How do you guys last longer?

[Banged_Up]

If you are willing to open your mind there are some practices I’ve found helpful.
Go see a tantric expert, there are a few advertised here and there. These ladies seem a bit more in tune with what they are doing. Make it known what you are trying to achieve. Learn about edging. Not edge play. Two different balls of wax. I’m coming to the conclusion that the cock, balls and ass are like the rest of the body. They need exercise but everything can be overdone. Breathing exercises help and I’m a big fan of the 420 to relax my brain.
The standards are there too. Rub one out at least 6 hours before the real show. That gives me time to rebound.
I use Viagra too. Yea it puts a bit of lead in the pencil and I don’t know if it’s psychosomatic or not but I do last longer.
Lastly, if you’re really ready to open your mind, try a cock ring. Keeps the blood there and makes your dingus look like a monster. Shaving is advised, taking it off can be brutal.
Take what I call ”pussy breaks”. If your partner is willing, let her know what’s going on. When you are feeling that tingle, get your tongue busy. Lick some pussy and take your mind off your dick.
Go see a professional dominatrix. They will scare you into not busting too soon. When you are bound up in shackles, in a swing, a dildo up your ass with a steel sounding rod 6” into your meat and she firmly says to you “don’t you dare cum” , trust me, you won’t cum.

 

[Finewine]

To last longer is simple, just before you climax you stop and take a breath
as pointed out above a tantra teacher will give you breathing exercises
but they also want you to tell them when your going to dum and they stop
another method is loosen your gluts stops the pressure right away
you need to practice. Lots on you tube try Caitlin V for sex tips and advice

three old but go to her channel it’s awesome for sex tips

 

[nmjoff]

Ask your Doctor ?

 

[PuntMeister]

Clench the starfish, aggressively. If that doesn’t work, think of ugly fat chicks puking and crapping on your face and genitals. I kno! Gross! But that’ll give you 5-10 to re-set and blow.

 

[worldshaker]

I WISH I could cum that quick. I've been saddled with "Retarded Ejaculation" my entire adult life. Obviously a mental block of some kind.

But the OP should be grateful he can enjoy an orgasm no matter when it happens.

 

[memyselfandI]

Foreplay. Lots of foreplay. I only put on the condom with 20 minutes left. I love DFK and BBBJ. It's the journey not the destination

 

[AMG-GTR]

Here is a personal, and true story.

Many of us men/boys discovered there was something very fun to play with in our pants during the onset of adolescence.

It’s an annoying/frustrating yet exciting time in life. I would use the bathroom and beat my dick like it owed me money.

I would do this frequently and would try to get “better” at it. Better, in this case, was coming quickly and also quietly.

This type of “practice” forms the body’s response and sets the stage for how the feeling of sex/penetration will play out in the future.

For many of us young men, jerking off ends up becoming more like ninja training than sex training and therein lies the problem.

The body learns that sex is about grabbing our cocks, beating it quickly into submission, and doing it all in secrecy/silence. I remember my parents or my brother yelling through the door “we have to go are you done?”. Moaning and heavy breathing was to be avoided at all cost.


This is one of the reasons most guys are like Ninjas when they have sex. They are silent and quick. Great if you actually are a ninja, horrible if you’re trying to be a good lover. It also sucks from the male perspective as the enjoyment is short lived

Thankfully, I sought out professional help very early in my 20s to overcome my “come in 60 seconds or less guarantee.” To be brutally honest, my girlfriend at the time was an animal and she told me that this was something that needed to be fixed unless I was comfortable with her fucking other people. I was not okay with this and thankfully for me, she was willing and able to teach me.

Since the habit of coming fast and silently was learned and repeated over hundreds of times, the solution would also require a significant amount of retraining. I think most people know this but feel deflated once they realize there is no quick fix.

The first thing my teacher focused on was breathing and being fully aware of where my body was at. After getting the hang of that, I learned to control where I was at physically at any point during sex and manage my climax accordingly.

This is part of the foundation for tantric sex. For most men, our orgasm is local, as in its concentrated where the action is. Through breathing, one learns how to move that energy from the core to various parts of the body.

Imagine taking all that energy you use to blow your load and disbursing it all through the body until your whole body is basically ready to explode.

It seemed stupid when it was first mentioned but it’s well worth putting in the work. Looking at my younger years, my abilities were quite pathetic and very amateur.

