I had talked about an sp not being ordinary , One of the thing that make them not ordinary
is being intelligent . I would not see one who was not . not safe .
Here's the problem with your logic. You don't want to give out your personal info. Your choice, no problem with that. You feel that is safest for you.
Intelligent sp's want to protect themselves from unknown new clients, so as to make thier work environment as safe as possible. If a client is not willing to give a reference from another sp ot al least a phone number ( which is all that most ask for ), then what else is he hiding? So an intelligent sp would refuse such a client, for her own safety. No amount of boycotting would get these ladies to put themselves at risk. There have been just too many instances of ladies being attacked, robbed, drugged, raped by new, unknown clients.
Hence the conundrum. You want an intelligent sp, but you want them to be unsafe. An intelligent sp would not do that. So you are left with ones that do not care about thier own personal safety, which is not very intelligent.
You want to have a good pooning experience? Here's some advice. Use tools (like PERB) to ascertain which are the intelligent ladies that give the services you look for and have the attributes you enjoy. Treat them with trust, dignity and respect, and they will give it back to you. Build up a business relationship with one or more of them. You'll have nothing but great experiences, and will have a reference base should you wish to expand your pooning experience. Most of the ladies are glad to be a reference for a good client (they know that variety is the spice of life, and not giving a reference can hurt more than it helps), and that's all you need to open the door to a new, safe, intelligent sp.
You can try to go to extrordinary lengths to protect your personal information, but as soon as you engage in a transaction, you are at risk. Just because you didn't give out a phone number doesn't mean you are safe. There is so much other information that can be gathered before, during and after a session. The key is to keep that risk minimized, and finding sp's you can trust. And that's what resources like PERB are here for.
But go ahead trying to get pooners to boycott sp's that ask for references. I don't think you'll find many takers here. We don't need or want that situation. Most of us have had the same handle here for years, and can get a reference without any problem. You could be in that position too, if you wanted to.
Rubin