What is Your Kink

[Aeiyah]

Kidstone made an interesting observation in another thread which is a topic of its own.

I'm glad it's not just for BDSM guys. I don't know where I fit on the BDSM scale, but this gives me a chance to find out.

To start, kudos to Kidstone for wanting to cease the opportunity. I hope you make it to the party. For those of you on the fence, the only advice I can give you is carp diem. And I'm not saying that because I'm a Miss T fan. I see and believe in the vision that she shares with a handful of other wonderful people I've met in creating a sex positive community in Vancouver. She and a few others in the community have created spaces where like-minded people can gather to play and socialize without the cliques and drama I see in other venues. I would support and promote her party whether or not I was a fan.

To the people on the fence who say they are not into BDSM or fetishes, if you are reading this thread, that means you are at least a bit curious. And as Kidstone suggests, take the chance to find out what it is that cranks your engine. I've been to parties and witnessed newbies non-categorically state that they are not into kink or BDSM, and then discover during the night that bondage and being under the control of someone else was a major turn-on for them. I myself have discovered kinks that I crave that I once said I would never do.

So to all the viewers, and the lurkers out there, I leave you with the question, "what is your kink."

For me, I've discovered it's all about power exchange. Ignoring the age old debate about who is really in control, being in control and being under someone's control has always appealed to me. I willingly do things and enjoy them when I am under someone else's control that I would not do otherwise.

 

[Sit_on_my_face]

Hey Aeiyah ! This is a good topic. I've said in previous posts that I personally am not active in this BDSM world as some of you are. Some interests have peaked to the surface.

It's no suprise and known that my fetish is Facesitting/ ass sitting when it comes to this.

Watching miss jasmine in her new trampling video looks very hot. I can feel the pain just watching it LOL.

I liked it and thought to myself what it would feel like.

Honestly, being at the mercy of a gorgeous girl is heaven to me.

I would add trampling now to my library but again, still unsure on this. Maybe as time goes on I'll build up the nerve to try something else.

Thats my contribution.

 

[Sit_on_my_face]

Wow, 73 views and only 1 respond. Talk about trying to keep the BDSM section going eh!!!

You know ladies, you can tell us what your kinks are too.

 

[DominaPandora]

CBT, edge play (fear), flogging, caning, cropping....generally anything sadistic. -grins-

When I occassionally find the right dom, I also love recieving a heavy flogging. I'm rather masochistic as well.

 

[WASP]

My Kink

I am ordered to report to my mistress and be wearing panties under my pants.
I stop on the way picking up coffee and a muffin on the way being careful to follow all orders.
I arrive at my Mistress place, she lets me in I hand over the coffee and eats .Then quickly remove my street cloths. After I have been inspected my Mistress she gives me a number of tasks to do, while she rest in bed. Once all my tasks are done, I knell by the side of her bed, hoping that my mistress may give me just a little attention. Once she has rested, she will order me to get dress and then to drive her to an appointment, once there she will dismiss me without a second glance.
I would then await word from her that I may see her again, hoping that she will cross some thing else from my rapidly decreasing bucket list.

 

[sonoman]

My kink?

(Sexy) feet.

Not really much of a kink as far as the BDSM/fetish world is concerned, but still seen as 'weird' by plain ol' vanilla folk.

Ah well. To hell with 'em.

 

[Small pleasures]

To watch and to be watched...

My passion of voyeurism and exhibitionism runs deep. It began in my very early teens when I read 'Penthouse style' sex stories in an old Playgirl magazine. Reading about and imagining others left me with a permanent 'scar'. I didn't realize for years that I was unusual for masturbating while thinking of others having sex. Not ME getting fucked.

I've never been the type of Domme to make her sub keep his eyes on the floor. I want him to see me.

I love having my photo taken.

I love to watch other people do whatever pleases them, which is why I think my BDSM interests are so varied. I really do get turned on watching someone else getting turned on.

Your fetish could be mine even if only in the moment.

