Should I pursue/ try and seduce work aquaintance or not.

[WestVanMan]

Ripped:

Please accept these comments in the spirit of friendship in which they are offered:

It seems to me that you are at a major crossroad in your life. Clearly, this has nothing to do with the one gal. You say that you are considering non-sexual friendships before "jumping in with both feet". Clearly there is something profoundly missing from your life right now.

Do you love your wife and do you want to preserve your marriage? If so, take immediate and aggressive steps to assert that fact in your life.

If not, then you may wish to consult a family lawyer to prepare for the inevitable.

Do you have children? What you do next will affect them too.

Do you like the life you have now? What will your life be like after the house is gone and half your income goes to child and spousal support payments?

Perhaps some personal counselling would be in order for you right now. Whatever you do, don't be "penny wise but pound foolish"; spend whatever it takes now to sort this out with professional help - no amount spent today in an effort to repair things will be even remotely comparable to the cost you will incur should your marriage come to an end.

Good luck.

 

[contessa]

Hell no!

I completely concur with Westvanman. Let the big head do the thinking this time. Seeing an SP for satisfaction, with little to no commitment on either side, is a very far cry from the relationship you are talking about. Try to evaluate what you need in your life right now, not what you need to do abut the stirrings below the belt. Starting a relationship of any kind with this lady is tantamont to a nuclear explosion in your life. Do you really want to start all over again from the kneeling position?
Best of luck...Contessa

 

[kalel]

i say do it. you know you want to. so the wife will be pissed and take the kids, the house, and the bank account. but it's all worth it to hit a nice piece of ass right?

joking aside, as others have eluded to - seeing an sp is less risky because she's not likely to rat you out. seeing a girl at work who may want more than a desktop fuck might just show up at your house and be "friends" with your wife.

 

[edmontonsubbie]

Ripped:

Please accept these comments in the spirit of friendship in which they are offered:

It seems to me that you are at a major crossroad in your life. Clearly, this has nothing to do with the one gal. You say that you are considering non-sexual friendships before "jumping in with both feet". Clearly there is something profoundly missing from your life right now.

Do you love your wife and do you want to preserve your marriage? If so, take immediate and aggressive steps to assert that fact in your life.

If not, then you may wish to consult a family lawyer to prepare for the inevitable.

Do you have children? What you do next will affect them too.

Do you like the life you have now? What will your life be like after the house is gone and half your income goes to child and spousal support payments?

Perhaps some personal counselling would be in order for you right now. Whatever you do, don't be "penny wise but pound foolish"; spend whatever it takes now to sort this out with professional help - no amount spent today in an effort to repair things will be even remotely comparable to the cost you will incur should your marriage come to an end.

Good luck.

a "spot on" post. Well said.

 

[looking4alady]

I can speak from a similar, although not work related experience!

I was dating one woman for about 2 years and it just so happened that I met a second woman who lives in the same building that I do....the second woman and I went out on two dates, and each ended up back at my place....we fooled around...had some oral fun, but never did the "deed"...

Anyways, a couple weeks after I and #2 stop dating, #1 calls me and tells me that she received a phone call from #2 asking her if she knew me. #1 replies "yes", and then #2 proceeds to tell #1 how we went out on 4 dates (I don't know where she got the extra 2), how I had been seeing her for two months, etc. (a whole bunch of BS ontop of what actually happened). I don't know how #2 found #1 because they work in two totally different industries and had never met each other. In fact, #1 was almost thinking of going to the police because #2 stalked her "in a sense"....she called her at her place of work....#1 was freaked out for a while. #2's explanation is that she found #1 on the internet in an article where my name was mentioned.

#1 and I talked things out and I told her how "psycho" #2 really was and why I stopped talking to her. #1 and I are still seeing each other and things are going good. I still see #2 in my building, but she doesn't even say "hi" to me..we'll even ride the same elevator and she won't even acknowledge me.

So...the moral of the story is.....Never let two women that you are dating at the same time meet...

