Do you feel a difference in quality between paid sex, hook ups, and relationships?

[Dick Ford]

I like this question. I have never had a a one night stand as it's not my thing, I lost my V card to a friends with benefits situation to a wonderful man I met on a fetish site (that is the only fwb situation I had) and I have had two long term relationships (outside of the hobby). I think at the end of the day the difference in quality and intimacy boils down to chemistry regardless of the "relationship". For example one of my long term relationships was a bit of a joke most of the time there was no real quality or intimacy, a lot of the time it felt forced, going through the motions of being in a "serious relationship". The other one however was great, every time we were "together" felt energized, passionate, carnal and liberating. I have been with men in the hobby that didn't like kissing, talking, cuddling or the lights on... safe to say I could have been any ransom lady and it wouldn't have made a difference, then there are the gents that made me feel as if I could fly, the ones that text me later and with just a message I am tingling in anticipation. Then of course the fwb, maybe bias as he was my first, but every time was new and exciting even the things we had already done, every touch electric and every smile or eye twinkle exhilarating! So do I feel a difference in quality and intimacy basised on the circumstances of our meeting, no I do not, I notice a difference on whether we have chemistry and whether we were simply just meant to be "entangled". I look forward to reading other thoughts on the matter

Xo
Katey

Gotta agree with this in many ways. A good connection and the sex that follows can spring from any type of relationship, but it helps if both are feeling it equally, and that can happen with or without money being exchanged. People can conect any number of ways, and a spark is always a spark.

 

[Shanghai]

can you feel the difference in quality and intimacy when it comes to paid sex, random one night stands, friends with benefits, and long term relationships?

The perception of "quality" changes over time. It is accumulative, subjective, and hopefully, you don't get stuck in a rut. Each succeeding interaction you learn something; not all are better than the last. Shitty encounters are learning opportunities too as long as you get back up on the horse and don't let it get to you.

It's like traveling, you gain different perspectives and a wider world view. Variety contributes to the maturing process and your standards continually get higher.

The fantastic memory of a one-night stand can be dimmed after a few years of banging talented ho's, done some threesomes, and played out whatever other fantasies that were on your bucket list. Same with a long-term relationship that was fabulous at one point, then they fail over time.

I am SOOO looking forward to a 4-way midget orgy on a private airplane on the way to the Alps.

 

[Miss Hunter]

Sex with someone you truly connect with on a multitude of different levels is best. Whether this falls into the category of paid sex, a hookup, or relationship is moot.

 

[Miss Hunter]

True intimacy is much more than just a physical act.