Walking away from the sex trade

HB40

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I think a long time and he is write.
Whoa, careful there Larissa, you don't want folks getting the wrong idea...;)

I joke, because otherwise I say too much, and it's probably best for me to stop talking here because I'm sure I'll say things that are stupid and I'll regret, I already have. I will admit I was disliking you, but not so much for your controlling men, but also I could see myself as those men and the truth hurts sometimes. Keep writing please, I love a happy ending. :)

I agree that it's been a respectful discussion (and I appreciate that).
Me too, thank you Miss Bijou....although you never reply to my pm's and didn't even like the song I posted for you, I'm really starting to think you don't like me... :p :rolleyes: :)

And Pillowtalk, thanks, you know more about this business than anyone, your insights are always analytic and sobering. I let emotions get the best of me sometimes, but you are grounded and keep it real with a remedy. :cool:
 
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....although you never reply to my pm's and didn't even like the song I posted for you, I'm really starting to think you don't like me...
.....took you long enough but you finally got the hint :p :p :p
 

wet_suit_one

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Goodluck and Godspeed Larissa.

I hope that your contribution makes a difference to someone's life and brings you happiness and joy.

Whatever you do, do not feel down or put off by what some fools write on PERB. The internet is full of dumb people (smart ones too, but somehow the idiots seem to get all the attention).

I've quite the pooner life myself. Been out almost a year. Have a good relationship. Still, the drive for variety and new women is strong. I've always been a respectful man and always will be. I've always thought that sex industry workers (be it strippers or sp's) have some of the toughest jobs out there.

Anyways, you don't want to hear my blatherings so, I leave it at good luck and godspeed. May all your days be filled with joy, sunlight and hope.
 

Bad Santa

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Quite honestly I find the ramblings in this thread rather interesting. Someone once told me I'd get the sanitized reality if I dated a SP. As I read this blog, I realize it's the not the sanitized version but the reality from her POV.

What I find most amusing is this. So many people espouse the need to legalize this trade, to make it legitimate, to give these women "rights" in the eyes of LE and society in general. Yet, they cringe and cant' read the musings of a former prostitute. Larissa T is a crack head and later a male manipulator. And her later posts show that changes.

As I read this post and I watch her hits soar, I realize she's hit a nerve. Perhaps the problem isn't Larissa, perhaps the problem is the truth? A reality no one wants to face. This is one ugly fucking industry. And as much as some of us on PERB pretend it's not...it is. Here and on every other sex site.

When I read this blog, I don't see some puritan chick telling u how to live. I see a woman telling things AS it is. And most of you are just bystanders.
About 20 years ago I helped a beautiful young woman who worked as an SW get out of the business.
She also had been brutally raped and she told me her story at that time, so I've had a glimpse of the "ugly" side of this industry. You can read about it in my thread, "Square Pegs in Round Holes".

But I still fervently believe that the way to reduce this ugly side, is to legalize the industry completely. Larissa calls herself a "whore" because she's been abused and degraded so often. Maybe I'm naive but I think the first step is to legalize all aspects of prostitution and then will come the step of legitimizing the sex trade industry in the eyes of society so that women like Larissa are no longer victims and no longer see themselves as whores simply because so many other people see them that way.

Once society treats sex trade workers with the respect they deserve, they will gain the "self-respect" they need to no longer see themselves as "whores". That ugly word encapsulates all that is wrong with this industry and I hope a day comes when that word is never uttered again.

Call me a dreamer, but as Martin Luther King said, if you don't dream the dream, it will never come to be!
 

FloridaGuy

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Are there any pictures of this girl around? Not dirty ones, that's not what I mean. The story would be.....a bit better.....with a sense of how she looks. Fiction I am content to let my imagination create the characters, but this story is real, so I keep finding that I would like to know what Larissa looks like.
 

Miss*Bijou

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Are there any pictures of this girl around? Not dirty ones, that's not what I mean. The story would be.....a bit better.....with a sense of how she looks. Fiction I am content to let my imagination create the characters, but this story is real, so I keep finding that I would like to know what Larissa looks like.

