A general question for SPs and the Clients

[Yesboss]

Hi Everyone,
I have been a PERB member since 2004 and very active in this hobby. Although I don't post much reviews especially negative as I like to keep the intimate details to myself or if I don't have anything nice to say, I won't say nothing. Over the last 15 years or so, I have noticed more and more SPs are posting their preference of not seeing Black or EI clients. I understand that their body and their choice etc etc. But being an EI man myself, I have been told by a few SPs over the decade and a half that they won't see me because of my ethnic background. A couple of Asian SPs were very upfront with me that they think that EI men's skin smells like garlic and they can't stand that. Well, I understand that and totally respect the fact that they were at least honest about it. But sometimes its more than that. Its the stigmatism of racial profiling of the client where the SP will pre-judge the client and refuse the service.

I must say that over the period of time I have met many many great SPs from all over the country and had a fantastic time with them. But again today I was told by a reputable SP here in Vancouver LM that she won't see me for personal reasons. Makes me feel very petty ...I still have to find one Ad by an SP saying No Caucasian Men please..

Everyone has to retire from this hobby someday... I think today was the last straw for me!!!!

 

[blakealridge]

Yep, there’s lots of racism in this industry from both sides. I’m really sorry you’re experiencing this. If it’s any consolation, I have seen some providers—and I sometimes do this myself—who ask clients who specify that they’re white in inquiries for an additional fee.

I do know a large number of SPs who do not discriminate. If you’d like to DM me I’d be more than happy to send you a list.

 

[taster]

Don't beat yourself up about something you can't control. You can see this in how different everyone reacts to covid.

There are no ads that say NO Caucasian but it will say Asian only. I'm starting to notice some say East Asian or SE Asian only too. A few sp's have told me they prefer to not to see a certain ethnicity including Caucasians but won't advertise it which may be where your frustration comes from. You put in the effort only to be turned away out of something you can't control.

Most perbites have an ATF list with good memories and a FATM.

If you've run out of options that make you fulfilled perhaps take a step back. When you're ready do more dd and when you find someone that accepts you and you click with cherish and appreciate that sp.

 

[Yesboss]

Yep, there’s lots of racism in this industry from both sides. I’m really sorry you’re experiencing this. If it’s any consolation, I have seen some providers—and I sometimes do this myself—who ask clients who specify that they’re white in inquiries for an additional fee.

I do know a large number of SPs who do not discriminate. If you’d like to DM me I’d be more than happy to send you a list.

You are awesome.. we have met a few times and our meetings were nothing less than 10/10.. I have always recommended you to my internal circle of friends/hobbyists.. thanks for the kind words?

 

[Cock Throppled]

Yep, there’s lots of racism in this industry from both sides. I’m really sorry you’re experiencing this. If it’s any consolation, I have seen some providers—and I sometimes do this myself—who ask clients who specify that they’re white in inquiries for an additional fee.

So you just posted that you sometimes charge more based on race.

Discriminating against people based on their skin colour is racist, no matter the colour of skin.

 

[georgej]

So you just posted that you sometimes charge more based on race.

Discriminating against people based on their skin colour is racist, no matter the colour of skin.

I expect Charlee upcharges because the client expressed an expectation that his race mattered to her. Effectively saying she's racist! Certainly not the case.

 

[Forum mod]

Once again, this topic has been done to death and there's no need to rehash it every other month. The ladies can choose who they want to see, and the guys can either find someone who will see them, or stay home. Thread closed.