Walking away from the sex trade

[Larissa.t]

And the "Mr.Big" is a long-time popular character from Sex and the City ...

You say you are a phone girl? Have you not heard an SP at a MP say he is my Mr Big? I use this name because that's what I think he is. For the men on SATC Mr Big is a character the girls want. He makes them swoon. Well this guy was my Mr Big only he was a loser. I'm not saying his name. It does not matter.

As for this book, I don't know it. When can I read a book? I am writing this because I am encouraged by 2 people to share my story. Maybe there is a SP out there than wants to go. She wants to leave. But she is afraid. Well she can see you can do it. I am in Calgary for a short bit and while I am alone I can write it.

You say I am methodman? This is perposturous. You think I make this up? Or you think its dood? I guess he can sit all day and write and work too. And other things happening now. I can tell you the last thing dood has on his mind right now is anything like this.

For 1 more week I will write this story. It will end when I am in Greece. It's my story. I don't steal this. I am inspired by Evelyn Lau. Mark told me about her. I readed up about her online. She goes from streetwalker to elegant woman with brains. You should read it. She has a book and when I can get this money I will buy it.

As for me using crack, i did before. I was not a junkie but I used it for escape. I stopped long ago. My bigger problem was drinking. I drank to hide. If you hate your life drinking makes it good for a bit. Now I have just one addiction. It's Haagen Daaz chocolate ice cream ;-). It's delicious lol. How can a girl not want it.

 

[Miss*Bijou]

Now I have just one addiction. It's Haagen Daaz chocolate ice cream ;-). It's delicious lol. How can a girl not want it.

Here's one reason. Yum-yum.

I agree, it does taste good.... but None for me, thanks.

 

[PhoneGirl]

@Larissa.t - Nope, never heard an SP use the term "Mr. Big". I've only been working the phones for about a year now. I really liked Evelyn Lau's writing too, I've read her book. Her poetry is stronger though.

@juniper - You can use any terms you want to define her writing, though you may find profanity common in conversation, in literature and educated writing, it's not. (That's just my snobby college student opinion, hah ) The sentences are incomplete, there is no debate about that. For example, taken out of the passage that I quoted "I think fuck it all. I will just die." They're short and blunt. You can say it's direct, whatever, it's just semantics. Direct and blunt both have the same meaning.
Regardless, I found the writing to be intoxicating in the way that a car accident catches your attention. You feel a lot of sympathy for the victims and can almost feel their pain, yet you prefer to keep your distance and find yourself saying under your breath "thank god that's not me ...." Though it's not eloquent or articulate, the imagery is crystal clear. I work with girls who have been in these situations, so it doesn't really faze me anymore.

 

[HubbaHubba]

@juniper - You can use any terms you want to define her writing, though you may find profanity common in conversation, in literature and educated writing, it's not. (That's just my snobby college student opinion, hah ) The sentences are incomplete, there is no debate about that. For example, taken out of the passage that I quoted "I think fuck it all. I will just die." They're short and blunt. You can say it's direct, whatever, it's just semantics. Direct and blunt both have the same meaning.
Regardless, I found the writing to be intoxicating in the way that a car accident catches your attention. You feel a lot of sympathy for the victims and can almost feel their pain, yet you prefer to keep your distance and find yourself saying under your breath "thank god that's not me ...." Though it's not eloquent or articulate, the imagery is crystal clear. I work with girls who have been in these situations, so it doesn't really phase me anymore.

+1 You really have a way with words. Well said.

 

[Miss*Bijou]

They're short and blunt. You can say it's direct, whatever, it's just semantics. Direct and blunt both have the same meaning

Blunt — adj

. (of people, manner of speaking, etc) lacking refinement or subtlety; straightforward and uncomplicated
. outspoken; direct and to the point: a blunt Yorkshireman

. Abrupt in address or manner: a blunt, ill-timed question.

. Blunt suggests lack of polish and of regard for the feelings of others

Synonyms: abrupt, bluff, brief, brusque, candid, crusty, curt, discourteous, explicit, forthright, frank, gruff, impolite, matter-of-fact, outspoken, plain-spoken, rude, short, snappy, snippy, tactless, trenchant, unceremonious, uncivil, unpolished


blunt - adjective
Definition: straightforward

Synonyms: abrupt, bluff, brief, brusque, candid, crusty, curt, discourteous, explicit, forthright, frank, gruff, impolite, matter-of-fact, outspoken, plain-spoken, rude, short, snappy, snippy, tactless, trenchant, unceremonious, uncivil, unpolished

Antonyms: polite, subtle, tactful



direct - adjective
Definition: honest

Synonyms: absolute, bald, blunt, candid, categorical, downright, explicit, express, forthright, frank, matter-of-fact, open, outspoken, person-to-person, plain, plainspoken, point-blank, sincere, straight, straight from the shoulder, straightforward, talk turkey, unambiguous, unconcealed, undisguised, unequivocal, unreserved

Antonyms: devious, dishonest, indirect, wily


- adj.

