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Being a life-long bachelor

Aerts

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I have begun to wonder if that is my fate. I'm still young by most people's standards, but I've begun to question whether I will ever lose my bachelor status. I look around at all the guys much older than me, who are divorced and some never married and I wonder if that is just my fate. My job involves travel and long hours, so that hasn't helped things. I guess I am wondering is it that bad to be single for life? I know how much guys bitch about marriage here, but I often wonder what it would be like to be single in your 40's, 50's, and beyond. Any guys here still single at that age?
 

Dickson

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Been single all my life. I travel almost all the time. Never been married and never been close. In my 50's so I will be a life long bachelor. Days I wish I was married just like married guys some times wish they were single. Never found a lady willing to put up with me or my life style. Kinda married to my businesses but that does not count.

It is what it is and learn to live with it. Good and bad with everything. Not sure I call it fate. It just is. Enjoy it. Love it and it will love you back.
 

sevenofnine

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it might be just the way were wired,
to be single and free or need the company

i have never been single and free always had responsibilites and felt burdened by them.
but guess what i do go long term with an sp.
and well feel comfortable taking care of people and being in a relationship



i think its the way were wired and we shouldn't fight it.
 

poorboyv6

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That seems to be my fate. I'm 41 and still single, but I've got a few criteria. I'm not interested in someone who is out of shape, in a very low income job, has 10 kids and an ex husband who's an asshole or a horrible personality.
 

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The only time it gets to me is when boring ugly married people want to know your status.
 

jesuschrist

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For the man, there may be great rewards in long term relationships, but there is absolutely no guarantee of that.

However, for the man there will be ...
ever more obligations
ever greater responsibilities
ever greater burden
a woman who is ever older and more unattractive, and probably fatter
less and less of his own money
less sex

and these are absolutely guaranteed in a long term relationship for a man.
 
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westcoast555

I'm single, 47 - have a nice girlfriend. Never married. It's fine. Don't think about whether or not you want to be married. Just do what feels right with whomever you're with. There's also lots worse things in life than being alone. Getting laid is key.
 

sevenofnine

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do you find faults or look for faults in the person your involved with,
just wishing you were alone.


or do you focus on the positives of being with that person the benifits you get from being with them and ignore all that is wrong with the relationship
i think its how were wired, don't fight it,
 

jesuschrist

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Well, it makes you face the day with the knowledge that your life is basically meaningless, if you don't have offspring..
You mean that most people experience no meaning in their lives until they find themselves to be parents? They sure don't act that way. Most people carry on with their lives with just as much self-importance as they ever had before they find out that suddenly they are going to become parents. I don't see how you can say what you do.
 

wilde

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Biologically we have only one purpose: to procreate.
I used to think that way but then I did a little more thinking and realized that if that was the case then those welfare moms with a pack of kids must be the most successful people on the planet.
 

PlayfulAlex

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You mean that most people experience no meaning in their lives until they find themselves to be parents? They sure don't act that way. Most people carry on with their lives with just as much self-importance as they ever had before they find out that suddenly they are going to become parents. I don't see how you can say what you do.
There is actually a huge movement for Child-Free Living...

http://www.nokidding.net

http://thebritgirl.com/2010/09/13/childfree-social-lives-your-tips-for-those-of-us-seeking-one

http://puzzele.com/datingsite/index.php

http://coolchildfreeguy.wordpress.com/2012/02/09/childfree-dating

http://www.nokidspassions.com

http://geeksdreamgirl.com/2011/04/05/no-kids-please-online-dating-for-the-childfree

...to name a few!
 

Aerts

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Thanks for posting those, I am going to check it out as I child free and aim to be that way for the rest of my life
I think having kids would be great if you had the right woman. I thought I had the right woman once, but after she left me I realized maybe if was for the best. I think having kids is best when you're in your 20's. Who wants to be chasing around a teenager when you're old and should be thinking about retirement?

That being said, I wouldn't mind joining big brothers or something and having some kid to pass on knowledge to and have some kind of relationship with.
 

InTheBum

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do you find faults or look for faults in the person your involved with,
just wishing you were alone.


or do you focus on the positives of being with that person the benifits you get from being with them and ignore all that is wrong with the relationship
i think its how were wired, don't fight it,
I find faults in females...and just focus on should I try to bang her or not...:thumb:
 

joe45

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Been single all my life. I travel almost all the time. Never been married and never been close. In my 50's so I will be a life long bachelor. Days I wish I was married just like married guys some times wish they were single. Never found a lady willing to put up with me or my life style. Kinda married to my businesses but that does not count.

It is what it is and learn to live with it. Good and bad with everything. Not sure I call it fate. It just is. Enjoy it. Love it and it will love you back.
what ur lifestyle that you cant get marry or find someone
i thought u got business =money and money = more girls
 

jesuschrist

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in a relationship, women generally want your time, and lots of it
Doesn't apply to all women, of course. There are those who are reasonable, but I believe a shockingly significant portion are not. Say 50% roughly (some would attest to more).

For those who are unreasonable, they want not just your time, they want all your time, and all your money. We hear so many times from them how they are smarter than we are, or stronger than we are, etc. The truth is that it's the men who usually bring home the bacon, usually the men who put up with tremendous stresses in their jobs providing for the family, etc. For these women who pronounce their superiority is just a slap in the face and a total joke. These are the ones who demand all your time and all your money because they are the weaker ones and they are the ones who have all the dependency needs.
 
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