What do you guys talk about?

604jbear

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When you first meet a new SP, a lot of them like to chat a bit at the beginning of the session to break the ice or after the session. Just curious what you guys chat about? Worst thing is when you have awkward silence, which has happened to me more than once unfortunately :eek:
 

diamondd5243

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Treat it like a date. Like a blind date. Compliment the lady. Women like to be romanced, and it's best for both to take away the 'business/work' feeling.
 

vhyvhy

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I like this thread already :pop2:

It depends if I'm seeing a girl from another country or if she's local. Compliment is always nice, they won't know what you like until you tell them.

If the girl is not local you will probably have more to find out about her. Where's she from? Is it first time to Canada? Vancouver? Has she traveled some where else? Which country/city does she like? What food/drink does she like? etc etc. Instead of just asking questions it's always good to throw in your own experience of the topic you are asking her about. 2 way communication is always better as you both can find out about each other. Sometimes I chat too much and forget we have to be on schedule :loco:
 

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Hello 604jbear,

I have a few go-to's.

- Their plans for the summer (or erm, the near future).
- Hobbies (sports, gym, outdoors, TV shows, music, etc)
- Real life pursuits (can be vague or not, depending on what they divulge and what you are feeling as well)
- Local eats (as I am still kind of an out-of-towner, so far all the recommendations have been pretty good)
- Local events (Jazz festival, J-cole was just in town, there were a plethora of concerts)

*On compliments* while I often do compliment a lady, I feel like those kind of stuff has to be genuine. It shouldn't be just like "OH MY GOD YOU'RE SO HOT rwoiajeiowaeouh", because not only are you stating the obvious but you're also coming across as an imbecile.

I am usually weak to a particular fit lady, their radiant smile, and if they have a great head on their shoulders (although recently, certain ladies have been giving me "dope" music recommendations and I really do appreciate that..)

Or you could just go.. "Hey, I'm new at this and I am super nervous.." and usually a good SP will help you to get comfortable and there shouldn't be any awkwardness.

Enjoy!
 

sevenofnine

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talking about sex is good,

do's and don'ts
so you don't offend the lady,

I find compliments are a waste of time, until you actually know the lady,
then you tell her something from the heart, that she has never heard before, she will appreciate that more, then gee you have a nice smile, or nice hair, or your pretty, so lame,


don't over think it, follow the ladies lead,
I mean some ladies want to know all about you married etc, work, others don't give a shit, or who have you seen before, your sort of history in this hobby,

some ladies don't give a shit about you, they just want to talk about themselves.
every lady is different, be a better listener then a talker,

if she doesn't want to talk that's fine,

get undressed.
 

sybian

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but careful.. you have those chit-chat-wombats who won't shut it once you start conversation.. thats when a broad oughtta be put in her place and realize what she really signed up for. just my two cents.
Four fucking posts and you manage to insult half the human race with derogatory comments that you can't even spell right.
.....and that's about what your words are worth....two cents.


Why am I looking for a rock to throw......oh right......Troll
 

diamondd5243

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More than half... but don't feed the troll.

This is a good thread.

On topic: more conversation starters are to ask where she is from, then as seven says, listen more than talk. It's kinda like going down.. pay attention to the cues and know when to change it up :)

Also, why are compliments a waste of time or stating the obvious? If the sample size of replies in this thread are to be believed, it's no wonder a simple compliment goes such a long way.
 

yvrvisitor

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I once said to a girl (that I had seen a few times) "you gained some weight!" When she said "hey haven't seen you for a while"

:lol: :lol:
 

take8easy

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When you first meet a new SP, a lot of them like to chat a bit at the beginning of the session to break the ice or after the session. Just curious what you guys chat about? Worst thing is when you have awkward silence, which has happened to me more than once unfortunately :eek:
Communication is clearly not your forte. :) If you have to ask what one talks about and you have already experienced awkward silence more than once ... then ... you are in trouble.

How hard is it to shoot breeze for two three minutes. You ask about her day, how she is doing, how long she is been doing it, how does she like it. Tell her she looks fabulous, compliment her on her clothes, hair, shoes ... No, dont start talking about her boobs or your own body parts. Talk about weather, her incall, parking, traffic......

I have had the situation where I had to face awkward silent moments at the start and I knew it was time to move to next thing and if it happened at the end I knew it was time to get going.

