A call from my clients' wife ...today ...my heart hurts

[lenny]

For God's sake lets be realistic. Most of the clients have a wife or a girl friend.

Really?

If every guy was assured that the SP he was seeing was willing to have a heart to heart with his wife I think revenue would drop a tad.

We aren't taking about every guy, are we? But a very specific situation,
where one guy left info on his phone that caused him to be busted. He
is 100% to blame for this. Then his SO contacted the SP. At this point,
why would it bother you if the SP made your SO feel better by having a
little chat? Would you rather your wife spilled her guts to the bartender
at the local joint, who may not have been able to help her?

If an SO should ever call Jessica again in her lifetime, and under different circumstances,
she may act differently. But it's unlikely the same type of situation will ever occur again.

After all, how many guys are that careless to 1. put such info on their phone, 2. not wipe
it, and 3. leave it sitting around for the SO? One in a thousand? One in a million? All these
screw ups had to occur for the guy to get caught.

If you are worried about getting caught in a scenario like this, then you should probably
quit while you're ahead, i.e. not busted. You don't have what it takes to be a James Bond,
to say the least.

Jessica blew it. She should have hung up and blocked that number or lied her ass off.

Why should she do that? Hanging up might increase her risk that the lady, who may be dying,
shows up at her place of work, {a} causes havoc, screaming, etc, {b} barges into Jessica's
room during a session, or {c} worse.

Any SP put in a situation resembling this should give thought to her own personal safety and
peace of mind, which is far more important than any client's confidentiality.

As for lieing, Jessica prefers honesty and compassion. And if the proof is in the pudding,
then it appears she made the right decision, since both spouses thanked her afterwards.

Furthermore, what lie should she have told, and what good would it have done, since the cat
was already out of the bag? Such a course of action may have only made matters worse.

It's part of the unwritten deal.

Maybe you can put it in writing, and then we'll both know what you're talking about.

SP's play the "I'm a professional" game all the time. How would any of us like it if our doctor, therapist, lawyer, accountant or broker was as open as Jessica. We'd sue their asses off.

Did Jessica reveal any confidential info to the SO, or info of that nature
that she was not already aware of? She's already said that she didn't.

 

[hunsperger]

Things change what is the big deal/ I sent you a pm. You need not mention my children in a thread again. Messing with me wrong there and that pisses me off. My life for everyones information is about my children and those who have met me know that. I must get myself to work. As for this thread what is your problem things pop up that I have something to say about. Go on about your day and for now on pass my posts and leave me the hell alone please.

my apologies Angie...

I expressed myself wrong...

again, my apologies...

I ask you though, please refrain from giving this angst ridden drama queen the attention she so craves...

take everything you read on this board with a grain of salt...

 

[DQ Guy]

My 2 cents worth...
for one this thread is way far and gone. whats the point here anymore?
the client screwed up big time. Never ever save pics, texts, numbers! WTF was he thinking.
and yes maybe you should have just hung up, no it would not have helped the matter any, but it would make it his problem to deal with.

sure you could have played the "friend" card.. or even "I'm his shrink"... who knows.
all in all, its a lesson learned to the rest of us out there.
If you are in a relationship, and the other doesn't know what you are doing..... don't leave a trail for them to find. Simple.
It could have been handled better. but it is by no means the Sp's fault.
He got caught.. maybe next time he will be a little more careful if He doesnt want to get caught.

 

[Pillowtalk]

Interesting, but just so there is no confusion here:

1. No one said it is the sp's fault the SO found the info on the phone.

2. No one said it is the sp's fault the SO called her.

3. Everyone who is not confusing 1 & 2 is saying it is the sp's fault for choosing to talk to the SO, and therefore verifying the SO's suspicions.

4. Everyone who is not confusing 1 & 2 recognizes that the SO would not have called at all had she been 1000% certain of the facts; the sp verified, confirmed, and helped make the SO either certain of her suspicions and/or feel like crap that her husband sees sps.

5. Everyone who is not allowing the OP to confuse the issue by continuing to deny she did anything wrong when she spoke to the SO at length, also recognizes that the sp lacks the understanding that she was indiscrete, lacks the understanding that she should not have spoken to the SO at all, regardless of whatever convincing story the SO claims to have, and some of us thing that the OP is spinning some sort of tale in order to make herself (a) look good and/or (b) look better (more compassionate, more caring, more wonderous) than the sps who have clearly stated what she did was wrong (who by implication are supposedly cold, calculating, business first, etc) I mean, what kind of person thinks she is popular or well-liked or ? because this thread she posted is getting a lot of views and replies? Talk about missing the point lol.


