Ever felt sad about losing a regular girl?
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I met my ATF this past summer. Saw her at least once per week for months (at $400 / hour), then she retired in December after she got a good civvie job. Gawd though, she raised the bar so high for me on every level that I'm afraid I'm ruined for everyone else. Our personal and physical chemistry was off the charts. Had a few meh experiences since. Would hate to retire from the hobby, but the thought often crosses my mind. Cue the violins, I know, I know 
I've had many regulars over the years, but I never really felt anything. Still, I lost my last regular a few years ago, and I felt bad, because we saw each other very often.
I haven't found a new regular that I like, so I'm open to suggestions.
I haven't found a new regular that I like, so I'm open to suggestions.
Yeah...she raised it pretty high for me too, the bar. I don't have the drive to go to another girl at the moment. Maybe in the near future.I met my ATF this past summer. Saw her at least once per week for months (at $400 / hour), then she retired in December after she got a good civvie job. Gawd though, she raised the bar so high for me on every level that I'm afraid I'm ruined for everyone else. Our personal and physical chemistry was off the charts. Had a few meh experiences since. Would hate to retire from the hobby, but the thought often crosses my mind. Cue the violins, I know, I know
Do you feel had the chemistry been the same for both she would still be in contact. Might be best to step away when such unstained feelings start to develop for a working girl.I met my ATF this past summer. Saw her at least once per week for months (at $400 / hour), then she retired in December after she got a good civvie job. Gawd though, she raised the bar so high for me on every level that I'm afraid I'm ruined for everyone else. Our personal and physical chemistry was off the charts. Had a few meh experiences since. Would hate to retire from the hobby, but the thought often crosses my mind. Cue the violins, I know, I know
True, it's likely a blessing in (a lingerie-clad) disguise. No doubt there's a lesson to be learned there...somewhere.
remember the good times....and smile....
Any normal person, who likes another person, is sad to see their friend leave, so no difference in this hobby....... As one now retired SP once told me, you just have to leave them be, wish them well, and remember the memories...... Right now I am thinking about this retired SP, hope she is doing well, and smiling, she was really funny, and made me and others laugh a lot, she was a good girl gone wild!
Any normal person, who likes another person, is sad to see their friend leave, so no difference in this hobby....... As one now retired SP once told me, you just have to leave them be, wish them well, and remember the memories...... Right now I am thinking about this retired SP, hope she is doing well, and smiling, she was really funny, and made me and others laugh a lot, she was a good girl gone wild!
Indeed....I even got a little teary eyed few days back thinking about the great experiences I had if I can be brutally upfront about it. It's all human nature...you can feel connected to a girl through a convo and this is taking to another level, especially with a regular chick, so it's natural to feel something.
I know how you feel bro.
Was seeing a regular for almost a year. I had my best experiences with her and really explored alot sexually with her that I haven't done with other girls. Everytime I saw her too, it was a liberating experience. I ended up really liking her. But all good things do eventually come to an end. Suffice to say she has moved on. I got teary eyed too. Like you, I wish her the best in life, and hope to maybe hear back from her one day under different circumstances.
But take this hobby for what it is. It sucks that getting attached can lead to being hurt. You might be sad about it now, but eventually you'll move on and realize that those were great memories you had with her.
And hey, just be glad that you were able to build a connection and get to know someone well in the end.
Was seeing a regular for almost a year. I had my best experiences with her and really explored alot sexually with her that I haven't done with other girls. Everytime I saw her too, it was a liberating experience. I ended up really liking her. But all good things do eventually come to an end. Suffice to say she has moved on. I got teary eyed too. Like you, I wish her the best in life, and hope to maybe hear back from her one day under different circumstances.
But take this hobby for what it is. It sucks that getting attached can lead to being hurt. You might be sad about it now, but eventually you'll move on and realize that those were great memories you had with her.
And hey, just be glad that you were able to build a connection and get to know someone well in the end.
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Yeah I echo the sentiments from most of the comments. I found my regular sp and saw her for years.... even though it was client/ sp relationship hard not to develop emotional feelings. Emotional connection with GFE experience can be become quite developed over time in an intimate relationship. Said when it ends . I guess better to found the joy than not at all. You always end up comparing experiences with other sp’s and the never seem to measure up but as they say..... there is light and sunshine after a storm ends. My regular unfortunately got into substance abuse so it was hard to see her like that. Time heals Superhorny ....
Being kicked to the curb hurts. My atf flat out told me."i don't like you". I didn't know "that was a thing" I was kind of like ...."i think you just broke the rules hun. that's not what I'm paying for". However, I guess you have to be philosophical and tell yourself you got the full girlfriend experience.
Interesting read. I’m from the prairies and understand what you guys are going through. We have a very cold climate here and any beautiful woman can only take our big chill for so long. The crew out on the coast are the benifactors of our chill. My ATF moved out to the coast to establish a normal lifestyle. She was what any guy would love to come home to. Do I miss her? DAILY!! She captured my like button the first few minutes I met her. She brings memories of Spring every time I think of her. A wonderful Moroccan Beauty.
A flight out west is hot on the list even if it’s to remind me of a wonderful Spring.
A flight out west is hot on the list even if it’s to remind me of a wonderful Spring.
I've been ghosted despite spending holidays with an SP and her inner circle. Either retirement, got married, deported, move to management, etc or just moving on it happens. Hard to be upset at a lady who wants to completely close and forget this chapter in her life. Tough when you have feelings and your bound to after enough time together. Once an SP asked me to marry her to help her stay in the US after a short time together, when I said no she never spoke to me again. At least y'all left on a positive note so its not like you screwed up or something.
I know I still miss a few special ladies, SP or not in my life. It sucks ass. Feels like a part of you is missing. Feels empty in a certain way. Whats helped me with losing an SP or just anyone is realizing this phrase below.
"At least you'll always have those great moments stay with you and no one can take that from you. And you may not like it now but you can build new moments with another. All our lives we're building moments hoping more good moments out way the bad."
Good luck to ya Superhonry :tea:
Good topic. Many people can relate.
But in this particular case, why do you think it was about you? What is so unusual about an SP being away or otherwise taking some time off (two weeks, a month, whatever) and not taking her work with her? You didn't think twice about taking a two week break for yourself, yet going into a full panic mode when she hasn't replied for 4 days. And you had no indication she's working but ignoring you, right?
It's ok to vent on PERB, I suppose. But when communicating with the SP, better make an effort to not appear needy or dramatic. You don't want to create a problem when there was none.
And to drive home from the other side of the equation, I don't advertise when I'm taking time off because there are too many strangers who know my address and I don't need people to know when my place is abandoned.
Take a deep breath. You were gone for two weeks once, right?
It's all gonna be okay in the end.
Should I get back to her in few weeks and ask if she is back to working again? Would that be a good idea or just leave it as is.