 

[batdad9]

True Power exchange

My kink is true power exchange. I am not submissive, but I crave being controlled, usually non-consensually. In the initial stages, I willingly give up control, and allow myself to be bound, gagged, whatever my lady feels she needs to do as she pleases within predetermined constraints. I have no safeword, and I will begin to resist, usually when it is too late. I begin to think of things that I have not excluded from the realm of possibilities. Some of them I can deal with, but some will have been oversights that I really do not want to happen, but I have no choice. This is much more difficult for a top to accomplish than one would think. I have usually been able to escape or talk my way out of my predicament, either by persistence or guile. There have been a few times that I have not, and I have spent time as the ladies totally unwilling plaything, and it was terrible. While I was undergoing the torture, and for a week or two afterwards, I could only regret my foolish choices. However, I now look back on them and get strongly aroused. Some of the things that arouse me the most are things that I could never ask for in a session, but worked out very well if the lady had the guts to do them. This is not a practice that I would recommend for others, and in fact, I should not do it myself, but what is the point in giving up control if you know what is going to happen and you can stop it with a safeword?

 

[edmontonsubbie]

My kink is true power exchange. I am not submissive, but I crave being controlled, usually non-consensually. In the initial stages, I willingly give up control, and allow myself to be bound, gagged, whatever my lady feels she needs to do as she pleases within predetermined constraints. I have no safeword, and I will begin to resist, usually when it is too late. I begin to think of things that I have not excluded from the realm of possibilities. Some of them I can deal with, but some will have been oversights that I really do not want to happen, but I have no choice. This is much more difficult for a top to accomplish than one would think. I have usually been able to escape or talk my way out of my predicament, either by persistence or guile. There have been a few times that I have not, and I have spent time as the ladies totally unwilling plaything, and it was terrible. While I was undergoing the torture, and for a week or two afterwards, I could only regret my foolish choices. However, I now look back on them and get strongly aroused. Some of the things that arouse me the most are things that I could never ask for in a session, but worked out very well if the lady had the guts to do them. This is not a practice that I would recommend for others, and in fact, I should not do it myself, but what is the point in giving up control if you know what is going to happen and you can stop it with a safeword?

Whadda ya mean you're not submissive????....lol. Just kidding, we are all submissive to some things...we are all dominant over others. Your recount of "power exchange" as listed above is, in my mind, spot on with my own kinks. I love to award control to competence. There is a huge peace in knowing i am able to award it.

Not knowing what might be coming next, well that's most of the battle. Not being able to escape or talk your way out of the predicament either by guile or persistence, that might be the rest of the battle. I believe it takes a complex, complete, and competent Domme to ignore the pleadings of the slave while still ensure the slave's safety and, most importantly, Her own pleasure extracted. A wonderful combination to run into.

i adore You Mistress.

eddie.

 

[cuteeboy]

What is My Kink?

As years go bye my Kink seems to slowly change. Initially my interest was corporal punishment. When I was growing up spanking, belting and strapping was quite common in UK and I used to become excited when reading about Christine Keeler and Mandy Rice Davis, two UK Dommes, who were involved with Cabinet Ministers.
As time has progressed I have become more excited by the thoughts of service to a Mistress, power exchange, being controlled by a Mistress.
Recently I have moved from simple corporal punishment to accept fairly hard punishment with a cane and recently gave my virgin ass to Mistress Dominque
and her Strap-On.
Where does my mind go next - perhaps to a session where I am submissive to more than one Mistress or a session where a female submissive is under control of the Mistress at the same time as me. I have watched some excellent videos of two people (both female in this case) submitting completely at the same time.
I think what I have come to realise over time is that there is always one more fantasy that has not been fullfilled. As each Fantasy becomes realty there has to be a new Fantasy to take its place.
I am glad I have the opportunity to keep searching and have the opportunity to read what is said by others, both Dommes and submissives.
I have a long road to travel before I reach the end and if the years ahead are as much fun as those past it should be a blast.

cuteeboy

 

[PuntMeister]

You know that long list of kink activities you see on many dommes' websites under 'services'? Well I like those things. Except caning--that fucking hurts! So aside from being a pain wimp, I want the whole fetish banquet, thank you very much. Especially if it involves control by force of will, physical control, or seduction. There are a few icky things and boring things I don't care for, but otherwise Punt wants it.