Conclusion: Everyone who "gets it" understands that it does not matter one bit whether the SO was sick, sad, armed with details and photos, attacking, soft spoken, loud, annoying, threatening, believable, etc, the bottom line is the sp had no right to discuss her client's business with anyone.

 

[JessicaPrabbit]

my apologies Angie...
I expressed myself wrong...
again, my apologies...
I ask you though, please refrain from giving this angst ridden drama queen the attention she so craves...
take everything you read on this board with a grain of salt...

Sad. You get a different set of rules than I do ...seems somehow unfair.

I do believe the information you SHARED not with ONE person but with THOUSANDS AND THOUSANDS of people is PERSONAL-CONFIDENTIAL-PRIVATE-A MATTER OF WHAT THE TWO OF YOU MAY HAVE SPOKEN ABOUT

"Expressed yourself wrong"? Lmao

You've absolved yourself of the same "Cardinal Sin" which you so adamantly insist I have committed and I think that speaks very loudly of your character as well as pointing out that WE DON'T ALWAYS SAY THINGS THAT EVERYONE WILL BE HAPPY WITH EVEN THOUGH WE HAVE NO MALICE OR MIS-INTENTION IN OUR HEARTS

I absolutely agree with your final statement "Take Everything You Read On This Board With A Grain Of Salt".
~Thats what I'm doing and that is why this is making me stronger instead of breaking me down
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LMAO.......what a turd!

"Turd"? Is that the most harsh opinion of his action? What a bunch of hypocrites. You make me smile Thank you for the giggle

Ya.....We understand. Its only been said by many in this Gawd forsaken thread a thousand times now !!!
When will it end!!??

It will end when the administrators decide it should or Wednesday evening at 8:00pm as indicated by the OP

 

[overdone]

2 weeks ago, reviewers were lining up to blow smoke up her ass on how great she was, now because some dude fucked up and brought her into his mess, you want to drum her out of business and take away her means of providing for herself and anyone else who might depend on her? The way people were reviewing her a few weeks ago to what it's like now, it's cold man, how quickly everyone turns.

No one would know about this if she didn't make it public.

Posting on here for advice or attention and then not getting the kind you wish or desire and then getting snippy about it, well that is just childish. As has been displayed far too often on here.

She asked for it and she has received.

She's an Adult, the only person to blame for this affecting her business is herself.

She could have easily keep this to herself.

No one needed to know about this.

What happens from here on is of her own making.

 

[HubbaHubba]

"Turd"? Is that the most harsh opinion of his action? What a bunch of hypocrites. You make me smile Thank you for the giggle

No but if I gave a full harsh opinion on huny's ignorant posts it would get me banned. Thus "turd" seemed fitting.

 

[hunsperger]

Posting on here for advice or attention and then not getting the kind you wish or desire and then getting snippy about it, well that is just childish. As has been displayed far too often on here.

exactly...

now this angst ridden megalomaniac is referring to herself in the third person...

 

[katoe]

HB40,
...
I am quite displeased with the personal attacks you've directed towards her.
...
I think you're a good looking guy, fun to talk to, a likely friend,
but I find myself very uncomfortable now talking to somebody filled with so much vitriol.
....
it was almost fun HB, ....

....
MERL was fun Eddie, thanks.
....

B2bf: my thoughts align with this. Thanks for spelling it out.

snif: in addition to her title as best sp in edmonton, my chats with her show her to be an honest, genuine, caring, hard working, family oriented, upfront, and honest person. For those who have not met or talked to her, you are talking out of you asses. Boycott? Why don't we boycott your ignorance,

Spermie: thanks for the positive energy.

I don't even care if you label me as a white knight. There are not enough people like Jessica in this world. I gladly stand between the haters and JPR.

