What does "I will make it up to you" mean?

[Mutt66]

I'll agree with Elmore and state that this is a grossly naive expectation here.

I guess I should clarify my statement. IF an SP were to offer something off the menu (and I repeat IF), those could be possibilities. I certainly wouldn't be expecting it. In this situation, this is a moot point anyways because those services are already on the menu.

 

[Jessica James]

I don't know you mutt and I wish you the best . You are entitled to your opinions and also your fantasy . This is how I interpret your " extras" comment .

Yes indeed there are ladies so wounded and feel no value or self love that they will sacrifice their own health and safety because she has some irrational need to please others all the while hurting herself terribly .

This is how I see mileage may vary or YMMV ..... Like really your mileage varies lolol ? How varied is it ? If a sex worker decided ill slip the condom off for him this time so he will be happy , but oh man I feel so shitty about it so I will get high and drunk then oops I missed more appointments so ill slip the condom off for him to. That's how I see this fantasy game played out . Do you really want a play for pay individual to give you something special ? REALLY? ( and I know this isn't what your talking about ) I'm just widening the scope of how this deal can also go down . Have fun and please stay rational

 

[PlayfulAlex]

Yes, I can see the 'I will make it up to you' statement can build expectations for something special. When the lady leaves it open like that, then the client's imagination can come up with all sorts of expectations that will likely not materialize. One legitimate expectation that hasn't been mentioned is that she should make it a priority not to cancel again on the make-up appointment. Life can get in the way ONCE and most good clients would go with the flow if treated pleasantly, but I think it may be reasonable to expect she would take measures to ensure life would not get in the way on the re-booked appointment (except for things like sudden emergency life-threatening situations). But if she cancels a second time because she forgot she had a hair appointment, then on the flake list she goes.

I also think it's valuable to distinguish between a cancellation and a no-show. While I agree that it would be very bad etiquette to cancel the make-up appointment, life really can get in the way of our best-laid (no pun intended) plans.

I am in communication with two individuals who have booked, and subsequently cancelled, appointments between 3-10 times already. Now, you might say, put these losers on your DNA (ie. do not answer, for the newbies) list.

While I don't like getting ready for an appointment that doesn't happen anymore than the next lady, these cancellations have come in at least 24-hours before the scheduled appointment time. One of the fellas is a repeat visitor, who has a complicated life. The other fella will be a newcomer, if he ever shows up.

For me, the confirmation means everything, and I have learned not to get ready until I receive that all-important call/text, letting me know that everything is going according to plan.

Also, if someone else requests that time-slot, and I say I'm busy, only to have the appointment cancelled, I will feel better if I at least checked with #2 caller to see if he'd like me to contact him, if I have a cancellation.

I've learned the hard way to be prepared for almost everything, and I'm sure you fellas have done your best to do so also. Sometimes, these situations are just unpredictable, and you gotta roll with it. But you would never catch me driving for 30-45 minutes without a confirmation call, nor getting all dolled up and making my apartment spic-and-span in the hopes that __________ is actually dropping by when he said he would.

As a side note, for those gentlemen that want to call me from the office landline, and will not be able to confirm their arrival by cell phone, you surely can tell what a difficult situation this presents for a lady...please don't expect this from us. Get a freaking private cell, and figure it out!!!

 

[Elmore]

I also think it's valuable to distinguish between a cancellation and a no-show. While I agree that it would be very bad etiquette to cancel the make-up appointment, life really can get in the way of our best-laid (no pun intended) plans.

I am in communication with two individuals who have booked, and subsequently cancelled, appointments between 3-10 times already. Now, you might say, put these losers on your DNA (ie. do not answer, for the newbies) list.

While I don't like getting ready for an appointment that doesn't happen anymore than the next lady, these cancellations have come in at least 24-hours before the scheduled appointment time. One of the fellas is a repeat visitor, who has a complicated life. The other fella will be a newcomer, if he ever shows up.

For me, the confirmation means everything, and I have learned not to get ready until I receive that all-important call/text, letting me know that everything is going according to plan.

Also, if someone else requests that time-slot, and I say I'm busy, only to have the appointment cancelled, I will feel better if I at least checked with #2 caller to see if he'd like me to contact him, if I have a cancellation.

I've learned the hard way to be prepared for almost everything, and I'm sure you fellas have done your best to do so also. Sometimes, these situations are just unpredictable, and you gotta roll with it. But you would never catch me driving for 30-45 minutes without a confirmation call, nor getting all dolled up and making my apartment spic-and-span in the hopes that __________ is actually dropping by when he said he would.

