Red Flag Questions SP’s Receive

TheBellaRoseXo

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Tried to be inclusive of all three environments (independent/AMP/agency) and have heard ALL of these myself since entering the industry. 🤷🏼‍♀️
  1. The number one 🚩 cannot be posted here on Perb. We all know what it is…
  2. “Can we work something out outside of the agency/AMP? They don’t have to know… “
  3. “Are you working alone / does anyone know where you are / do you have security?”
  4. “Can I come over without screening / use a fake name / different number / book under someone else?”
  5. “Can we keep this completely secret / off the books?”
  6. “Can you sneak me in without anyone knowing / block the cameras?”
  7. “Can we meet somewhere isolated / private with no cameras or people?”
  8. ”Do you do car dates / public fun?” (Asked early on or first session)
  9. “Do you host at your own home / where do you actually live?”
  10. “What room/condo are you in before I arrive?”
  11. “What car do you drive / what’s your real name / can I get your personal number?”
  12. “Can you prove you’re alone / leave your phone outside / lock the door?”
  13. “Can I take pictures / leave my phone recording?”
  14. “Can I tie you up / restrain you / ignore listed boundaries?”
  15. “Can I touch whatever I want?”
  16. “What are your hard no’s / what won’t you do under any circumstances?” (very early on)
  17. “Do you ever make exceptions / Can I convince you to change your mind?”
  18. “Will you break rules for regulars / if I’m respectful?”
  19. “What’s the cheapest you’ll go / least you’ll accept?”
  20. “Can I pay later / partially / with a tip instead?”
  21. “What happens if I don’t bring the full amount?”
  22. “Are you desperate for money / financially struggling?”
  23. “Can I stay longer, sleep over, arrive early, wait inside, or just drop by?”
  24. “Can I bring friends, substances, or alcohol?”
  25. “Can I show up without confirming?”
  26. “Can we meet first so I know you’re real?”
  27. “Can you send live photos or FaceTime?”
  28. “Do you secretly like rough guys?”
  29. “What’s the craziest/furthest thing you’ve done with a client?” (Asked early on)
  30. “Have clients ever hurt you / do you carry weapons?”
  31. “Do you have trauma / cry after sessions / dissociate?”
  32. “Are you mentally stable enough for this work?”
  33. “Do you use drugs with clients / have you overdosed with clients?”
  34. “Have you ever been arrested / do cops bother you / how do you avoid getting caught?”
  35. “Can you delete our messages?”
  36. “Would you date a client / become exclusive?”
  37. “Are you new or inexperienced?”
 

ChromeGasCap

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Sometime #1 is asked for the clients own screening. I would walk away if I knew it was beeing offered to anyone else including myself.
Some clients have no self respect and may in fact be looking for that service.
So #1 can be used as a red flag if you know the intension, also how it is queried is also deterministic.
 

carvesg

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Most of those questions and requests demonstrate a lack of social intelligence and some of them mixed with a bit of paranoia.

A few of them could be qualified with worse terms too.

That's bad
 

MikeyLikey99

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I was expecting some serious boundary pushing when I saw the title, but I was surprised by how many of these made my skin crawl.

A provider I follow on her work socials sometimes posts screenshots of the abusive texts she gets when she says no to stuff in the booking stage. It’s awful 🤮
 

lukom

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I can understand from one angle why someone would ask the hard no's. Cause some ladies are wishy washy about their services and restrictions and won't mention that in their ads. As a client you want to know if you're a right fit for eachother. Im all about consent, this means if I know something is a hard no prior to coming for a session I know not to ask in person. Im big on verbal communication, I will ask a lady, "may I kiss you?" If wanting to go down on her, "want me to go down on you?" So by knowing a girl likes daty, but not dato, I know to ask if I may do daty on her and if she allows me I make my way there. If I know no fingers, I know not to ask her if she'd like fingers in there...etc there is Honey at PDC, nice girl, likes Greek, but DATO is a no on her, and since she says it there I know not to ask. However, I will communicate and make my way to Greek with her permission knowing that she offers Greek and something we discussed in advance. So knowing firm no's allows that not to come up in person. Mind you i do book 2-3 hrs sessions and book with the intent of returning, so I ask with the intent of avoiding to ask to initiate something that isn't done during sessions.
 

carvesg

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When I became a moderator one of the things that surprised me the most, apart from the fact nobody reads the rules, was how rude and obnoxious some guys are when they contact an SP for the first time. Some of them are now enjoying perbatory.
You and your colleagues have kept the site pretty clean after getting rid of 4 or 5 insane misogynistic members 2 or 3 years ago ... Some going after Blake (formerly Charlee ) pretty hard as well as ladies or members trying to defend her.
Since the clean up things are very civilized on Perb.

Understood that you are witnessing as moderator a whole different level of garbage with the messaging system. Best of luck
 

Forum mod

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Common sense is one of the rarest and most special commodities in the world. It's becoming more and more scarce as well it would seem based on some of the issues we've had lately. Both here on PERB and in the world in general.
 

Harmony-bc

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Sometime #1 is asked for the clients own screening. I would walk away if I knew it was beeing offered to anyone else including myself.
Some clients have no self respect and may in fact be looking for that service.
So #1 can be used as a red flag if you know the intension, also how it is queried is also deterministic.
It’s always a red flag. I will block somebody before I even know it’s a screening process used by someone. At best it’s an annoying question. At worst, ewwww, no thank you.

I only want kind, respectful, fun clients in my space. The question is my screening you out. Don’t ask it. Wear a condom and mind your ps and ques when reaching out and making a first impression.
 

Mr. J

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Really had a serious head shake after seeing some of those questions. If I ever find myself asking any of those questions (and hopefully I never do), slap me!
 
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