Women have affairs because they lack emotional fulfillment in their marriages... They instinctively think that men are the same as them or fool themselves into thinking they just want sex. Some men actually believe women are on the site to find what they are looking for-- good sex and orgasms!! Hilarious really.
The fact is, women give sex as payment for security-- physical and/or emotional. It's been hard wired into us for over 200,000 years of evolution. It was how we survived as a species. Women traded sex for food back then.
Unfortunately, many women have failed to embrace and understand their true nature. They don't understand why the guy doesn't fall in love with them when they've had great sex together. They feel used and abused when they've given the guy sex and he doesn't call again. They start out thinking they just want sex, but really they need love.
So.. This is why paying if you don't want love or strings of any kind makes sense and is the fair way to do things. Payment to a woman who can manage her understanding of herself means she can be happy giving you what you want and can feel respected.
SNL, as always your words bring enlightenment. I've always been a bit conflicted in my mind about this whole activity, always a nagging concern that even if it is a paid transaction, I'm taking part of her soul away with me. While I think that far too often, my concern is real, your words made me realize that it might be possible for a woman to realize the equation you outlined, come to terms with it, understand it, and accept it. Once she did that, I can see how it could completely change her attitude about all of it. She could accept the basic honesty of the transaction, how it satisfies one of her inner needs while satisfying her clients inner needs, and instead of feeling used or taken advantage of, she could feel empowered and lifted. I can also see how a realization of all of this would allow her to feel that men are worthy of respect and love, instead of seeing them as debased or weak.
I think you are one of the few women I have known of in this biz who I really believe enjoyed what she was doing and was at peace with herself.