Hi,
I often read on this site that some guys actually discuss their pooning with friends. Personally I have preferred to keep my hobby quiet but I guess some guys have a different kind of relationship with their closest friends.
Anyway....
I had dinner with an old friend this weekend. His wife had taken the kids to visit her parents in Minneapolis and we thought this would be a good time for a boys night out.
We met at a nice place for dinner and drinks but right from the outset I had a feeling he was not himself. I should have known something was amiss because it would be very unusual for his wife and kids to go away without him even for a weekend.
Half way through dinner he opened up. His marriage was not going well. I was surprised as him and his wife have always seemed to be very loving and great together. I told him I was sorry to hear that and I'm here for him if he wants to talk. He then told me that he is very much at a crossroads and doesn't know what to do. He loves his wife and doesn't want to separate but they hadn't had sex in over a year. He told me his wife had started to go through menopause and lost her sex drive. Initially she would give him a BJ once in while and that kept him satisfied. Then several months ago even the BJ's stopped. He would at times be romantic and try to initiate something but she just rejected him. He says he understands and doesn't want to seem selfish but up to this they had a very active sex life. They'd have sex 3 or 4 times a week, often at her suggestion and then suddenly nothing.
He says she's been to the doctor but she seems resigned to the fact this will eventually pass and her libido will return but most of all she says she doesn't want to talk about it.
She won't go to counseling and when I asked if it is possible she is getting her "needs" met elsewhere he actually told me he thought about that but there are no signs of that (working late, unexplained absences, money missing, sudden coffee dates with GF's, etc...).
In the end it is obvious he loves his wife but admitted to feeling urge to "stray" if he's not getting any at home.
I came very close to asking if he's consider seeing an escort/SP to satisfy his sexual urges and hopefully save his marriage.
I stopped short because I would feel weird admitting to him I see SP's (I'm a very private person).
In a case like this would you counsel a close friend about seeing an SP or would that conversation be off limits, hoping he would figure it out for himself.
I often read on this site that some guys actually discuss their pooning with friends. Personally I have preferred to keep my hobby quiet but I guess some guys have a different kind of relationship with their closest friends.
Anyway....
I had dinner with an old friend this weekend. His wife had taken the kids to visit her parents in Minneapolis and we thought this would be a good time for a boys night out.
We met at a nice place for dinner and drinks but right from the outset I had a feeling he was not himself. I should have known something was amiss because it would be very unusual for his wife and kids to go away without him even for a weekend.
Half way through dinner he opened up. His marriage was not going well. I was surprised as him and his wife have always seemed to be very loving and great together. I told him I was sorry to hear that and I'm here for him if he wants to talk. He then told me that he is very much at a crossroads and doesn't know what to do. He loves his wife and doesn't want to separate but they hadn't had sex in over a year. He told me his wife had started to go through menopause and lost her sex drive. Initially she would give him a BJ once in while and that kept him satisfied. Then several months ago even the BJ's stopped. He would at times be romantic and try to initiate something but she just rejected him. He says he understands and doesn't want to seem selfish but up to this they had a very active sex life. They'd have sex 3 or 4 times a week, often at her suggestion and then suddenly nothing.
He says she's been to the doctor but she seems resigned to the fact this will eventually pass and her libido will return but most of all she says she doesn't want to talk about it.
She won't go to counseling and when I asked if it is possible she is getting her "needs" met elsewhere he actually told me he thought about that but there are no signs of that (working late, unexplained absences, money missing, sudden coffee dates with GF's, etc...).
In the end it is obvious he loves his wife but admitted to feeling urge to "stray" if he's not getting any at home.
I came very close to asking if he's consider seeing an escort/SP to satisfy his sexual urges and hopefully save his marriage.
I stopped short because I would feel weird admitting to him I see SP's (I'm a very private person).
In a case like this would you counsel a close friend about seeing an SP or would that conversation be off limits, hoping he would figure it out for himself.
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