*~* would you date an sp? *~*

[Cami Parker]

Ya, I understood that! Lol
I think, to be 100% honest with you, if she is suggesting a duo she probably does not want to date you exclusively. Could be the case that she genuinely likes you,( sounds like it, since you are obviously comfortable spending long periods of time in conversation) but may just value your business too much to give it up...
I have a lot of clients that I genuinely like, I enjoy their company and look forward to seeing them, in bed and out. However, I'm not looking to date (if anyone asked). It wouldn't mean that I didn't genuinely like them, simply that I'm not looking to dare right now... Don't get discouraged. It sounds like you are both very happy in the relationship that you currently have, and maybe you shouldn't jeopardize that as it could make future encounters a bit uncomfortable...

erm, i guess i made you misunderstand me
the lady i wanna ask out is not Miss Cami

Ive never met Miss Cami before, but im sure shes a nice lady, in my case tho im dealing with somebody else, she is not a regular on this website so theres no point trying to guess

 

[Cami Parker]

That's really super adorable. Maybe she is just offering the duo because she knows guys like that and wants to please you...

hmmm, Cami, I already wanna ask her out, but to be honest im just scared as hell :fear:
I really really like her, even tho its not so long we've met each other, but i just cant stop thinking about her, im simply trying to give it more time, so may be we can get to know each other a little more before me actually asking her out.

Honestly im not that worried about what may happen in our relation later on, whether its gonna hurt us or not, am i going to be jealous or not ...
I believe every relation regardless of the 2 person involved in it, can and always will have some hardships, many of them will go south, now granted when one partner has a profession that deals with companionship it makes it slightly more risky, but thats all to it i guess. you can say the same about relations that happen when you are younger, or when someone falls in love for her/his boss, or exactly when you like someone "more than your usual", in all these situations if you lose your gamble it will hurt you more than a so called "regular encounter" at a bar, but no one will suggest anyone not to try it simply because "if it fails its gonna hurt a lot!!". thats what commitment means, bringing all you have to the table. thats what i believe.

I understand that jealousy to a little extend, not as some posters has mentioned here, but i too do feel worry about whats gonna happen, but thats who she is and this is what she does; and i dont think its a bad thing. i think whats important is to not let the jealousy turn into some kinda bitterness in hope of controlling my partner, but that aside, its also part of caring.

if im going to be a partner, i should be able to handle it, so she be able to talk about it, and frankly i really wish those other men who she sees threat her nicely.

What scares me the most is "will she say yes?"
for now my plan is to wait till her birthday, i bring flowers for her, so she most likely already knows how i feel, but i think asking her for dinner on her birthday (which is about 1 month from now) can be a good occasion to make it "her" night instead of mine.

but that relies heavily on my assumption that shes gonna be free on that night and no plans to be with friends/family...

urgh! its getting a very looooong post >_<

tl;dr : yes i would, and probably will, why? because i like her, because i would love to take dance classes with her, because i wanna go camping with her, because i want to take her hand and walk with her on streets

 

[Cami Parker]

DING!DING!DING!!!
Can someone get this guy a prize....??

Dating an SP for me would be okay so long as we were both very open with our communication with each other. The idea of emotional monogamy is more important than physical so long as you know what is going on up front. There still needs to be common interests like any other relationship. Sex work is work.

 

[Cami Parker]

I know that's right Mama...
I hate guys with a laundry list of excuses...
It's ok if you're just not that into me, just keep it real
Lol

When someone is really into you they will FIND the time to spend with you. It's not likely that work comes first in All situations but work comes before YOU. When someone excites me I will always figure out a way to see them and vise versa if someone is REALLY interested in me he will do what he can to make sure that it happens. When money and work become excuses all the time then the motivation is clearly not there.

 

[Cami Parker]

Ouch... I'm so sorry Love. Maybe you need to find an SO that is more secure with himself, and your relationship. You deserve better

I've been wondering lately if its even possible for an sp or former sp to have a "normal" relationship. My SO & I for the past few years rarely go out and do anything together. When we do go out he's really irritable. He recently confessed to me he's uncomfortable being out with me because any time another man looks at me he wonders if its a client/ former client. Ive been working for 8 years so I can understand where he's coming from but wow its not a good feeling when the person I'm sharing my life with pretty much just admitted he's ashamed of me.

 

[PlayfulAlex]

I've seen her a few times already. The last session I had with her was a 3 hour session, we spent most of the time talking.


I am not sure if I should still ask her out. She suggested a duo session this time. I think it's pretty obvious that she will not go out with me

hmmm, Cami, I already wanna ask her out, but to be honest im just scared as hell :fear:
I really really like her, even tho its not so long we've met each other, but i just cant stop thinking about her, im simply trying to give it more time, so may be we can get to know each other a little more before me actually asking her out.

Honestly I'm not that worried about what may happen in our relation later on, whether its gonna hurt us or not, am i going to be jealous or not ...snip

Ya, I understood that! Lol
I think, to be 100% honest with you, if she is suggesting a duo she probably does not want to date you exclusively. Could be the case that she genuinely likes you,( sounds like it, since you are obviously comfortable spending long periods of time in conversation) but may just value your business too much to give it up...
I have a lot of clients that I genuinely like, I enjoy their company and look forward to seeing them, in bed and out. However, I'm not looking to date (if anyone asked). It wouldn't mean that I didn't genuinely like them, simply that I'm not looking to dare right now... Don't get discouraged. It sounds like you are both very happy in the relationship that you currently have, and maybe you shouldn't jeopardize that as it could make future encounters a bit uncomfortable...

That's really super adorable. Maybe she is just offering the duo because she knows guys like that and wants to please you...