I'm sorry to disappoint you but IMO if Larissa was worried about bringing embarassment to her family by being outed when she was an sp, I somehow doubt *now* would be any different. I might be wrong....but that is what would seem most likely to me.
 

sidara

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I'd venture to say that an experience like Larrisa's, is a very very very very rare case in this industry. Um The "blog" has left me speechless and disturbed. It seem's awfully contrived to me and some thing's dont seem to add up. Where are you from? Were you completley isolated from human's? Is this present day or past? Everyone is telling her to write a book, but there are some huuuuuge issue's goin on here. Writing a book would not be my priority at this moment in time.

Each woman or girl who enter's into this industry has a window of time they can do this job. That window is different for every one of them. Once that window passes you need to find way's to continue in the buisness. One continues because they get used to a very unrealistic income, based on skill or experience. This is not meant to be a career. It is meant to be a stepping stone to something bigger. Better. It is very intimate work and you can only share yourself so much. I like to take time. Woman who don't passed that window. In a guy's world, this is a dream job, lol, but let's imagine, for a moment, a naked 85 yr old woman wanting oral :)

................................................Nuff said
 

juniper

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Excellent post, Sidara. There is far too much romanticization of prostitution on various erotic websites, the lauding of women who first decide to take this step (sexual provision) towards financial and personal "independence", the minimization of the consequent losses including, but not limited to, all important family ties (see Ms. EmilyMarie's pitiful interview in Monday Magazine as an example), the non-recognition that the primary reason women involve themselves is for pecuniary independence and not out of pure desire to please (however many invoke "pleasing" men as the primary passion). As you so rightly point out, Sidara, the window of opportunity for SPs is limited and the income is unrealistic based on the SP's actual education and talents so many become spoiled by the attention and money and are heedless of the consequences.
 

Big Dog Striker

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I like the story of former high-class escort Annie Lobert who has changed the lives of a lot of working girls in North America's well-known adult playground. :) :)
 

juniper

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Much appreciated post, Dood, educating the public who read this forum regarding the details of sexual provision by women and how there is a real class division amongst them, the possible choices and opportunities women believe they have and age difference when entering this line of work.
 

Pillowtalk

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Are there any pictures of this girl around? Not dirty ones, that's not what I mean. The story would be.....a bit better.....with a sense of how she looks. Fiction I am content to let my imagination create the characters, but this story is real, so I keep finding that I would like to know what Larissa looks like.
I think she describes herself well. Black hair, 29, slender (says eats a lot, but doesn't put on weight). And she is Greek, so that is a particular look as well.

Deanna Troi from Star Trek is Greek. If you google greek women, you see other women with similar looks, imo.



and the real purpose of this post is to bump the thread lol.
 

jnewton

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If you oogle greek women, you see other women with similar looks, imo.

and the real purpose of this post is to bump the thread lol.
Fixed your post for you Pillowtalk. LOL

This thread deserves a good bump now and then.

By the way dood, tried to reply but your messages are off.
 

sidara

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My friend, dood. I work as an sp. I have for 2 yr's. Never had done this job before. I am single, have been awhile; I have a libido that's through the roof, was'nt happy with random intimate encounter's and I was looking for a job. I hate to say it, but getting paid to get laid seemed like a pretty good option. Im 39 and have plenty of work experience, to fall back on. I do not have a degree or certificate in any secondary education. My friend's and family also do not know I do this. When I started I thought I was supposed to make love to each and every person. Or at the very least, provide an intimate experience, regardless of requsted service. Since starting in this induastry, I no longer seek sex outside of work, or at least, rarely. The sex is better than on the flipside. And I have gotten plenty of T.L.C; which I miss as a single chick. Yes it takes it's toll. And yes, there is a fine line between sex and buisness. I think many woman are exploited. The number's we see are'nt even a factual number, more than likely. I just kind of thought that rather than encourage this woman to keep writing, perhap's she need's to take time to assimilate more into society. Her writing depict's someone who has been seriously deprived of human contact, socialization and conversation for most of her life. Yet she blog's???

