Are we EXPECTED to be available last minute?

[BobbiVan]

I just had an interesting text conversation. He had messaged me last night to see him, but I was already out and drinking. Says I should see him drunk anyway. I said I don't meet new clients while drinking, and that I'm OUT.

Texts me again at 4:45pm asking for a dinner and night out (maybe overnight) date but I'm already booked. I tell him sorry, he should have tried me earlier.

He gets back with "Pffft...i message you last night.. you are too drunk.. today it's 5pm and i am too late.. what's the excuse tomorrow? you lost your phone??"

I politely explain the situation again and he says "I don't need an explanation... goodbye"

I'm thinking, HOW RUDE!!

Anyway.. just wanted a little feed back from you guys (or other ladies) as to whether or not you feel we should jump at the drop of a hat for people....

Anyone have any similar stories?

 

[threepeat]

I just had an interesting text conversation. He had messaged me last night to see him, but I was already out and drinking. Says I should see him drunk anyway. I said I don't meet new clients while drinking, and that I'm OUT.

Texts me again at 4:45pm asking for a dinner and night out (maybe overnight) date but I'm already booked. I tell him sorry, he should have tried me earlier.

He gets back with "Pffft...i message you last night.. you are too drunk.. today it's 5pm and i am too late.. what's the excuse tomorrow? you lost your phone??"

I politely explain the situation again and he says "I don't need an explanation... goodbye"

I'm thinking, HOW RUDE!!

Anyway.. just wanted a little feed back from you guys (or other ladies) as to whether or not you feel we should jump at the drop of a hat for people....

Anyone have any similar stories?

No I appreciate that SPs have lives outside of their work. I typically don't need to see a particular girl so bad that there isn't someone else I can see.

But it sure sounds like you are answering your own question. Just sayin'.

 

[BobbiVan]

Well I know that I can't be expected to be available 24/7. I just wanted other peoples input as to how they view it, is all.

 

[hedgeman]

I would say if youhave a "work" phone and a personal phone, and you're out with friends or whatever or otherwise off the clock, turn off or leave the work ph at home...just my thoughts....could avoid a whole lot of mess that way, cuz if you're replying to texts or answering calls on the work ph, tends to make guuys think you're available....

 

[ReluctantPooner]

I would say if youhave a "work" phone and a personal phone, and you're out with friends or whatever or otherwise off the clock, turn off or leave the work ph at home...just my thoughts....could avoid a whole lot of mess that way, cuz if you're replying to texts or answering calls on the work ph, tends to make guuys think you're available....

Or at least if it's a work related text, ignore it until the next day. A client, especially a new one, does not need to know that you're out, or drinking. Return the text the next day, and say "Sorry, I was unavailable last night..."

 

[hedgeman]

Or at least if it's a work related text, ignore it until the next day. A client, especially a new one, does not need to know that you're out, or drinking. Return the text the next day, and say "Sorry, I was unavailable last night..."

exactly....

 

[badbadboy]

Texts me again at 4:45pm asking for a dinner and night out (maybe overnight) date but I'm already booked. I tell him sorry, he should have tried me earlier.

For dates, I usually book days or even a week in advance. Overnights, I book weeks in advance.

I have sometimes booked 'nooners' an hour or so in advance and most times it has worked out for me.

BobbiVan, you had one impatient, rude Pooner on your hands. Probably best it didn't work out.

 

[Very Veronica]

He's a passive-aggressive tire kicker aka WOT.

Usually there are little signs from the get go. Recently, i made the mistake of responding to one of those barely-a-sentence emails (with typo) then expanded the address to see 'diareatard' at which point i told him to hold his mayo/bye-bye. He feigned shocked that i'd shut him down because of a juvenile name.

Next!

 

[aznboi9]

You mean your world doesn't revolve around us? I'm shocked.

Seriously, though, he was being rather unreasonable. I think ReluctantPooner's and hedgeman's advice are the best.

 

[blackcad]

Well BV, since people are always on their best behaviour when they first meet, or in this case text, you can be very happy that you did the right thing and this misogynistic A**HOLE screened himself out. This was him at his best. Imagine being alone with him and his hair- trigger temper. His loss / your again.