Also, remember half of the communication is listening. So shoot a question and let her do the talking. :)

T8E
 

604jbear

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Thanks for all the tips guys! Most of the ladies I've seen I've had no problems with, especially the ones I've seen more than once. Since I know a little about them it makes it easier to have a conversation. I'm pretty shy by nature, so when seeing a SP for the first time I do get a little nervous with the initial conversation. My go-to topics are kinda lame (weather, plans for the afternoon, travelling). Most of the SPs I've seen are really good and can lead the conversation. But you're right, all the awkward silences were at the end of the session, so I'm guessing they probably just wanted me to leave, lol. A couple examples:

Me: "So do you have any exciting plans for the afternoon?"

Her: "No"

Me: "Okay..."

or

Me: "I've got an exciting trip coming up next week to _____. Do you like to travel? What are your favourite places you've been to?

Her: "I don't even have a passport"

Me: "Okay..."
 

604jbear

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^ Lol! There's one massage provider that I see that likes to talk for 10 minutes at the beginning of the session. I should try that line next time I see her
 

sybian

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Can you tell that to Miss.... well never mind.

I am also very sensual and I love worshipping female bodies (but not in a sub-dom way). I will show you what I mean when we meet in person and tickle each other's funny bones.

T8E.
The way my work is going I may not have the chance myself..........T8E, I may just hate you a little bit my friend.....but I'll get over it.
 

ParadiseChaser

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When you first meet a new SP, a lot of them like to chat a bit at the beginning of the session to break the ice or after the session. Just curious what you guys chat about? Worst thing is when you have awkward silence, which has happened to me more than once unfortunately :eek:
Only happened to me twice with girls who don't like to talk or were too shy and it was terrible. I love chatting and getting to know the person otherwise you might as well go buy a realdoll to have sex with.

I know a lot of people on this forum is like "wow what a waste of money to spend the time chatting" but in my experience good conversation leads to even better sex every single time.
 

sybian

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Only happened to me twice with girls who don't like to talk or were too shy and it was terrible. I love chatting and getting to know the person otherwise you might as well go buy a realdoll to have sex with.

I know a lot of people on this forum is like "wow what a waste of money to spend the time chatting" but in my experience good conversation leads to even better sex every single time.
I second that.......well said Sir!
Although not being a forward thinker at times.....I tend to ask personal questions when the ladies mouth is very full....
I need to stop doing that.
 

tiger69

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My problem is not the conversation itself but how to move from that to sex. I don't ever have that issue with women I date, things just...move/progress naturally- no expectation, no time limit, but when you pay for 1 hour and the clock is ticking and you've already been chatting for 20 minutes, you start to feel the pressure- and then when your clumsy attempt at moving things to the intimate level fail to register, you start to feel real awkward. In the end it comes down to saying, "Okay shall we get comfy?" or something like that, but if I have to get to that point, my mood has been spoiled already- the fantasy has been shattered.
I've been lucky so far that most of the great ladies I meet up with are very very good at smooth transitioning, but that's also why my last experience, the one with Catelyn 7444, was such a lacking experience.
Personally, though I understand why SPs need to talk and establish connection on that first date, I also feel that if that is the case, then there should be a reduction , or something, in the rate during the conversation. If lawyers and psychologists give free assessment/first sessions, and martial art schools give a few free lessons to get things going, I don't see why a SP gets to charge me full price for the 30 mins she needs in order to feel comfortable. I remember phing up this agency once and they told me in order to see their girls I have to agree to an assessment/interview, which I was fine with until she said the assessment would cost me $150. ....!!!! For $150 I better at least get a handjob during the interview!!!
 

jamasianman

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Now you are just being cheap. You want free social time to be included? Then see her for 90-120 minutes. Time is money my friend, and no sp is gonna give anyone free chat time ever. You won't start a new thing, and you cannot compare hourly work with lawyers and shit, you are not removing your clothing with your lawyer and getting intimate in all the ways. If you don't like chatting, see an sp for a hh and find. Find one who is for just banging
 
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"tiger69 My problem is not the conversation itself but how to move from that to sex. I don't ever have that issue with women I date, things just...move/progress naturally- no expectation, no time limit, but when you pay for 1 hour and the clock is ticking and you've already been chatting for 20 minutes, you start to feel the pressure-" quote from tiger69

I am not sure how other SPs conduct their session/date but I usually like to start off with me giving a massage with unscented oil and with my ass sitting over top of their bare ass. This way I'm trying to relax their muscles along with asking silly questions and such. Gives me a chance to break the ice especially if its our first time meeting and then turn them over and start to play.

I've taken this lesson from working at massage parlours I guess.

Everyone's different and not everybody is for everyone.
 
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