The good news is that I went from being a guy who would blow his load putting the condom on, to being able to go very hard for long durations while enjoying the whole journey.

When I’m having sex, I don’t want to be thinking of my dead relatives, doing multiplication tables/number doubling. I want to last longer AND enjoy my experience for longer. What fun is having sex if I am constantly trying to make my experience painful or unpleasant? Sadly this is advice I was given and is often given to many men in order to improve performance.

I won’t speak for any other men but in all my years of speaking to people about sex, I have never heard about someone looking for ways to turn themselves off or make the experience unpleasant.

Learning to last longer is a practice. It’s not going to happen quick and it can take years to get really really good at it. It’s worth it.

Focus on breathing and focus on being fully present with the sensation of how you feel and where you are at. Squeezing and changing positions help along with changing the speed and motion etc. When I have sex I am able to be quiet however I would rather get into it and wake up the neighbours. Haha

I’m not huge, and I’ve been able to have woman tap out and say they are exhausted or need a break because they are worn out. These are woman claiming they have an insatiable sex drive. It’s unfortunate that more men don’t get the right training since most men I meet talk about how much they love sex.

Most men spend $0 a year on getting trained on how to fuck properly. No wonder so many people are bad at it.

I was told the biggest reason for lack of willingness to get training or education comes from our ego. No man wants to admit he’s bad in bed or doesn’t know what he’s doing.

My ego has always been sort of negative towards myself so I’ve always been very willing to learn from whoever is willing to teach me.

Hope this post is helpful.

 

[masterpoonhunter]

Excellent post AMG-GTR. Really good man help points.
And I loved that comment about beating your dick like it owed you money.

 

[Chubby lover]

Msog blue pills

 

[cruefan]

I know when I am close and that is when I slow down or stop all together for a moment.

The key is knowing when you are getting close and backing off by edging.

 

[masterpoonhunter]

I know when I am close and that is when I slow down or stop all together for a moment.

The key is knowing when you are getting close and backing off by edging.

And
Not losing your spot along the edging scale!

 

[Ron Jeremy Jr.]

I know when I am close and that is when I slow down or stop all together for a moment.

The key is knowing when you are getting close and backing off by edging.

This. I also find that Viagra seems to numb the penis a bit and helps me last longer.

 

[charlie smart]

Foreplay. Lots of foreplay. I only put on the condom with 20 minutes left. I love DFK and BBBJ. It's the journey not the destination

I could not agree more....enjoy the moments no matter what activity you are enjoying with the lady. Don't get too overly focused on "lasting longer"...if you come quickly, just start the foreplay again.

 

[memyselfandI]

Excellent post AMG-GTR. Really good man help points.
And I loved that comment about beating your dick like it owed you money.

My dick does in fact owe me money! If it wasn't for him, I'd be tens of thousands of dollars richer! but no, Mr Penis just insists on finding his way into hot sluts...and here we are.
🤷‍♂️

 

[Gogito]

Practice Tantra, there are lots of resources available mostly the books of Mantak Chia.
Few rules that you can start doing right away
1. Stop watching porn
2. Masturbate often and a lot but don’t ejaculate
3. Meditate
4. Go slow with the penetration

 

[Gogito]

A quick trick to last longer - use a ring around your balls to keep them from lifting up in the body - this makes ejaculation more difficult. Also, as someone mentioned get a flashlight and practice ejaculation control with it before hiring a SP

 

[FreeG]

Some things that have worked for me:
- changing rhythm
- Changing positions
- simply taking a break to kiss/spoon/oral/water/snack/ etc, etc.

There are plenty of times I don’t orgasm at all (I probably have the opposite problem to the OP) so maybe my tendency is to do the above TOO much. And there’s nothing wrong with either extreme - probably safe to say the male body is less a mystery than the female body, lol, but there’s still a lot going on between the brain and body.

 

[SPLike]

Any tips or tricks? I workout and am in alright shape for the most part but I almost always bust a nut after within 2 minutes penetration. Wish I could just hold out to 5-6 minutes.

Man.. you must be quite excited. Go shoot twice then.

 

[Lefty]

A SP that offered a service to help prevent the quick shot would probably see some activity. Understanding and coaching and positive encouragement etc.

 

[SInCity67]

If I’m paying premium I’ll always jerk off before my session to last longer . The downside to this method is when you cum it’s usually a disappointment . Another truck I like doing is when I’m about to cim I pull out and start fingerfucking the girl /spanking.