 

[crazytiger74]

hm, been in your situation from both angles, as the sp, and recently as the wife. Your honesty with that woman was the right thing to do. If only all the sp's could use their heart and compassion. But the one I dealt with was scandalous (bitch is on this site, hope she's satisfied with herself) and went to great lengths to contact my husband, (even contacting his family to pass her "urgent" msg) who buries himself in denial and lies. But karma will settle that score. I had the pleasure (however nasty) of reading about her on the dirty.com, thanks to a friend pointing a posting of her out to me. Honesty is the way to go, for sure, because to do otherwise is like hurting the wife even more, however unintentional. Chances are good her hubby is already lying and calling her paranoid or whatever, she wouldnt need to hear it from the sp too. and NO client is worth covering for, no matter how much $$ or how frequent regular he is. just my opinion.

 

[crazytiger74]

and to the guys on here, crying injustice, seriously, you will get caught if your signifigant other goes looking, it isnt hard at all to find the clues, patterns and then evidence. Software like key-loggers are often free, and not easily detected by you, who think you have the right to play... You all face the chance of being caught, yet continue to gamble with the odds against you. There are no rules to break in this game, not like the vows you are breaking that represent your marriage. So if you play, be prepared to pay one day.....

 

[crazytiger74]

LOL what did I say that suggested how "lowly" i find clients? you pay a woman to be kind, sexy, engage in whatever it is you seek, but did you also think you were buying her friendship and respect? ummm no, while Ive had some "friendships" with clients, it was their charming personality that won me, not their wallet! and thats no guarantee that I wouldnt converse with their wife if she were to call me, becausse regardless which client, I would not deny what she already knows. not all men are scum, most arent in fact... just as most clients arent found on these sites, only a few. face it, you dont "respect" your sp as a real person, she is an sp, nothing more. for you to think otherwise would kill your fun.

 

[crazytiger74]

LOL I dont need your $$$. thanks for confiming what I suspected though, that YOU are scum, lol too funny. wow 891 posts in 9 months, what is it with you frequent posters, cant always afford to play, so you are here dreaming of it? thats an obsession. LOL

 

[crazytiger74]

LOL thats right sweetheart, dont NEED your $$, Ive been "OUT" of the business for awhile and check in here and there to chat with friends. you THINK you deserve respect from a cum receptacle? LOL I bet your a very lonely man with a constant supply of viagra that helps you make "your point"

 

[HubbaHubba]

LOL I bet your a very lonely man with a constant supply of viagra that helps you make "your point"

Pssssst....he uses Cialis

 

[lenny]

it is the sp's fault for choosing to talk to the SO, and therefore verifying the SO's suspicions.

Jessica was the one who talked to the SO, not you, and not any other poster
in this thread. And Jessica has made it clear the SO was NOT suspicious.
Quite the contrary. She already knew and had the evidence in her hands and
in front of her eyes. Only if she were cranially retarded would she have not
realized what that spoke about her husband. BTW, the first post in this
discussion makes it clear that she was not mentally challenged.

the SO would not have called at all had she been 1000% certain of the facts; the sp verified, confirmed, and helped make the SO either certain of her suspicions and/or feel like crap that her husband sees sps.

Actually, if you refer to the first post of this thread, the SO already "felt like
crap" when she called. That's because she already knew. She didn't need Jessica
to confirm the obvious. Evidently the call was made for other reasons, such as, for
some plausible examples, confronting the SO whom her lover was seeing, or to see
what kind of a person her SO would find it worthwhile to cheat on her. Maybe to find
out why he would do something like this to her or if he was in love with another?

by continuing to deny she did anything wrong when she spoke to the SO at length,

It seems they both spoke and the conversation, including any moments of silence,
lasted a mere 20 minutes. Ref post # 1.

also recognizes that the sp lacks the understanding that she was indiscrete, lacks the understanding that she should not have spoken to the SO at all,

To not speak to her at all, she would have needed to answer her ringing phone
from a client ID she recognized without saying "hello", for starters. Then
when the SO began to speak, she couldn't have said anything, which could be
done with or w/o hanging up. Alternately, as several have suggested, she could
have lied.

Why should she do that? Hanging up might increase her risk that the lady, who may be dying,
shows up at her place of work, {a} causes havoc, screaming, etc, {b} barges into Jessica's
room during a session, or {c} worse.

Any SP put in a situation resembling this should give thought to her own personal safety and
peace of mind, which is far more important than any client's confidentiality.

As for lieing, Jessica prefers honesty and compassion. And if the proof is in the pudding,
then it appears she made the right decision, since both spouses thanked her afterwards.

Furthermore, what lie should she have told, and what good would it have done, since the cat
was already out of the bag? Such a course of action may have only made matters worse.