 

[TooLegit]

If he was speaking to someone in any other occupation, he would know he was being an ass.

Regardless, being available on short notice is something that should be considered a favor and not something that is ever expected. If a girl were to be available on short notice for me, I would increase the tip to show that it's appreciated. If she declined, I would smack myself for not booking earlier. I guess there's no accounting for idiots these days.

 

[hornyasian]

i think for sps who are in this industry you definitely should get a work phone it a wise decision. i guess some clients dont see you as people but rather than sex toys because they pay for you they own you.

 

[Iroc]

Hey Bobbi;
Very interesting thread and somewhat applicable to what happened to me this past Thursday.
I would like to get your thoughts on this one. A local lady (Regina) and myself had set up a date a few days prior. When the day of the date rolled around, I busied myself cleaning my house, shopping for some beverages and food for the appointment. Ten minutes before the date, I recieved a text that she had just recieved concert tix and would not be showing up....?????!!!!!????? What do you think should be an appropriate response by yours truly. Just interested in your or anyone elses thoughts on this.

"should I jump (Change my plans) at the drop of a hat for people....Anyone have any similar stories?[/QUOTE]

 

[joho]

I usually try to set up an appointment a week in advance if that's possible. It can be difficult to do that with the Carman Fox because you don't know who will be available until the same day. Some SPs are available always because they see lots of clients per day. I just avoid them!

 

[wolverine]

I don't expect last-minute availability. On the other hand, I don't like booking days in advance for various reasons. I think a couple of hours advance is reasonable.

 

[Iroc]

I don't expect last-minute availability. On the other hand, I don't like booking days in advance for various reasons.

Because of HER availability, the day booked in advance were according to her schedule and I agreed. It fit into my availability and then when the appointed date and time came up. STIFFED (no pun intended) with 10 minutes to go on the basis of a last minute opportunity for her. It seems very wrong and rude.

 

[BobbiVan]

thanks everyone for the input. I am sometimes available on short notice, so I would hate it if no one TRIED. I just hate his reaction to the fact that i wouldn't drop everything to see him.

as for you Iroc, I'm sorry she did that to you - that sucks. I usually think "work first" and if I have an appointment I would never cancel it for a social outing... However, we don't know what concert it was, how good the seats were, is this her fave band EVER... sometimes in someones head it is justified. Personally, I wouldn't be trying to get tix to a concert I already knew I couldn't attend... OR I wouldn't have made an appointment on the daY/time a concert was that I was DYING to go to either....

Sorry for your last minute cancelation tho - that would be very disappointing.

 

[LADY-VIA]

I just had an interesting text conversation. He had messaged me last night to see him, but I was already out and drinking. Says I should see him drunk anyway. I said I don't meet new clients while drinking, and that I'm OUT.

Texts me again at 4:45pm asking for a dinner and night out (maybe overnight) date but I'm already booked. I tell him sorry, he should have tried me earlier.

He gets back with "Pffft...i message you last night.. you are too drunk.. today it's 5pm and i am too late.. what's the excuse tomorrow? you lost your phone??"

I politely explain the situation again and he says "I don't need an explanation... goodbye"

I'm thinking, HOW RUDE!!

Anyway.. just wanted a little feed back from you guys (or other ladies) as to whether or not you feel we should jump at the drop of a hat for people....

Anyone have any similar stories?

i get these often. just be nice. generally they are just as confused

 

[FloridaGuy]

I only book last-minute, never ahead of time. So if a lady is not available within say an hour or two of when I call, I move on to someone else. But I don't get angry at the unavailable lady or write her off. Its just the way things worked out on that particular day.

 

[MissingOne]

The last few years my life has been too busy and unpredictable for me to plan ahead to meet an SP. I have to go for last-minute appointments. It's very common for the indies that I'd most like to see to be unavailable. I can't blame them at all for that. Sadly for me, the consequence is that I usually end up in an AMP, which wouldn't be my first choice.