One of the most consistent complaints that I hear from my suitors and male friends is that they don't feel appreciated in relationships. So much has been done in the last 20 years to push the value of a woman to bring about equality - but in some instances, it seems to have been overshot.
Men often feel as though they are simply expected to do their share, without any gratitude being given. They will constantly compliment the woman, thank her for her share of duties, and really try to make her feel special. However, that seems to set a baseline of expectations, in that all the extras he gives then become expected, are not appreciated, and forgetting to do something causes grief, rather than receiving any thanks for doing it in the first place.
Are men really that simple? Honestly, I think people are that simple. We enjoy both creating value and being valued.
I feel it is important for all of us to show genuine appreciation to the people in our lives, attempting to point out a dozen positive things for each criticism that may arise. Gratitude can come in the form or words, actions, or any other way that is well received by the other party.
And the most amazing thing about showing our appreciation is that WE become so much happier in our lives. The attitude of gratitude creates the space for grace.
I'm going to go make my dog a sandwich now. I know he IS that simple! ;-)