. straightforward; frank; candid: the direct remarks of a forthright individual
. without delay or evasion; straightforward: a direct approach
. honest; frank; candid: a direct answer

I don't know... Personally I think both words are similar in meaning but I find that using direct has a different connotation than blunt, which IMO implies something negative to most people, while direct is more neutral. That could just be my own way of interpreting and English isn't my first language so I could definitely be wrong, but to me there's a distinction between the words and I find it makes a difference in this context.

I would say her writing style is direct and that blunt wouldn't necessary be incorrect either but in this instance I think I'd hesitate to use blunt just because it can easily be interpreted as something negative. I think her style is direct in an honest, frank, candid and informal way I can appreciate and not blunt in a tactless, impolite, rude way where others feelings are disregarded.


Does that make sense or am I totally off in the way I interpret the distinction between the meaning of those 2 words...?

@juniper - You can use any terms you want to define her writing, though you may find profanity common in conversation, in literature and educated writing, it's not. (That's just my snobby college student opinion, hah ) The sentences are incomplete, there is no debate about that. For example, taken out of the passage that I quoted "I think fuck it all. I will just die."

I think blogging is an entirely different type of writing and you are sort of comparing apples and oranges. No one has claimed her writing style was anything other than engaging. I don't think anyone's compared it to literature or "educated" writing. Larissa herself has mentioned she struggles with writing her thoughts. It's a blog and blogging isn't meant to resemble formal writing, nor do the same rules apply. I guess that's why I'm not sure why you are comparing it to something entirely different...?


I find her conversational style of the "vignettes", as they've been called, draws you in and feel like what you'd imagine a conversation over coffee with a friend would be like. It doesn't bombard you with an overwhelming amount of details and information, it's just short and sweet and to the point.
I find her writing is simple and honest, it doesn't give the impression of having been embellished or that the person writing it is trying to impress.

The somewhat unemotional, light and detached tone is really interesting considering the nature of the subject and the anecdotes being told. I personally really enjoyed reading it. I think it's not a bad thing if it helps someone who reads it but I think even if it didn't accomplish any of that, it's meaningful just on its own.


Anyway, that's what I thought.

Regardless, I found the writing to be intoxicating in the way that a car accident catches your attention. You feel a lot of sympathy for the victims and can almost feel their pain, yet you prefer to keep your distance and find yourself saying under your breath "thank god that's not me ...." Though it's not eloquent or articulate, the imagery is crystal clear. I work with girls who have been in these situations, so it doesn't really phase me anymore.

It's not my intention to pick on you and I think you're probably mean well but I have to say that I find these comments actually pretty condescending and quite pretentious. Maybe I'm misinterpreting your intentions and if I am you can clarify what I've misunderstood but that is my honest impression when reading your comments.

 

[jnewton]

I don't know... Personally I think both words are similar in meaning but I find that using direct has a different connotation then blunt, which IMO implies something negative to most people, while direct is more neutral. That could just be my own way of interpreting and English isn't my first language so I could definitely be wrong, but to me there's a distinction between the words and I find it makes a difference in this context.

I would say her writing style is direct and that blunt wouldn't necessary be incorrect either but in this instance I think I'd hesitate to use blunt just because it can easily be interpreted as something negative. I think her style is direct in an honest, frank, candid and informal way I can appreciate and not blunt in a tactless, impolite, rude way where others feelings are disregarded.


Does that make sense or am I totally off in the way I interpret the distinction between the meaning of those 2 words...?

Actually, I think you have it right. That's the beauty of English. I was watching a tv program about the origins of English and in one of the episodes, the presenter showed how the influx of French words into the Anglo-Saxon allowed for subtle distinctions in the language. Two words can have almost the same meaning, yet have a subtle shading of meaning that makes one word completely fitting in a certain context that the other word does not fit well. I agree with you about blunt v. direct. Blunt has a harsher connotation.

 

[toms1]

Larissa, just wanted you to know that your story is very captivating. I just spent the last 30 min in my car in the parking lot after work reading what you wrote today. Now I'm going home. Lol.

 

[PhoneGirl]

The third synonym for direct is blunt. I really don't think it's necesarry to pick apart the definitions. It's just an opinion.

 

[Miss*Bijou]

The third synonym for direct is blunt. I really don't think it's necesarry to pick apart the definitions. It's just an opinion.

Actually, I think you have it right. That's the beauty of English. I was watching a tv program about the origins of English and in one of the episodes, the presenter showed how the influx of French words into the Anglo-Saxon allowed for subtle distinctions in the language. Two words can have almost the same meaning, yet have a subtle shading of meaning that makes one word completely fitting in a certain context that the other word does not fit well. I agree with you about blunt v. direct. Blunt has a harsher connotation.

