from it gets possessive. Nothing wrong with that either, it is though a choice for those emotionally mature enough in realizing this dynamic of being human.
I cannot imagine you are saying then that any climax or orgasm you have while working is only about "performing". Which yes from a strict definition in a work setting I agree is - but for someone in a relationship that mere point of someone else giving the other such pleasure still can be an issue, especially if as the SP you are saying that the other in the relationship cannot seek that also for themselves, but only if they were in the same line of work? So it is only for "performance" they can have the sometimes actual climax and feelings of pleasure from another - unless you are saying it never happens for you and the sexual pleasure is only a performance and you don't feel anything really.
Now I say this not necessarily advocating the point all from personal belief, but because I love to say "for the sake of argument".
I agree, simplicity would be to remain single while still working in the sex trades. It would be a challenge for sure for a truly monogamous relationship.
So you see the dichotomy, the whole scenario is messed up from start to finish in my mind, so the single life is the best one, until after retirement.
No... Not sad at all and certainly not uncommon. I've traveled with lots of clients and it's always a fun and sexy time! There's nothing wrong with that at all!
Thank you Cami
I was really happy when I first got her number, but now the situation is getting more complicated. To protect her privacy, I won't explain why it's getting more complicated.
Also she told me some of her life stories and her opinion on relationships. Based on what she said, I'm almost certain that us going out would be a bad idea for either of us. I'm not judging but I do see our differences
I think I should just move on with my life
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Does this mean that you are a) cancelling the date, or b) it already happened, during which time you guys discussed these things that now make pursuing a relationship not a good idea for either one of you? (kinda wordy, sorry, hope that made sense)
Because, if b), then the date was successful, since that's what dating is supposed to be about, helping both parties determine if pursuing a relationship is a good idea...
I think i cant wait till her birthday to ask her out >_<
have to tell her asap...seems im truly deeply madly in love
gush it hurts being in love :doh:
have to tell her asap...seems im truly deeply madly in love
gush it hurts being in love :doh:
All the best, Sinmelinoe...I think i cant wait till her birthday to ask her out >_<
have to tell her asap...seems im truly deeply madly in love
gush it hurts being in love :doh:
no, you are most definately not that sad. you are a charming and fun companion. (and penpal
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Dating and romantic involvement are two different things, so the question is a difficult one to answer. Would I date a SP? YES - Would I become romantically involved with an SP - Knowing me . . . the answer would also be a YES But the final question that would have to be asked myself is - Do you think it would get really complicated as I fall deeply in love with that person? and my honest answer to that would also be a YES.
We are all flawed in some way or manner and I know in my heart, that the knowledge that someone I am deeply in love with is out there banging guys for her living will eventually get to me. I would always be worried for her safety and would eventually become insecure in my thoughts that someone will eventually steal her away from me.
So I am flawed in that my heart and mind act independently from one and another. I want to be that perfect guy that can distinguish the differences between what my girlfriend does and what my girlfriend feels, but I know that in the end, it will be me asking her to give up being a service provider and choosing me over the job. It isn't fair that I make her choose but the reality will be that I know I will eventually ask her to do that.
I think dating a Service Provider would need to be a NSA relationship on both sides of the coin. You will need to let the guy bang whomever he wants, whenever he wants if your asking him to accept the fact that you are doing the same. I am not too sure that I could keep it that way as falling and being in love will result in me wanting to move away from the NSA lifestyle into making a commitment.
So my final answer is, I would definitely date an ex SP, with no hang-ups on what she did in the past and I would date a current SP if she was open to falling in love and eventually giving up her job. The the honesty in any relationship needs to be up front and at the start, not somewhere in the middle.
We are all flawed in some way or manner and I know in my heart, that the knowledge that someone I am deeply in love with is out there banging guys for her living will eventually get to me. I would always be worried for her safety and would eventually become insecure in my thoughts that someone will eventually steal her away from me.
So I am flawed in that my heart and mind act independently from one and another. I want to be that perfect guy that can distinguish the differences between what my girlfriend does and what my girlfriend feels, but I know that in the end, it will be me asking her to give up being a service provider and choosing me over the job. It isn't fair that I make her choose but the reality will be that I know I will eventually ask her to do that.
I think dating a Service Provider would need to be a NSA relationship on both sides of the coin. You will need to let the guy bang whomever he wants, whenever he wants if your asking him to accept the fact that you are doing the same. I am not too sure that I could keep it that way as falling and being in love will result in me wanting to move away from the NSA lifestyle into making a commitment.
So my final answer is, I would definitely date an ex SP, with no hang-ups on what she did in the past and I would date a current SP if she was open to falling in love and eventually giving up her job. The the honesty in any relationship needs to be up front and at the start, not somewhere in the middle.
Thanks for the update. Hope you're not too disappointed but it's always better to figure these things out sooner, rather than later. Better luck on the next lady you like...
You don't think that if you were both deeply in love it would help you get past anything?
I think as I get older my thoughts and feelings on this have shifted. Ultimately it comes down to total honesty from both sides... and I don't think there is one answer for all. It really depends on the individual. Generally though, monogamy is easier, safer and less hassle.
I respect the ladies on here that choose to stay out of relationships while enjoying themselves in this profession, and know they have made some sacrifices in doing so. And I also know some who are married or are otherwise in committed relationships. Really comes down to the individuals, their personalities and insecurities, and the dynamics of their relationship.
I respect the ladies on here that choose to stay out of relationships while enjoying themselves in this profession, and know they have made some sacrifices in doing so. And I also know some who are married or are otherwise in committed relationships. Really comes down to the individuals, their personalities and insecurities, and the dynamics of their relationship.
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