Is this common/acceptable? Bitch, slut, fuck... these are ok right? Can someone enlighten me, thanks.
Saying mean things duing sex with SP
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Ummmm, you may want to talk with the SP about aggressive/derogatory talk beforehand... It would probably not be good for the SP if you just start talking like that especially if you have just met.
Thanks guys. From my experience, an sp said it first to me. So I was wondering if this is the norm and I have been missing out.
Respect and safety are HUGE for these girls. If you have someone that is "in to" that kind of talk, that's one thing, but I would say it's unlikely that most SPs are open to that kind of language without knowing that it's part of your fantasy IMO.
I don't like it when a Sp starts with the "Oh ya give it to me Baby" or any of that fake shit, so i don't use it either. Much prefer the few that i have found that are legitemately enjoying themselves
Glad that you have found one who does that. We might want to get a list of these gems.
I agree the half-hearted generic phrases are a turn-off. But without this kind of talks, what do you guys say to sp? Do you guys just always positively complimenting or say nothing during the foreplay or sex? Nice hair? nice body?
For those who say things during your visit, what do you say? Obviously, I want to know how much of a limit I can push without breaking it with an sp. W
Definitely discuss before hand! In your introductory email, or when you receive the inevitable inquiry regarding any "special requests", you may want to specify the type of service you are seeking so she can decide whether or not that's something she is comfortable with and be prepared to accommodate you accordingly. Happy play time!
This thread reminded me of this educational porn video on Erotic humiliation. . Not something IM into FYI . But like anything else as Cami Parker says talk about it before hand boundrys etc. What would be her no go area's
what is she ok with what turns her on etc.
https://www.kinkyvideosonline.com/K...ation-101-with-Aiden-Starr-and-Juliette-March
what is she ok with what turns her on etc.
https://www.kinkyvideosonline.com/K...ation-101-with-Aiden-Starr-and-Juliette-March
Thanks for the info. I will certainly discuss it prior to bookings. Just that most SPs use agency for the booking. The agency usually says no, then the SP just did it. I wasn't even saying or doing something blatantly humiliating but the SP took the slight hint and started it. It turned out great but my fear was inadvertently offending the SP. Well, that's why I am trying to find that unspoken fine line and figure out what the norm is.
I'd think it a smart thing to discuss (and be very open) the things you are looking for/interested in, with the person you are going to see... before you see them, yes... as.... <grin> ....not all people are alike, therefore.. there is really no 'norm' <shudder>.... ew.. all of us the same... how droll
Your session *should* be yours.. the way you want it.. but also be safe in assuming there may be some boundaries.. so <grin> best to avoid issue and discuss ahead... lay out what you are looking for/into... up to them to accept or decline.. no harm, no foul
By mean things, did you mean talk dirty during sex or did you mean just saying hurtful and derogatory things?
I suspect it is the former and I feel that as long as both parties agree, everything goes.
I have never really said 'nasty things', but yes, I have talked dirty and .... it was fun. But of course, I have everything OK'd by the lady I am with. Some of them can be .... quite dirty and I m down with that.
The dirtiest thing that an sp said to me was, "Ohhhh yea, I would love to taste my ass on your tongue!!!". Before she could finish the sentence, I had her face down and my face was buried between her butt cheeks!
I suspect it is the former and I feel that as long as both parties agree, everything goes.
I have never really said 'nasty things', but yes, I have talked dirty and .... it was fun. But of course, I have everything OK'd by the lady I am with. Some of them can be .... quite dirty and I m down with that.
The dirtiest thing that an sp said to me was, "Ohhhh yea, I would love to taste my ass on your tongue!!!". Before she could finish the sentence, I had her face down and my face was buried between her butt cheeks!
Discuss it like a business contract during texting prior to the deal. Alright.I'd think it a smart thing to discuss (and be very open) the things you are looking for/interested in, with the person you are going to see... before you see them, yes... as.... <grin> ....not all people are alike, therefore.. there is really no 'norm' <shudder>.... ew.. all of us the same... how droll
Your session *should* be yours.. the way you want it.. but also be safe in assuming there may be some boundaries.. so <grin> best to avoid issue and discuss ahead... lay out what you are looking for/into... up to them to accept or decline.. no harm, no foul
Yes, I do want to know the boundary where dirty talks end and the nasty talks begin. For example, an 'sp' declined to talk dirty as a service via text but started saying "fuck me" in bed. Well...... that's my experience. But would you say that dirty talks are acceptable in general then?By mean things, did you mean talk dirty during sex or did you mean just saying hurtful and derogatory things?
I suspect it is the former and I feel that as long as both parties agree, everything goes.
I have never really said 'nasty things', but yes, I have talked dirty and .... it was fun. But of course, I have everything OK'd by the lady I am with. Some of them can be .... quite dirty and I m down with that.
The dirtiest thing that an sp said to me was, "Ohhhh yea, I would love to taste my ass on your tongue!!!". Before she could finish the sentence, I had her face down and my face was buried between her butt cheeks!
