I'm a loner, people on the most part bore me
What's your story for seeing an SP or being in this hobby?
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I've been pooning for 40+ years.
Women I meet pretty much anywhere and women I pay for their time.
Basically my reason is I really REALLY like to have sex. Great sex. Lots of sex.
I've analyzed it over the years, through marriages, etc. It's not for companionship so in the end it is down to me being pretty much a sex addict.
And no I will not be going to any of those fucking meetings to try to fix me. I'm good.
Women I meet pretty much anywhere and women I pay for their time.
Basically my reason is I really REALLY like to have sex. Great sex. Lots of sex.
I've analyzed it over the years, through marriages, etc. It's not for companionship so in the end it is down to me being pretty much a sex addict.
And no I will not be going to any of those fucking meetings to try to fix me. I'm good.
Haha, so true. Imagine if the sex was missing, how big the companionship industry would be? Much smaller, I guess. I have tried to date Escorts for companionship purposes only and it didn't go well at all. In this day and age, our minds have adapted well to being alone, so much so that I think many of us like being alone. Loneliness is a different feeling though and it happens only when you are alone and you are not meeting your main objectives in life. Then you look at others being more complete and happier, you isolate yourself further from other people and you get stuck in negative thought processes. If you are suffering from loneliness then this hobby is not going to help you at all.
I've only ever been in long term relationships for most of my adult life, but a few years ago a 6year relationship ended and I started jumping on the dating apps with little to no luck, I matched up and went on dates with a few girls but they were the strangest dates I've ever been on, and when I told my friends the stories of my "dates" they couldn't believe my bad luck.
At this time I started listening to a few podcasts and that's when I learned of backpage.
I was felt super sketch about contacting my first SP on BP, so I stalked the ads and noticed the trends, and also noticed some images had a LL waterstamp, so after weeks or maybe even a couple months of cross-referencing who I would want to pick as my first visit I settled on a "higher end" (at the time, ~2016) SP who turned out to be a classic b&s, came away super disappointed and didn't try again for a few months.
The next visit with another SP was much better and I still remember it, and how much I regret what I did.
I really vibed with this girl and we had amazing chemistry, at the end she offered me her ph# and I declined it due to fear of some trace evidence that the police could use against me on the way home or something.
Over the next 2 years I pretty much only did incalls maybe around once or twice a month, and in the past year I've pretty much switched over to parlors for the benefit of seeing a lineup and choosing who you get to spend time with, vs wasting time with incalls.
I tried a few of the pricier options and have never felt it was worth the extra scratch.
At this time I started listening to a few podcasts and that's when I learned of backpage.
I was felt super sketch about contacting my first SP on BP, so I stalked the ads and noticed the trends, and also noticed some images had a LL waterstamp, so after weeks or maybe even a couple months of cross-referencing who I would want to pick as my first visit I settled on a "higher end" (at the time, ~2016) SP who turned out to be a classic b&s, came away super disappointed and didn't try again for a few months.
The next visit with another SP was much better and I still remember it, and how much I regret what I did.
I really vibed with this girl and we had amazing chemistry, at the end she offered me her ph# and I declined it due to fear of some trace evidence that the police could use against me on the way home or something.
Over the next 2 years I pretty much only did incalls maybe around once or twice a month, and in the past year I've pretty much switched over to parlors for the benefit of seeing a lineup and choosing who you get to spend time with, vs wasting time with incalls.
I tried a few of the pricier options and have never felt it was worth the extra scratch.
Ha Ha when you state it like that I got to thinking. I have one son who lives nearby and used to call me every two weeks to see if I wanted to hang out with my grandsons. Since this Covid crap I get a call every two months. My other two sons I talk with twice a year. So correct, if I wasn't working right now it would take a least two months before someone found my corpse or filed a missing persons report.
We are pathetic and I find it humourous ! I wonder if any SP's are open to "Wellfare Checks" for some of their loner clients.
Maybe I need to be a "Regular" of an SP.
On the "lonely" aspect of this topic, I think that could be a full on multi aspect thread all of its own.
Over my years of being married, dating, not dating, etc, I can say unequivocally, the worst thing is to be lonely while in a relationship.
It usurps being lonely alone by orders of magnitude. And frankly, since I really like me, being alone is just fine.
Until I want some sensual company which is a lot of the time
Over my years of being married, dating, not dating, etc, I can say unequivocally, the worst thing is to be lonely while in a relationship.
It usurps being lonely alone by orders of magnitude. And frankly, since I really like me, being alone is just fine.
