Well it's one thing as a 40 year old to seek out a newly turned 18 year old on LL. It's a whole other thing if you meet someone of that age in a setting outside of this "luxury", you click and things go there.
When youre 40, how young is too young?
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I hear you on that. I find myself having more in common with SP's closer to my age, if not older. Funny thing is there are several SP's who are presently advertising younger than me, but some are even older than me lol
It is a personal choice if you feel guilty how can you enjoy yourself.
Some of us see providers for companionship and company. You know overnight, dinner and drinks, conversation. I could fully understand wanting to be with a companion you can relate to.
Some of us are just want a passionate sexual lustful session. If the provider is of legal age and is in this business on her own accord and consents. Then I personally have no problem being with someone more than half my age.
You can’t deny there is beauty in youth.
Some of us see providers for companionship and company. You know overnight, dinner and drinks, conversation. I could fully understand wanting to be with a companion you can relate to.
Some of us are just want a passionate sexual lustful session. If the provider is of legal age and is in this business on her own accord and consents. Then I personally have no problem being with someone more than half my age.
You can’t deny there is beauty in youth.
Personally I think age is truly just a number.
I think a gentleman can and should see whoever strikes his fancy regardless of age!
I think a gentleman can and should see whoever strikes his fancy regardless of age!
If the question is related to seeing SP, any age legal or above.
If for serious relationship, what both sides agree on is good. For myself, if I were 40, I'd say 28+. Compatibility is more important than age.
If for serious relationship, what both sides agree on is good. For myself, if I were 40, I'd say 28+. Compatibility is more important than age.
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"Hi Mom, hey I have a new boyfriend."
"Oh that's lovely sweetheart, who is he?"
"Brian the mailman."
"But sweetie, he could be your father!"
"But Mom!! Age is just a number!"
"Sweetheart, I don't think you understand."
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I may be the exception to alot of posters on here, we have more in common, we can talk, blah blah blah. I am paying her for sex. I guess if you are booking an overnight that might be important but honestly at my age an overnight means we are both asleep at 9pm if she is close to my age
This topic comes up a lot, and I'll give my usual answer. "10-15 year age gap (*above legal age, of course)."
In my experience, mid-30s was my peak. I lead a stable life free of serious drama, established in a career, got money in the bank, basically 'got my shit' together. Along with the added perk of still being spry enough to be seen as still youthful and all the benefits as such. I could still keep up with a 19 year old provider; that is if they actually exist. Another thing I always say here is that "19yr providers are a sort of a unicorn in this trade." Even if you can find one who is professional, non-judgemental, not trafficked, and truthful about her age, you're still mingling with immaturity and/or inexperience.... which, again, is fine if you're an immature 30-35 year old yourself to accommodate each other's energy....a 15 year gap for success, imo.
Once I turned 40, it was like a switch flipped on. Energy lowers, and greying of the temples appear. Literally happened overnight for me. One time I went with a 20 year old girl and the chemistry wasn't quite there. Perhaps my older grey visage was turning her off, when the reality of her occupation dawns on her that 'the job might not be all fun high school type parties.' It wasn't a one-time situation either, another 20 year old I saw was a bit cold to me too. She was nice and accommodating, but I can tell she wasn't that much into older guys; we went through with it, because ...well, I was paying her, i guess.. So I started seeking providers a bit older, like mid-20s. And had a great time once again. My only assumption is at 25, the girl knows what the score is; know how the game is played better, realize who their demographic are, and for that they become more professional and accessible to a wider and older age range of clientele. ...still at 15 year gap for success, again.
As I'm getting older, late-40s, sort of getting the same vibe with mid-20'ers than I did with the last "19 year old" I was with when I was in my 30s. Just not a lot of connection, sure they'll go through with the session. Not really having a cold attitude, but usually feels like some of the chemistry is missing. So again, I bumped my desired age range to late-20s to early 30s, and again same results of getting that chemistry back; except with 'a twist' that I haven't quite established as red flag yet. I suppose time would tell, if I continue seeing them. But I've been with a few of 30yr old providers, and sessions with them have been great. Too great, as I saw one of them for a second time just recently. And two of these ladies keep texting me back, speaking to me casually like we're friends going on to be BF/GF, even one just asking me out for coffee (her treat), while sending me vag pics after shaving herself down there... I mean, I'm not offended, and do feel a bit flattered that I'm getting the attention. But I never had that from any other provider before, or should I say "any YOUNGER provider" before. So I'm a bit weirded out, since I'm obviously a man who's past being 'spry and young'. But in the case with "Coffee-girl", the way she texted me, I kind of had to remind her that I valued my discretion for obvious reasons, and gave her the whole "you know what this was" speech, and she would and she would nonchalantly say "she doesn't mind, she just wants to keep seeing me" while describing in very vivid details what she has planned for me when I see her next time; "no clock, all sub, not a drop will touch the floor" kind of talk... Either she liked me enough to want me as a regular client, maybe into a Sugar-Daddy arrangement, or judging by how strong she was coming at me, she might actually want be a part of my real life, in a 'homewrecking for a co-dependant relationship" kind of way... Again, never had this happen to me before, so the best word I would use is "clingy". I'd like to see her again, to see if she's really into what she was saying, but it's probably safer to ghost her. idk.
Anyways, in my experience, "15 year gap" between you and her.....not sure how being 60 is like with a 19 year old to see the '15 year rule' be tested. But I can't imagine telling her about my memories of being at a Nirvana concert, because she was wearing a Nirvana shirt and can't tell me the name of 5 of their songs.
