I have had female friends, smart and accomplished women, from talented artists to one who was a handful of years from being Doogie Howser http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Doogie_Howser,_M.D. who subscribe to the idea of "playing dumb"
The got-my-Ph.D-as-a-baby friend wouldn't even tell men she had a job, while another would lie about who did the remarkable paintings on her walls (it was her). It's like reverse-lying on your resume.
If a man is less attracted to you because of what makes you unique, interesting, and remarkable, it's not a man you want to attract.
However, I can understand their pain. As a misguided and sadly socially-confused youth, I joined the debate team because I thought it would make me more popular. With the average peer, holy shit did it ever have the opposite effect, but at least now they found me intimidating (I don't care if you like me as long as you're not trying to hit me), and the tournaments got me away from my incessantly nagging sisters. Plus you get to meet your own kind...the little splinters off the herd mentality that I prefer the company of anyways. However, within a socially inept group of teen nerds there isn't a lot of sexual activity (in my experience). I wanted to get laid, badly, since 14, and thought I saw an opportunity at the awards ceremony with some really cute guy who came with a friend and was kind of following me around.
He even sat beside me, which was awesome. Then came the awards and all was lost. He heard my name announced as one of the people who was up for team & speaker awards and he sat upright and stopped being so chatty. By the time 2nd place was announced, he was gone. Vanished. So I won a #1 base metal disc on a poly ribbon and a plastic trophy that have since been lost, but gave up the opportunity to spend sexy-time with a cute jerk.
Honestly for the best.
The got-my-Ph.D-as-a-baby friend wouldn't even tell men she had a job, while another would lie about who did the remarkable paintings on her walls (it was her). It's like reverse-lying on your resume.
If a man is less attracted to you because of what makes you unique, interesting, and remarkable, it's not a man you want to attract.
However, I can understand their pain. As a misguided and sadly socially-confused youth, I joined the debate team because I thought it would make me more popular. With the average peer, holy shit did it ever have the opposite effect, but at least now they found me intimidating (I don't care if you like me as long as you're not trying to hit me), and the tournaments got me away from my incessantly nagging sisters. Plus you get to meet your own kind...the little splinters off the herd mentality that I prefer the company of anyways. However, within a socially inept group of teen nerds there isn't a lot of sexual activity (in my experience). I wanted to get laid, badly, since 14, and thought I saw an opportunity at the awards ceremony with some really cute guy who came with a friend and was kind of following me around.
He even sat beside me, which was awesome. Then came the awards and all was lost. He heard my name announced as one of the people who was up for team & speaker awards and he sat upright and stopped being so chatty. By the time 2nd place was announced, he was gone. Vanished. So I won a #1 base metal disc on a poly ribbon and a plastic trophy that have since been lost, but gave up the opportunity to spend sexy-time with a cute jerk.
Honestly for the best.