We all come into this differently. Most know the risk's and downfall's. When money comes this easy, there is often a sacrifice. And it is often at the emotional, and intellectual sacrifice of one self. I knew that coming in and I've learned that going out. Im not sure how long it will take, for me to be able to solidly step into a new occupation. Im looking too.
 

Pillowtalk

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My friend, dood. I work as an sp. I have for 2 yr's. Never had done this job before. I am single, have been awhile; I have a libido that's through the roof, was'nt happy with random intimate encounter's and I was looking for a job. I hate to say it, but getting paid to get laid seemed like a pretty good option. Im 39 and have plenty of work experience, to fall back on. I do not have a degree or certificate in any secondary education. My friend's and family also do not know I do this. When I started I thought I was supposed to make love to each and every person. Or at the very least, provide an intimate experience, regardless of requsted service. Since starting in this induastry, I no longer seek sex outside of work, or at least, rarely. The sex is better than on the flipside. And I have gotten plenty of T.L.C; which I miss as a single chick. Yes it takes it's toll. And yes, there is a fine line between sex and buisness. I think many woman are exploited. The number's we see are'nt even a factual number, more than likely. I just kind of thought that rather than encourage this woman to keep writing, perhap's she need's to take time to assimilate more into society. Her writing depict's someone who has been seriously deprived of human contact, socialization and conversation for most of her life. Yet she blog's???

We all come into this differently. Most know the risk's and downfall's. When money comes this easy, there is often a sacrifice. And it is often at the emotional, and intellectual sacrifice of one self. I knew that coming in and I've learned that going out. Im not sure how long it will take, for me to be able to solidly step into a new occupation. Im looking too.
1. dood is on a 30 day time out,for those waiting for a reply or pming.

2. sidara, I think you have completely missed what Larissa's blog is about. She is not posting daily diary entries, she is posting an historical account of the past 11 years. She is already out of the business, she is already out moving on with a life with real people, and developing non-sp relationships. She is also already been into counseling and taken a new direction in her life.

I believe part of her healing process it to write down her history so I really do not understand why you think she needs to do something else with her time. Perhaps, take the time to read it from the beginnning to the end, and that means you start with the first post at the bottom, in August, where she introduces herself, then work backwards to the most recent entry. And read carefully.

A lot of therapists actually recommend journals for people to express themselves, especially when someone has limited experience with people. I dont see a problem with her doing this as a blog, when others actually came up with the idea it might help others, so I don't understand why sharing can be a bad thing. You know, when bad things happen to sps, typically they tell no one and don't report it. So 2-3 months later, the same bad thing happens to another sp, then another, and then again. Every once in a while someone pops up and says something, and finally others can benefit from them speaking up. I don't see a problem with one person telling their story.
 

Larissa.t

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Hello.

I write this blog. I live with Dood for a while. He is my ex boyfriend. He is my best friend. He tells me. Silence ain't no answer. Speak up. He always sais this. Words are louder than bombs. I write what I feel. I read it. I can see me. I learn who I am. Some write this. I'm a bitch. You bet buddy. I was. I learn why. If I control men. They can't control me. They can't hurt me. Is this good? No way. I am a whore for 11 years. I am an SW. I work in the MP. I am an indie. Who can do this job? A woman can do it. But not a girl. You are older. You make a choice. What about some that don't have that choice

Dood can't make a post. He's in trouble. Starts a fight with Mr Krustee. He don't care. He sais to me. I can't post 1 month. But either can Krustee. For him that's just good.
 

jnewton

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For anyone who has been following this, the last post is up. Larissa has finished her blog.

The blog has been one of the most moving and poignant reads I have had in a very long time. Men of the board, I hope you will take the time to read it. Please treat these ladies with kindness and compassion, the way you should treat all women. They give us so very much.


It's my new blog. Some people on here gave me the idea to write it. I know those people don't like each other now but they are both my friends. They will always be my friends. Each sees the world different. If you are a working girl I made this for you. Maybe you don't like it so you can find a way to a new life.

I know some like it. And I know some don't like it. Life is more.

Here is my blog. http://leavingthesextrade.blogspot.com/
 
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