The word nuance just pooped into my head when I read your comments, jnewton..
That's exactly the word I was looking for but couldn't think of when I was writing my reply....so thanks. lol

 

[juniper]

"somewhat unemotional, light and detached tone..." as stated by Miss Bijou. I was thinking about this statement; It was a topnotch observation on her part. As Bijou indicates, such a light touch seems to contradict the dead seriousness of the subject matter. On the other hand, keeping a reserve and some distance from the heavy subject matter makes it possible for the author to deal with it (the subject, her own painfilled life)without breaking down and losing the thread of the matter completely. It's one way humans deal with extreme suffering and its consequences.

 

[jnewton]

The word nuance just pooped into my head when I read your comments, jnewton..
That's exactly the word I was looking for but couldn't think of when I was writing my reply....so thanks. lol

Ah yes, and is not nuance a word of French origin?

 

[Rod the bod]

It's interesting reading people's comments. I got a sense that she didn't have English as her first language. I'm not saying that's necessarily so but it's how it felt and that may be because of the sparseness of it. There is nothing unnecessary there - nothing wasted and perhaps something about the syntax. Just a feeling.

 

[Miss*Bijou]

Ah yes, and is not nuance a word of French origin?

Yes, it's a French word.

Btw I just wanted to clarify that the word actually popped into my head - not pooped...but that's a funny typo so I'm not editing it. HA!

The word nuance just pooped into my head when I read your comments, jnewton..
That's exactly the word I was looking for but couldn't think of when I was writing my reply....so thanks. lol

 

[juniper]

Spooner--Thank you for this very informative and respectful post.

 

[Miss*Bijou]

I love it! lol

There are some great quotes in there... I really should have kept track of them.

This one made me LOL

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My pussy has power. Its like a nuclear bomb.

http://leavingthesextrade.blogspot.com/2010/09/pictures.html


But these women do the same thing as me. They make the man work and get a drink then maybe fuck him. But to fuck her he must pay for drinks and invest his time. He must wait. Yet like a dog to the bone these men will do it. And these women will be proud of themselves. They are smug. You call me a whore. But they are too.
Just I take cash and a phone call. They take time.

http://leavingthesextrade.blogspot.com/2010/09/riding-high.html

 

[Larissa.t]

I watch these women. It's the Vin Room. They wait for a man to say hi. Then they give him enough attention so he will buy more for them but this is it. He will keep trying. It's how the woman play the game. Give him a taste but never a mouth full. How can I say it? It's like if you are at the Safeway. You can get this little white cup of ice cream. You eat it. You think I want this big tub of it. It's just a taste. But you think about the big tub. You will get it. You can't stop it.

It's the game a girl plays. She will play it forever because a man is like a dog to a bone. He will always get the bone. The man is stupid too. The SP can thank the regular woman so much. She's the reason so much business comes to us.

 

[HB40]

It's the game a girl plays. She will play it forever because a man is like a dog to a bone. He will always get the bone. The man is stupid too. The SP can thank the regular woman so much. She's the reason so much business comes to us.

Dood is one lucky guy!

Umm, can we hear from Dood, just to say hi and for proof of life, I'm just sayin'.

 

[overdone]

Dood's grounded HB, read the other thread.

I miss Krustee, this female version of him just isn't working for me

 

[HubbaHubba]

................................don't stop Lar. Watching you sleep right now. And you thought your "broken English" was your impediment. Turned out it was exactly the opposite. You don't need big words to be "louder than bombs".

/end

dood not sure if you're aware of this....but you're not allowed on her anymore, Lar said so

In all honesty dood, I think your a great guy but you two really need to sort your stuff out in private. I hope you are able to figure it out and move on with your life my man.

 

[HubbaHubba]

I watch these women. It's the Vin Room. They wait for a man to say hi. Then they give him enough attention so he will buy more for them but this is it. He will keep trying. It's how the woman play the game. Give him a taste but never a mouth full. How can I say it? It's like if you are at the Safeway. You can get this little white cup of ice cream. You eat it. You think I want this big tub of it. It's just a taste. But you think about the big tub. You will get it. You can't stop it.

It's the game a girl plays. She will play it forever because a man is like a dog to a bone. He will always get the bone. The man is stupid too. The SP can thank the regular woman so much. She's the reason so much business comes to us.

Time for Hubs to step in and break this down since it 4 am and I have a lil time right now. It's easy to sit and sh*t on all ladies Lar in your generalization here. It's like saying because dood is the way he is emotionally "all men " are like that. You know how many people "eat that little white cup of ice cream" and then walk away without buying? Most of them.

As for your second thought on the bone yadda yadda.....The SP can thank the man and NOT the woman. Guys do what they want and it has nothing to do with women. They could have the greatest women in the world and they still do it. Go to Vegas for a weekend, it's funny...the married girls do the exact same thing, they just don't have to pay for it.

While I'd love to sit here and tell you how deep this thought was, I can't because I disagree with it 100%