As a side note, for those gentlemen that want to call me from the office landline, and will not be able to confirm their arrival by cell phone, you surely can tell what a difficult situation this presents for a lady...please don't expect this from us. Get a freaking private cell, and figure it out!!!

There is a big difference between those whose livelihood is mostly dependent on this industry and those who casually poon once or twice a month.

What you describe makes good business sense but probably isnt very practical for most clients.

 

[lars_from_mars]

I would never expect an expanded menu; probably more time or less $.

But be sure to let us know what really happens, so we can all calibrate our expectations!

 

[Cami Parker]

Good idea! I'd love to know as well...

I would never expect an expanded menu; probably more time or less $.

But be sure to let us know what really happens, so we can all calibrate our expectations!

 

[Tugela]

I understand the situations are not completely identical but I don't think the comparison is invalid at all. We're talking about the meaning of an expression and whether or not the expression is one that can be taken literally and result in expectations for something specific. Just as friends may decide to lose your number and stick with friends who don't cancel on you at the last minute. It may not be business but reliability and courtesy are still the same whether it's with a friend or with a client. Why would the meaning or the interpretation of the expression change?

This isn't about what we think she should or shouldn't have offered or what's best for business..we're answering the OP about what it means when someone, in this case the SP, says they'll make it up to you. My opinion is that it's not an expression one should take literally. Are you saying you believe it should be taken literally? And the OP should go to his next appointment expecting that since she said that, she will be giving him a discount or extra time or as he suggested, extra services? And if she doesn't do any of these things, it will mean she forgot or decided to forget what she 'promised' (if "I'll make it up to you" is taken literally, that is) him when she cancelled his appointment? I was a bit confused about your reference to her 'forgetting' and not sure what it had to do with this...Is this how you meant it?

So if that's the case, and he should take her saying that in its literal meaning, what makes my examples (with a friend or reverse situation with client) different and why would the meaning of that expression (make it up to..) suddenly change and become one where it doesn't need to be taken literally? Are people supposed to guess?

I'll wait for your response to make sure I understand what you are saying before I ask my other questions.. I may have misunderstood your post so no point getting into it more until I know I understand for sure.lol



And another thing I wanted to add, is that when it comes to this sort of appointment, one has to expect that due to the very personal nature of the service we are providing, there are going to be some last minute cancellations at times and whether or not the reason for cancelling would be legitimate in another kind of business, is not necessarily relevant. Some things are out of our control and sometimes there is no other option but to cancel at the last minute when the alternative is that either not all services will be provided (which isn't something most client would be terribly happy with) or she will be uncomfortable/not into it/whatever. So people have to be flexible about things. If it happens 3 times in a row, that's a different story but if it's happened once and she was genuinely sorry then I don't think it compares to a plumber not showing up without giving you any reason when you stayed home waiting for him. IMO that is the invalid comparison.

Cancelling when something comes up is fine, you are not under any obligation to the client. It probably isn't going to be good for your business if you do it at the last minute though.

The SP in the OP's post clearly understood this and made an offer "to make it up" in the future to preserve that relationship. That is not just small talk, she is committing herself to an obligation at a future date. Providing a service is a business after all (and least, that is what we are told) and keeping your word has value. If she tells him that she will "make it up" when she has no intention to do so, she will be running a con, something the client will figure out eventually.

Now, if she basically does nothing at that future date (or denies ever making the offer), she is probably going to damage her relationship with the client and the level of trust he has in her. SHE is the one who made the offer, not him.

 

[Mutt66]

.The SP in the OP's post clearly understood this and made an offer "to make it up" in the future to preserve that relationship. That is not just small talk, she is committing herself to an obligation at a future date. Providing a service is a business after all (and least, that is what we are told) and keeping your word has value. If she tells him that she will "make it up" when she has no intention to do so, she will be running a con, something the client will figure out eventually.

Now, if she basically does nothing at that future date (or denies ever making the offer), she is probably going to damage her relationship with the client and the level of trust he has in her. SHE is the one who made the offer, not him.

Very well worded. Let me make it clear that I was not expecting 'extras', but was putting it out there for discussion. It was, as previously stated, irrelevant in this situation because this SP has few restrictions.

I finally met up with the SP in question. Once she realized who it was, she gave me a $20 discount. I was going to see her regardless and was not going to bring up her 'make it up to you' comment if she didn't offer.

I'm glad I saw her as I had an all around good time. I will post a review at a later date.

 

[Cami Parker]

Thank.you for this follow up! I was especially curious as to what the outcome would be!