Until I want some sensual company which is a lot of the time
I agree with your assessment, ever since my ex broke up with me. I was stuck in a spiral depression, and I try to fill the void by finding a girlfriend, SP et cetera. After, trying to fill the void for 2 yrs 6 months, I've finally concluded that, it's not healthy to be in a relationship/find a SP to fill your loneliness - only "I" can make yourself not being lonely.
As a French Philosopher Blaise Pascal had said before, "All of humanity's problems stem from man's inability to sit quietly in a room alone".On the "lonely" aspect of this topic, I think that could be a full on multi aspect thread all of its own.
Over my years of being married, dating, not dating, etc, I can say unequivocally, the worst thing is to be lonely while in a relationship.
It usurps being lonely alone by orders of magnitude. And frankly, since I really like me, being alone is just fine.
Until I want some sensual company which is a lot of the time
Good for you. I was a 3 times per week regular at those Niagara Falls strip bars where I lost my male cherry to one of those girls that was doing more than a lapdance in the VIP rooms! Got me outta my shell. Hmmm thinking of this perhaps it was the first step to becoming a loner. If I could purchase sex regularly what the fuck do I need friends or an actual GF for?
I can see this thread devolving to an incell thread. as for me, i like to fuck hot women less than half my age, if something doesnt appear on the weekend i find a pro, 9 times outta 10 something appears on the weekend, yay for the 21 year old girl i work with who I told any girls with daddy issues send em my way
It's great practice for improving one's skill, daty, gfe, massage. Plus you get to learn how to more quickly and efficiently evaluate people, whether they are going to screw you over, they are there for a good time, they want to come, they want to talk.
It is surprising how many girls want to tell their life story in the short time I have with them, sex and money is secondary in those cases.
No two girls are the same. For many, being a SP is their life, and their clients are their friends and validation; most love being worshipped.
Lots of girls just do it as a survival for sure, but at the same time they look forward to their time with a guy. Even it they have a shitty encounter, they know the next one will be memorable encounter and that will hold them over. Hope is a powerful motivating factor in not letting shitty dates make you throw in the towel and go 'normal' and get a generally socially acceptable politically correct partner.
So many girls have said most guys don't care for anything except to get off, then buh-bye, but there are keepers. It's a two way street. There are those keepers that use sessions to completely let go without any self-conscious bullshit getting in the way, knowing that they don't have to care about what the guy thinks about them.
Many girls I have as regulars have been so for years. Many that disappear for years and I spot them again, it's like no time has passed, and we get to catch up.
Another good thing is these short hookups are a very efficient way to allocate time for socialization, there is zero overhead in terms of having to worry about follow-up, the hours-long phone calls to check in, the texting and such that would be associated with a normal relationship.
The downside obviously is there are never any "family" photos of any of these girls that you can hang up on the wall that you would be comfortable for *anyone* outside this type of socialization to see. It is pretty much a silo activity that is completely self contained with no outside dependencies or influences.
If you relate it to the software world, 'microservices' is a commonly used idea that is probably a good analogy to use.
It is surprising how many girls want to tell their life story in the short time I have with them, sex and money is secondary in those cases.
No two girls are the same. For many, being a SP is their life, and their clients are their friends and validation; most love being worshipped.
Lots of girls just do it as a survival for sure, but at the same time they look forward to their time with a guy. Even it they have a shitty encounter, they know the next one will be memorable encounter and that will hold them over. Hope is a powerful motivating factor in not letting shitty dates make you throw in the towel and go 'normal' and get a generally socially acceptable politically correct partner.
So many girls have said most guys don't care for anything except to get off, then buh-bye, but there are keepers. It's a two way street. There are those keepers that use sessions to completely let go without any self-conscious bullshit getting in the way, knowing that they don't have to care about what the guy thinks about them.
Many girls I have as regulars have been so for years. Many that disappear for years and I spot them again, it's like no time has passed, and we get to catch up.
Another good thing is these short hookups are a very efficient way to allocate time for socialization, there is zero overhead in terms of having to worry about follow-up, the hours-long phone calls to check in, the texting and such that would be associated with a normal relationship.
The downside obviously is there are never any "family" photos of any of these girls that you can hang up on the wall that you would be comfortable for *anyone* outside this type of socialization to see. It is pretty much a silo activity that is completely self contained with no outside dependencies or influences.
If you relate it to the software world, 'microservices' is a commonly used idea that is probably a good analogy to use.
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Be true to yourself!! Hellz Yeah!! I've never gone for the conventional pressures of society as far as getting married and having kids. I've always known there is no way I am responsible enough for that stuff hehe. As a result, I've been to the other side of the world to meet women, learning cultures along the way and I wouldn't have it any other way. It sounds backwards I know, and I have no problem talking to family and friends about my views on sex. I love the fairer sex...ALL of them lol. Ok, honestly as I am getting older the appeal of having someone permanent to come home to, yet I just can't get over the permanent part, it's a 50/50 gamble that the other person is as committed as you to sharing your lives. I hate gambling.......