Just to clear up some confusion, Miss Cami, the OP's lady (ltrain) has suggested a duo, not the lady that Sinmelinoe has in mind...it's easy to get confused when the thread is this popular, 519 posts and counting!

 

[crunkory]

..who "is more secure with himself" ? -Cop out answer and BS

 

[Sinmelinoe]

Ya, I understood that! Lol
I think, to be 100% honest with you, if she is suggesting a duo she probably does not want to date you exclusively. Could be the case that she genuinely likes you,( sounds like it, since you are obviously comfortable spending long periods of time in conversation) but may just value your business too much to give it up...
I have a lot of clients that I genuinely like, I enjoy their company and look forward to seeing them, in bed and out. However, I'm not looking to date (if anyone asked). It wouldn't mean that I didn't genuinely like them, simply that I'm not looking to dare right now... Don't get discouraged. It sounds like you are both very happy in the relationship that you currently have, and maybe you shouldn't jeopardize that as it could make future encounters a bit uncomfortable...

LoL
posts are getting confusing more and more

it was another person who was offered a duo not me, i think his name was "Itrain"
me on the other hand fortunately havent received such an offer.

 

[Sinmelinoe]

Just to clear up some confusion, Miss Cami, the OP's lady (ltrain) has suggested a duo, not the lady that Sinmelinoe has in mind...it's easy to get confused when the thread is this popular, 519 posts and counting!

true hon, of course its a hot topic, i expect humans as a race should be evolved enough by now to understand that SPs are also humans with the same values as any other person, they deserve the same respect as anyone else.

I find it really annoying that some of these so called "man" expect the intimacy and service at its highest quality, but at the same time disrespect SPs, or in this case disqualify them entirely for the right to date someone they like based on what they do. i find it quit ironic that the "customer" belittle the SP considering hes the one who has asked for the service to begin with.

 

[Cami Parker]

Oh, shoot, thanks I did get confused there lol

Just to clear up some confusion, Miss Cami, the OP's lady (ltrain) has suggested a duo, not the lady that Sinmelinoe has in mind...it's easy to get confused when the thread is this popular, 519 posts and counting!

 

[Cami Parker]

Not true.... You shouldn't sign up for a situation that makes you feel insecure. I'm not calling him a bad person, but maybe this relationship doesn't make him feel very confident in himself.... Why? How do you know? Is the guy you? Lol jk

..who "is more secure with himself" ? -Cop out answer and BS

 

[Cami Parker]

Sorry, I got lost! Lol
Any updates on your situation?

LoL
posts are getting confusing more and more

it was another person who was offered a duo not me, i think his name was "Itrain"
me on the other hand fortunately havent received such an offer.

 

[Sinmelinoe]

Sorry, I got lost! Lol
Any updates on your situation?

no news yet, I will most likely wait till her birthday to ask her out.
i dont call/text her when i know i cant "afford" to meet her, not until i know for sure that she also is pursuing the same thing as me; at this point theres the chance it simply be a feeling on my part and nothing for her at all, so i wanna respect her privacy



Edit: but cant stop thinking about her :doh:

 

[Cami Parker]

That's very nice and respectful of you. When is her birthday?

no news yet, I will most likely wait till her birthday to ask her out.
i dont call/text her when i know i cant "afford" to meet her, not until i know for sure that she also is pursuing the same thing as me; at this point theres the chance it simply be a feeling on my part and nothing for her at all, so i wanna respect her privacy



Edit: but cant stop thinking about her :doh:

 

[Sinmelinoe]

That's very nice and respectful of you. When is her birthday?

January 8th! it seems so far away >_<

 

[yazoo]

January 8th! it seems so far away >_<

Kawaii!! puppy love...

Originally Posted by PlayfulAlex View Post
The guy typically thinks that, if she's getting extra sex (whether or not she enjoys herself, regardless of who she sees or how well she may be performing during her GFE), then he should too. The only thing is that her extra sex is for work, while his is for pleasure. So the emotional/physical monogamy line, although it may start out reasonably clear, begins to blur.

So I'll stick with single!

This one interested me, because I would think that the only way a friendship with an SP would work out would be if both were sexually free. Emotional monogomy for sure, but sexual - judging from experience and also reading a lot of reviews - SP often do have a lot of fun at the office.

 

[ltrain]

She said yes to my request. I told her that I will not be paying money in exchange for her time and she agreed. I'm afraid I really cannot share more details at this point.

 

[yazoo]

Congrats man! I hope you have a great date. Just be wary you are not being played. There's nothing wrong with taking a chance on someone, only doing it with your hands over your eyes is foolish.

 

[UhOh]

Please excuse me if I have misinterpreted this, but are you saying that if a man is dating a SP he is at "rock bottom". (bottom of the barrel.)

If I was in my mid 60's I'd be head over heel to date a hot 30yr old SP. If I were in my mid 30's and (except for paid sex) a virgin, I'd also be happy to date an SP, until the inevitable insecurity set in.
If I worked a regular 9-5 and socialized with coworkers, family and longtime friends, I might be a bit uncomfortable with telling them "the wife couldn't make it tonight, she's working late".

What would a day in the life would be like for the partner of an SP. Just a regular Joe? I know all SP wish everyone would just accept it as a regular job. If that were the case there would be a whole lot more girls looking at it as a means to earn a living. What would the dramatic increase in acceptance and competition do to rates. Be careful what you wish for.

Anyhow, I pose these questions as a matter of conversation whether they are my belief or not. Realistically I don't think any SP is on here hoping to find a relationship. If a guy comes here looking for a relationship, I think its safe to say something went off the rails elsewhere in life.

 

[webster333]

Thank you for that comment Cami Parker.