 

[jeffrey_fortin]

My kink is simple

with a dog hood on the face, some padding that makes my hands look like dog feets, a leash that is on my collar and a dog tail where it goes i love to go in public night and be like a complete dog for the night, eat drink and walk like a dog, in a full crowd of 400 - 500 people the effect is just fantastic

 

[Aeiyah]

My kink is simple

with a dog hood on the face, some padding that makes my hands look like dog feets, a leash that is on my collar and a dog tail where it goes i love to go in public night and be like a complete dog for the night, eat drink and walk like a dog, in a full crowd of 400 - 500 people the effect is just fantastic

Every 2nd and 4th Saturday of the month, a couple of guys take over a local night club and run a fetish night called Sin City. I'm sure you could find a domme to take a puppy with her.

 

[AA_Train]

I read this thread a few nights ago a gave some thought to it. BDSM is really not my thing although I like elements of it my sex life, like spanking, whippinjg but usually only in small doses and I far more like to spank than to be spanked, although i enjoy both. iwould make a horrible sub as I'm not really submissive, just easy going and can be quite mouthy at times. And while I enjoy being on the giving end of anal sex (with a willing partner of course), my bum is a one way street and if something has to go up it, that's not a good sign Bondage is something I don't enjoy either because I'm very tactile and not being able to use my hands makes me very anxious.

But as I thought about it more there are two things I enjoy. The first is being blindfolded. This I discovered completely by accident when one day one lady, in the heat of passion, just decided to put one on me. Normally i would never let someone do this but 1. I had a solid level of trust with her and 2. We were on a roll so I just went with it. I found that every caress, every kiss, every lick was enhanced 10 fold. Sight is the sense that can be deceived the most, it creates expectations for how you want things to feel. Take sight out of the equation and you just revel in the sensation. IT WAS DAMN HOTT and I would like to do it again, but only with someone I trust completely otherwise I won't feel comfortable.

The other thing I enjoy is biting and nibbling. Again, I enjoy giving more than receiving. Finding this kink led me to developing a neck fetish, especially for long, pale, slender necks (but all necks are good). I am also equipt with a set of fangs and when I bite into a woman's neck, IT'S HEAVEN. I enjoy being bitten and nibbled on one particular part of the body, although I won't reveal where but I will say it's above the waist and if any woman on this board who knows or meets me finds it, I think they'll be pleasantly surprised .

 

[afterthought]

Various kinks and fantasies...

...generally revolving around being tied up and at the mercy of a dominant woman (or two). I love the idea of being kidnapped and held against my will, being teased, tormented, and tortured for her amusement; I love the idea of being overpowered and physically controlled. I absolutely must experience Miss T's vacuum bed some day soon, be it part of another scene or simply a scene unto itself. Restraint is obviously a big turn on for me (I love being bound and gagged), as is sensation play. I'm not really a pain slut, but I do like pain in the context of sensation play. As much as I love to be able to watch her move freely around me while I can't move at all, I would love to be blindfolded, not being able to see what's coming next (as an aside to that, she could drive me nuts simply by blindfolding me and walking in circles around me in heels on a hardwood floor. Maybe the next step beyond that would be earplugs, too...). I could go on, but I won't.
The most important thing, though, is that she is enjoying doing these things to me (or, in the case of tease, not doing things to me). Yes, of course I like this type of attention being paid me, but if she's not into it, it's pretty much an exercise in frustration (and not the good kind of frustration).

afterthought

 

[edmontonsubbie]

is such...