 

[Sixpak]

i say do it. you know you want to. so the wife will be pissed and take the kids, the house, and the bank account. but it's all worth it to hit a nice piece of ass right?

joking aside, as others have eluded to - seeing an sp is less risky because she's not likely to rat you out. seeing a girl at work who may want more than a desktop fuck might just show up at your house and be "friends" with your wife.

I enjoy Kalel's direct answers!! She must be a hottie who gives it her all!!!
I think Ripped is assuming too much! Lots of people flirt, and some flirting can be taken the wrong way ... or Ripped may take things too far and have to change his name to Ripped Off
But how will we know if she may want to take it to the next level if he doesn't try? Can we all be given the juicy details as he pursues her? Would liven this board up!!! We could have a pool Chilli, the voyeur, would get a kick out of it too even tho he is part time preacher .. haha

 

[Ripped]

Well I resisted temptation, some critical parts got misordered, and I had to go out to their warehouse, for replacements. She asked me to come up and say hi, when I was there, but I decided to keep it professional. I phoned her later and told her my time was very limited... which was a bit of an exaggeration, but not a lie.

 

[edmontonsubbie]

admirable restraint ripped. I'm almost sure I would have caved.

well done.

eddie.

 

[tianna]

checks on me from time to time

forgive my bluntness.....why, then, are you here?

eddie.

I am the girlfriend !

 

[Ironhead]

It never works out. IMHO.

In my vast experince with this. A few times. It is always ackward and hard to make work.
Worse when you see each other everyday. I am known as a hound at work.
And I do joke around with a few of the girls, but I never let it get out of hand. They all know me well.
We do go for beers, with a group from work sometimes.
Each person has to work it out for themselves.

It depends on the company policy as well. Most won't tollerate it.
Harrassment being a big factor.

 

[tianna]

if you do open the worms

you must tell her that you are married.. being led on or her thinking it can go somewhere when it can't is wrong I think..

 

[edmontonsubbie]

I am the girlfriend !

and here all this time....I thought you were "exclusive" with that llama....

 

[LaCreme]

RE "What UP!

and here all this time....I thought you were "exclusive" with that llama....

i am here too i am available for vancouver
Mia fox at carmenfox.com

 

[tianna]

nope

and here all this time....I thought you were "exclusive" with that llama....

the lama was just a fling

 

[edmontonsubbie]

hopefully....

the lama was just a fling

...you let her down gently. The last thing this world needs is another jilted llama.

 

[edmontonsubbie]

but....

i am here too i am available for vancouver
Mia fox at carmenfox.com

....are you a llama?

 

[Heidi_Starr#2]

Oh come on!
If she's hot...then bang her...
If you don't like her after...she'll just quit her job and you'll never have to deal with her again

 

[Ripped]

I gave into temptation

Some of you are under the impression we work for the same company, I just want to clarify, this girl does not work for the same company as me. Just a supplier for this project (different company).

So the other day, I went to this supplier to return a number of excess items. Did a little flirting, and I must say, she has a pretty hot body. This company allows their staff to be fairly casual in their attire. Her top was nice, a little low, nice boobs, and a great figure, nice eyes.

Her boss (A girl also, I went out to a business lunch with) knows I am married. No reason why I would not tell this girl the same thing.

So a nice fantasy, I'm 99.9% sure nothing would or will ever happen, but no harm in looking or flirting.

 

[hardup]

A good buddy of mine at work was nailing the receptionist(she pursued him) he was cautioned by his boss but everything seemed cool.
Till the morning her husband stormed into the office, made a huge scene and then got legal on his ass. He sued the company and my friend for Marital interference. My buddy lost his job as well as a good portion of his pension just 'cause he wanted to tap the little hottie at the front desk.

If it Flies, Float's or Fucks it's cheaper to rent it

 

[maroonedsailor]

are you completely effin nuts?

unless you hate your marriage leave civilian women alone - they'll call you at 4am, harass your family, cost you a small fortune and generally be a pain in the ass no matter how honest and upfront you are - There are lots of lovely SP's who will f**k you senseless and leave you to go about your life relatively undamaged. Understand you aren't paying for sex, you're paying for privacy and it's a very reasonable price.