LOL - I wish I could... witness myself around this hobby... but with unlimited funds (only to dedicate to the "hobby")... and then offer to all a report on how I interface with such an environment.
It would be hilarious, I think... in that despite so many wonderful options, and a new crop of 19yo's arriving each and every year... I'd still probably select (or evolve to know of) 2 or 3 who I kept going back to.
The variety of the randomness of the street scene was one big adventure way back in the day, but once I first found somebody who I liked to keep seeing over and over again, it was like a light turned on... and the adrenaline became less from hours of playing cat and mouse with the police, and more from the comfort of our almost-arrangement. It was fun to feel/seem so fairly inconspicuous in the same world, surrounded by the big city lights and nightlife, when it was just me taking the same path to pick her up, and return to my modest motel for three hours of pleasant company.
It's difficult to reach that stage of shared comfort when you begin so hesitantly, feeling such risk, and then inviting somebody you've never even seen before into your car.
But what would I do with unlimited pooning funds... that would be the fun study to discover (for better, or for much worse).
It would be hilarious, I think... in that despite so many wonderful options, and a new crop of 19yo's arriving each and every year... I'd still probably select (or evolve to know of) 2 or 3 who I kept going back to.
The variety of the randomness of the street scene was one big adventure way back in the day, but once I first found somebody who I liked to keep seeing over and over again, it was like a light turned on... and the adrenaline became less from hours of playing cat and mouse with the police, and more from the comfort of our almost-arrangement. It was fun to feel/seem so fairly inconspicuous in the same world, surrounded by the big city lights and nightlife, when it was just me taking the same path to pick her up, and return to my modest motel for three hours of pleasant company.
It's difficult to reach that stage of shared comfort when you begin so hesitantly, feeling such risk, and then inviting somebody you've never even seen before into your car.
But what would I do with unlimited pooning funds... that would be the fun study to discover (for better, or for much worse).
"Variety is the spice of life."
"Sex for pay is cheaper than sex for free."
Why go to the trouble of dating when sex is all you want?
https://perb.cc/xenforo/threads/red-light-district-rld-of-geylang-in-singapore.200557/#post-1513805
"Sex for pay is cheaper than sex for free."
Why go to the trouble of dating when sex is all you want?
https://perb.cc/xenforo/threads/red-light-district-rld-of-geylang-in-singapore.200557/#post-1513805
I for me it was a rabbit hole. I recently separated from my wife and was searching for something convenient. Somehow stumbled upon LL, and it led me here.
I read a bunch of reviews at first and decided to give it a shot. I didn’t want to ease my way in so I started with Skyler Mack, then Erin love, and Maya West.
Needless to say things have totally fatking change to my sex life finally understand what everyone means when they say this is ADDICTIVE. Working my way up to Charlie Beckett (she seems like a queen).
Oddly, it may save my marriage if I can continue pooning. This community is great.
I read a bunch of reviews at first and decided to give it a shot. I didn’t want to ease my way in so I started with Skyler Mack, then Erin love, and Maya West.
Needless to say things have totally fatking change to my sex life finally understand what everyone means when they say this is ADDICTIVE. Working my way up to Charlie Beckett (she seems like a queen).
Oddly, it may save my marriage if I can continue pooning. This community is great.
Takes up less space and time then setting up an HO train set......
Although not very flattering to either party, this old saying feels like it does have some truth to it: “men don’t pay an sp for sex, they pay for them to go away afterwards”.
Ya, kinda bleak, but for sure there are times that a good chunk of my transaction value includes not have to put up with expectations, whining, relationship discussions, and all manner of drama, bitchyness, and uninteresting chatter. Actually with that baggage off the table, I find it easier to relax and just have a good time.
I felt that way in my marriage- feeling alone most of the time and disconnected. Wishing I was with someone else. It is a hard feeling. Divorced so we can go our separate ways. Now dating and seeing SPs. A few I have a connection I really appreciate the SPs who are gracious and warm, really be with you during the session. For me, it is about the sex, intimacy, and a little connection.On the "lonely" aspect of this topic, I think that could be a full on multi aspect thread all of its own.
Over my years of being married, dating, not dating, etc, I can say unequivocally, the worst thing is to be lonely while in a relationship.
It usurps being lonely alone by orders of magnitude. And frankly, since I really like me, being alone is just fine.
Until I want some sensual company which is a lot of the time
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