...generally revolving around being tied up and at the mercy of a dominant woman (or two). I love the idea of being kidnapped and held against my will, being teased, tormented, and tortured for her amusement; I love the idea of being overpowered and physically controlled. I absolutely must experience Miss T's vacuum bed some day soon, be it part of another scene or simply a scene unto itself. Restraint is obviously a big turn on for me (I love being bound and gagged), as is sensation play. I'm not really a pain slut, but I do like pain in the context of sensation play. As much as I love to be able to watch her move freely around me while I can't move at all, I would love to be blindfolded, not being able to see what's coming next (as an aside to that, she could drive me nuts simply by blindfolding me and walking in circles around me in heels on a hardwood floor. Maybe the next step beyond that would be earplugs, too...). I could go on, but I won't.
The most important thing, though, is that she is enjoying doing these things to me (or, in the case of tease, not doing things to me). Yes, of course I like this type of attention being paid me, but if she's not into it, it's pretty much an exercise in frustration (and not the good kind of frustration).

afterthought

...a detailed description of a fantasy "feedback" or "topping from the bottom"?

my money is on "feedback". How the hell can She know what to award you if She doesn't know what you like? Sort of like bowling blindfolded. And, surely, every good slave deserves a reward now and again. Slaves of the world...unite!

O.k., i'm rambling...i will go on to post the question that brought me to this crazy place. afterthought, you communicate so well you make me laugh, thanks man.

eddie.

 

[Aeiyah]

...a detailed description of a fantasy "feedback" or "topping from the bottom"?

my money is on "feedback". How the hell can She know what to award you if She doesn't know what you like? Sort of like bowling blindfolded. And, surely, every good slave deserves a reward now and again. Slaves of the world...unite!

It can be a fine line. Sometimes I find it hard to avoid the temptation of topping from the bottom. All the kinky ideas running through your mind, wanting to tell your top what you want to try instead of letting the top pick what he/she wants to do.

 

[edmontonsubbie]

i would say....

It can be a fine line. Sometimes I find it hard to avoid the temptation of topping from the bottom. All the kinky ideas running through your mind, wanting to tell your top what you want to try instead of letting the top pick what he/she wants to do.

...without bragging...but that would be foolish. Obviously i am bragging and proud to brag. i have run into a Top who doesn't much give a shit about what i may want. She just details what She wants....if it doesn't fit my view of the world...too bad.

i have revealed all of my intimate and odd kinks. my revelations are over. Now i just exist in Her control. And, back to bragging, that's a cooooool place to be. Every day brings a surprise. Or, i suppose, a disappointment. It depends on how much stock you set in having your kinks fulfilled. For me, that is the definition of "topping from the bottom", when you expect your kinks and needs to be looked after. It is a game of patience, a game of trust. Some of my kinks may never be fulfilled...but...i trust Her completely. All of that....equals...satisfaction.

eddiewhoispuzzlingoveraproblembuthavingabeerashewaspermittedtodoso.

 

[afterthought]

...a detailed description of a fantasy "feedback" or "topping from the bottom"?

my money is on "feedback". How the hell can She know what to award you if She doesn't know what you like? Sort of like bowling blindfolded. And, surely, every good slave deserves a reward now and again. Slaves of the world...unite!

O.k., i'm rambling...i will go on to post the question that brought me to this crazy place. afterthought, you communicate so well you make me laugh, thanks man.

eddie.

Well, I certainly hope I don't "top from the bottom." I'm not one much for 'scripts' while playing, preferring to just let things go where they go. If she knows exactly what she's going to do with me ahead of time, that's fine, but I don't necessarily need to know. I will, after all, eventually find out...

afterthought

 

[edmontonsubbie]

Well, I certainly hope I don't "top from the bottom." I'm not one much for 'scripts' while playing, preferring to just let things go where they go. If she knows exactly what she's going to do with me ahead of time, that's fine, but I don't necessarily need to know. I will, after all, eventually find out...

afterthought

nah...you don't top from the bottom. That comes clear in your posts. you "get it"....there's a happy Mistress in your future.

i was and am...just rambling.

eddie.