 

[somedude]

That's why a lot of countries do not legalize prostitution. It can break a family!

Maybe they should outlaw bars and pubs too while you are at it. There are girls there that will sleep with you too and break up a family....hmmm?

Prostitution is a conduit, not the problem. The breaking of a family/relationship stems from the conscious decision made by the partner who's needs are not being met.

And to Lenny,

"Why should she do that? Hanging up might increase her risk that the lady, who may be dying,
shows up at her place of work, {a} causes havoc, screaming, etc, {b} barges into Jessica's
room during a session, or {c} worse.

Any SP put in a situation resembling this should give thought to her own personal safety and
peace of mind, which is far more important than any client's confidentiality."

Which do you think is going to cause more harm, an upset wife, or some guy who just had his marriage broken up? (obviously it's his fault, so don't bother with that argument, but if he's pissed, he knows where she lives/works if you are thinking about safety, the lady probably doesn't know the address/location).

 

[lenny]

And to Lenny,

"Why should she do that? Hanging up might increase her risk that the lady, who may be dying,
shows up at her place of work, {a} causes havoc, screaming, etc, {b} barges into Jessica's
room during a session, or {c} worse.

Any SP put in a situation resembling this should give thought to her own personal safety and
peace of mind, which is far more important than any client's confidentiality."

Which do you think is going to cause more harm, an upset wife, or some guy who just had his marriage broken up? (obviously it's his fault, so don't bother with that argument, but if he's pissed, he knows where she lives/works if you are thinking about safety, the lady probably doesn't know the address/location).

Considering, in this very special case, the guy caused himself to be busted, his SO knows where Jessica works, the SO said she may be dying, so may have nothing to lose by hiring a PI to find out everything about her and destroy her, or getting a weapon and using it, it would seem that the SO is probably the more potentially dangerous of the two. So it seems that a reasonable case can be made that the SP has some justification in trying to appease her, just on this point alone. Furthermore, Jessica knew the client as a regular, so had an idea of what the guy is like, apparently quite a nice person from everything she's said about him here.

She told me she knew who I was and where I worked. I did not need to question this because she was telling me correct information. ..hang up on her? REALLY? She’s got my address, knows what I look like and I’m supposed to assume the big brave bold move of hanging up will deter future attempts for her to reach me.

As ‘A Shy Guy ‘ brilliantly pointed out earlier in this thread a majority of the ladies who are convinced I did the wrong thing do not advertise publically their location. Google their number you will not get the same information. The risk of a lady in a studio is not comparable. I choose to be there and I accept the risk, which is why the decision I made was the BEST I could.

So what did we talk about for 20 minutes? Not about the high quality blowjob I love to give, not the sex, not the naked …NOTHING IN REGARDS TO OUR ACTIVITIES. She already knew …Get it?

 

[Smoothmover]

C'mon Ladies - You have to have a built in prepared response for times like these

Why not say, I'm a Stripper....That way the photo probably came from the strip club. Say you give out your number to hopefully get hired, or that sometimes people call to find out where you are dancing...

The key is "Prepared Response" for stuff like this

Leave the "story" or the "explaination" up to the client. The relationship (or lack there or) with his S/O is none of your business

 

[Miss*Bijou]

Considering, in this very special case, the guy caused himself to be busted, his SO knows where Jessica works, the SO said she may be dying, so may have nothing to lose by hiring a PI to find out everything about her and destroy her, or getting a weapon and using it, it would seem that the SO is probably the more potentially dangerous of the two. So it seems that a reasonable case can be made that the SP has some justification in trying to appease her, just on this point alone. Furthermore, Jessica knew the client as a regular, so had an idea of what the guy is like, apparently quite a nice person from everything she's said about him here.

The SO isn't dying ffs. For whatever reason, JPR told me in a PM she sent me following one of my posts on this thread. Whether or not it was the truth, she did say what I assume she subsequently described in this thread as a *life or death* situation was.

If what she told me is indeed what she referred to, then the SO is NOT dying so chill with the theory and assumption that this is the case. If what she told is what she referred to as *life and death*, I would have to say that it is a bit of a stretch and misleading over-exaggeration for, I assume, drama and effect..? Who knows... I don't know..and I don't care.

But please stop making all kinds of excuses or possible reasons to justify because you don't know. You don't know what happened and you don't know her...so you're only complicating things and confusing things further by making all kinds of assumptions to fit your opinion.