In my experience, mid-30s was my peak. I lead a stable life free of serious drama, established in a career, got money in the bank, basically 'got my shit' together. Along with the added perk of still being spry enough to be seen as still youthful and all the benefits as such. I could still keep up with a 19 year old provider; that is if they actually exist. Another thing I always say here is that "19yr providers are a sort of a unicorn in this trade." Even if you can find one who is professional, non-judgemental, not trafficked, and truthful about her age, you're still mingling with immaturity and/or inexperience.... which, again, is fine if you're an immature 30-35 year old yourself to accommodate each other's energy....a 15 year gap for success, imo.
Once I turned 40, it was like a switch flipped on. Energy lowers, and greying of the temples appear. Literally happened overnight for me. One time I went with a 20 year old girl and the chemistry wasn't quite there. Perhaps my older grey visage was turning her off, when the reality of her occupation dawns on her that 'the job might not be all fun high school type parties.' It wasn't a one-time situation either, another 20 year old I saw was a bit cold to me too. She was nice and accommodating, but I can tell she wasn't that much into older guys; we went through with it, because ...well, I was paying her, i guess.. So I started seeking providers a bit older, like mid-20s. And had a great time once again. My only assumption is at 25, the girl knows what the score is; know how the game is played better, realize who their demographic are, and for that they become more professional and accessible to a wider and older age range of clientele. ...still at 15 year gap for success, again.
As I'm getting older, late-40s, sort of getting the same vibe with mid-20'ers than I did with the last "19 year old" I was with when I was in my 30s. Just not a lot of connection, sure they'll go through with the session. Not really having a cold attitude, but usually feels like some of the chemistry is missing. So again, I bumped my desired age range to late-20s to early 30s, and again same results of getting that chemistry back; except with 'a twist' that I haven't quite established as red flag yet. I suppose time would tell, if I continue seeing them. But I've been with a few of 30yr old providers, and sessions with them have been great. Too great, as I saw one of them for a second time just recently. And two of these ladies keep texting me back, speaking to me casually like we're friends going on to be BF/GF, even one just asking me out for coffee (her treat), while sending me vag pics after shaving herself down there... I mean, I'm not offended, and do feel a bit flattered that I'm getting the attention. But I never had that from any other provider before, or should I say "any YOUNGER provider" before. So I'm a bit weirded out, since I'm obviously a man who's past being 'spry and young'. But in the case with "Coffee-girl", the way she texted me, I kind of had to remind her that I valued my discretion for obvious reasons, and gave her the whole "you know what this was" speech, and she would and she would nonchalantly say "she doesn't mind, she just wants to keep seeing me" while describing in very vivid details what she has planned for me when I see her next time; "no clock, all sub, not a drop will touch the floor" kind of talk... Either she liked me enough to want me as a regular client, maybe into a Sugar-Daddy arrangement, or judging by how strong she was coming at me, she might actually want be a part of my real life, in a 'homewrecking for a co-dependant relationship" kind of way... Again, never had this happen to me before, so the best word I would use is "clingy". I'd like to see her again, to see if she's really into what she was saying, but it's probably safer to ghost her. idk.
Anyways, in my experience, "15 year gap" between you and her.....not sure how being 60 is like with a 19 year old to see the '15 year rule' be tested. But I can't imagine telling her about my memories of being at a Nirvana concert, because she was wearing a Nirvana shirt and can't tell me the name of 5 of their songs.
In my 42 years of pooning the largest age spread was a young woman 20 when I was 58 ten years ago. She was the most respectful and receptive younger woman I have ever been with. She had been in the business for a just over a year and said that after being with a couple of older men she would not be seeing anyone under 40.
These days I prefer to see ladies 28 and up. Met a couple of early 20 ones in the past couple of years but they have been way too pretentious.
These days I prefer to see ladies 28 and up. Met a couple of early 20 ones in the past couple of years but they have been way too pretentious.
There is no such "rule".
That was merely the answer to a survey taken about 30 years ago when men of all ages were asked "what, to you, is the ideal age for a woman?"
And rather than simply tally up all of the given responses and dividing by the number of people who replied (which would result in a completely arbitrary and pointless answer of 37.259387 years, or the like)
they computed the answer with respect to the ages of those who were responding.
Thus the more useful "half their own age plus 7 years".
It has only been clueless people who have since re-branded that well-conceived survey result into something which it never was.
I think the trick in this arena is to get to be intimate with women with whom we don't have very much in common.
I mean, who would spend $300 an hour on the likes of us ??
(and even if somebody else would - why on earth would WE do same? )
that depends entirely upon in which jurisdiction you are. (They typically write it down in clear and definitive fashion - but you really need to take the time to find the accurate detail) (your freedom may depend upon it)
Bro calm down, the literal next thing I said was “I’m joking”
The real rules about how old and young you can date.
The “creepiness rule” states that the youngest you should date is “half your age plus seven.” The less commonly used corollary is that the oldest you should date is “subtract seven from your age and double it.”
The “creepiness rule” states that the youngest you should date is “half your age plus seven.” The less commonly used corollary is that the oldest you should date is “subtract seven from your age and double it.”
This whole thread, entertaining as it is, seems to me to miss the point that if a man and a woman want to do the wild thing, then do it. Be it 40, 20, 60, etc. Legal age of course.
Obviously 'dating' or getting into a relationship, is one thing entirely, but having sex to me at any rate leaves the door open to mutual consent.
Obviously 'dating' or getting into a relationship, is one thing entirely, but having sex to me at any rate leaves the door open to mutual consent.
As I previously wrote:
There is no such "rule".
You are citing the answer to a survey question, misunderstood by morons, and somehow regurgitating that as a "rule".
For fucks sake, everyone knows there is no rule; you aren't going to be arrested or turn into a pumpkin if you date outside The Guideline. But I am glad you could provide the authoritative answer.
