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Like the expression goes: "we're only human".
Question about my age & shape when seeing an SP
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Like the expression goes: "we're only human".
I’ll chime in with my thoughts before this thread gets locked, haha.
As others have conveyed it’s all about the bucks. And whether you’re a stud or just old and out to pasture, these ladies (the good ones who are smart) are there to create the illusion that you are desirable, when in fact in a civilian setting they think us assholes or wouldn’t give us a second look. Precious few of we pooners are in any way attractive to an SP. so from that perspective, we are all equal.
That being said, we’re all human and we’re attracted to what we’re attracted to. So if you’re a conventionally-attractive male (and not an asshole) it’s likely the SP will enjoy the session more than if not. I have been told this by numerous SPs in moments of candor. But that doesn’t mean there are not SPs who have a wider spectrum of what they find attractive physically; I’ve had conversations with those SPs as well.
My advice to the OP would be to be honest and up front in your introductory text or email, as I think we all appreciate transparency. So something like:
Hi,
My name is Blah-blah and I’m a 58-year-old divorced dad. With a dad bod. In fact, I’m probably a few pounds more than I need to be but I’m working on it 😀. I’m interested in such and such a service and wondering if you cater to gentlemen like myself. I would completely understand if not; I haven’t done this before so I’m just looking for an experience where I’ll be accepted for who I am.
Best of luck with your journey. Let us know how it goes.
As others have conveyed it’s all about the bucks. And whether you’re a stud or just old and out to pasture, these ladies (the good ones who are smart) are there to create the illusion that you are desirable, when in fact in a civilian setting they think us assholes or wouldn’t give us a second look. Precious few of we pooners are in any way attractive to an SP. so from that perspective, we are all equal.
That being said, we’re all human and we’re attracted to what we’re attracted to. So if you’re a conventionally-attractive male (and not an asshole) it’s likely the SP will enjoy the session more than if not. I have been told this by numerous SPs in moments of candor. But that doesn’t mean there are not SPs who have a wider spectrum of what they find attractive physically; I’ve had conversations with those SPs as well.
My advice to the OP would be to be honest and up front in your introductory text or email, as I think we all appreciate transparency. So something like:
Hi,
My name is Blah-blah and I’m a 58-year-old divorced dad. With a dad bod. In fact, I’m probably a few pounds more than I need to be but I’m working on it 😀. I’m interested in such and such a service and wondering if you cater to gentlemen like myself. I would completely understand if not; I haven’t done this before so I’m just looking for an experience where I’ll be accepted for who I am.
Best of luck with your journey. Let us know how it goes.
I was seeing the ladies when I was around 260 lbs and heard nary a peep of complaint or criticism. The 2 times I mentioned my size before a session, they both commented that they thought I’d be bigger and that I shouldn’t worry. I’m around your weight now, and slowly dropping down, and still have never experienced any negativity about weight.
This is all you need to do for a good session: pick someone with good reviews, be polite and clear about the date/time, length of session, and any other details they request, don’t do a tonne of back and forth in the communication stage, be on time, pay the rate without quibbling, be clean (seriously - wash very thoroughly in the shower), and be respectful. If you do all that, I can almost guarantee you’ll have a great time.
*sigh*
Again. Comprehension.
I didn't say you were being negative. I was pointing out that he wasn't concerned about his waistline he was concerned about being rejected. And then pointing out that your post had virtually nothing to do with the topic. As is you usual posting "style".
Well it’s 7:30 am and I’m seeing a hottie this evening. If I start an exercise routine and watch my diet all day that should make me an Adonis by then. Totally valid advice.
Maybe this thread could be combined with the Has an SP ever insulted you before?.
Hey, let's stop dumping on the guy offering diet and exercise advice. He's just trying, in his own way, to be helpful.
However, to the OP, I'll just reiterate what others have been saying. You're dealing with professionals here. Just be upfront and follow the two golden rules: be clean and don't be a jerk.
However, to the OP, I'll just reiterate what others have been saying. You're dealing with professionals here. Just be upfront and follow the two golden rules: be clean and don't be a jerk.
The 'guy' offering diet advice posts off topic, irrelevant shit in pretty much every thread he posts. The dumping is deserved.
And back to the OP, you studly stud you, you have got this!!
And back to the OP, you studly stud you, you have got this!!
I’m 6’4” around 280 lbs. I never give them a heads up. They only bring up how tall I am. The good/great ladies couldn’t care less about looks, size in general. They rather have good times, good memories in good company. Give them the best experience you can and you will be rewarded.
Yes this basically true, but it also might be nice to mention that you are heavier set if you plan on seeing a petite woman. Remember that your perception isn’t necessarily going to be her perception.
I’ve had several men over the years mentioned that they were heavier set & upon seeing them in person I didn’t find them to be very heavy set at all & rather just meaty men.
props for being vulnerable and sharing what I'm sure is a legit concern that many people have. from countless conversations with SPs, guys that would be considered 'model material' are the vast minority. don't sweat it too much.
i wouldn't worry about the age bit, as I've heard all kinds of stories and the main concern about age is if the customer is old and fragile, causing the SP to worry if they'll have a medical emergency during sex.
as others have already mentioned, to minimize the risk of being turned away for service for any reason, it wouldn't hurt to provide the handler/booker with all details. It's not necessary as most SPs are professional, but why leave it to chance i guess.
my preference is also petite asians and they've only told me that as long as hygiene is impeccable, they will find ways to work around size.
and if it's a confidence issue that you're having before seeing SPs, just need to do whatever it takes to put yourself in a healthy headspace. for me personally, i'm able to enjoy time with an SP to the fullest when I'm feeling good mentally/emotionally/physically.
also, sorry about your divorce. An SP bender will help ease that stress
I don't get why it's such an issue with some to let an SP know if you are heavier, older, a certain race, have a skin condition, have any kind of issue with smoke, scents, or really anything. If a woman has information before she meets you, and isn't surprised by something, isn't it common sense she would provide better service?
I think it's all about the possibility of being rejected. It's bad enough experiencing it in civvie life, but when you can't even pay someone to spend time with you, it cuts kinda deep.
