I know I had said I would not reply any further on this thread, but I just can't sit here and read all this nonsense without making a couple more observations.
My heart hurts and I don’t know what to do.
I answered my phone this morning and knew right away that I was on the line with a clients wife …”This is going to sound weird but who am I talking to? I know I called you but who is this?”
Sigh
One of my clients wives, pain and sadness in her voice, a touch of strength that amazed me and the sound of confusion. “I’ve found your number and a photo of you on my husbands phone and I’m wanting to ask you some questions but I understand if you won’t talk to me”.
There was no question in the Bunny’sHeart. I needed to answer her questions.
Here in Jessica's ORIGINAL post she states that the wife called her and ASKED who she was like so, "This is going to sound weird but who am I talking to? I know I called you but who is this?”
In later posts she claims that the wife ALREADY knew her name and was looking at her website, I don't know for the life of me why the wife would have had to ASK JPR's name if she already knew it. Just from this ONE simple thing you can see that Jessica has modified her story over the course of this thread. Why she has done this, I am not going to speculate. I am only presenting the fact that she has indeed changed her story.
Later on (I believe page 13) she says that she was woken from a slumber and that the wife already knew who she was, as evidenced by this post,
Again. The call opened with me attempting to find my bearings in the dark, stumbling with my slippery Iphone not quite able to open my eyes fully and by the time I had uprighted myself in my bed I already had a wealth of information. It does not take long to communicate something if one is prepared and she seemed prepared.
How did she KNOW it was me? Vanessa dear ...SHE DIALED A PHONE NUMBER WHICH SHE FOUND ON HER HUSBANDS PHONE AND THE NUMBER MATCHES WHAT APPEARS ON MY WEBSITE. SHE TOLD ME SHE WAS LOOKING AT MY WEBSITE. IN ADDITION TO THAT SHE SAID SHE COULD SEE A PHOTO OF ME ATTACHED TO MY PHONE NUMBER ON HIS PHONE ...WHICH MATCHES MY PHONE NUMBER ON MY WEBSITE ...WHICH SHE JUST DIALED AND LIKELY HAD APPEARING ON HER PHONE SCREEN ...AND I ANSWERED! Good Lord woman, put this together would you please so I need not repeat myself again?
I hope that answers your question, because THAT is "how the frigg she knew it was me she was speaking to". This is not Rocket Science Vanessa. This was not a Calculus formula Vanessa. It was 3 (THREE) pieces of exact information that she had to put together. THREE not Three hundred. Holy Crap. I've said she sounded intelligent but I didn't think it would be confusing to you Vanessa, a "mature woman who has presented herself well".
I'm not angry with you Vanessa but I can not for the life of me understand why you A) have not read all of the information but insist on stating what you think might be correct or B) refuse to acknowledge the truths as I am laying them down.
So Vanessa ...I ask you ... "do you understand what I'm saying?"
and please before you ask another question that I have already answered ...HE DIDN'T TAKE A PHOTO OF ME. The photo is one from my website which can be right clicked and saved and transferred ....
In the original post, Jessica states that the Wife ASKED her for her name, then a few pages later, she says that the wife already knew her name and was looking at her website. Well which is it? Did she ask you for your name or did she already have it? These two posts seem to contradict each other.
Then we come to the part in the original post where the wife said, “I’ve found your number and a photo of you on my husbands phone and I’m wanting to ask you some questions but I understand if you won’t talk to me”.
At this point in the original post, it appears that no other information had been passed and JPR was given an easy way out. The wife says she understands if JPR doesn't want to talk to her. JPR made the conscious choice to go on for 20 minutes spilling the beans, answering the wife's questions. Why not say something as simple as, "You will have to discuss that with your husband" or "I am sorry but I don't want to talk"
JPR had also asked for advice about this situation BASED on that initial thread. When most people said that she should not have talked, JPR went on the defensive and started adding in details to the story. If you wanted advice, why do you argue against it? When it was told that there is an unwritten rule that a SP doesn't talk to SO's you asked where these rules were written. Why not just take the advice? Instead you had to keep defending actions that most people here on perb disagree with. when told to be discrete, you found every dictionary definition BUT the one that was most applicable. It almost seems like your intention was to start a fiery debate and then go screaming to the mods to get some people banned from this board.
And finally to Lenny, all I can say is this. If a person has to change their story as much as JPR has, there are bound to be lies in there and you cannot entirely believe what that person has said.
What we can be fairly certain of:
1) JPR received a call from a wife.
2) JPR talked for 20 minutes with said wife.
We cannot be certain at all about what was talked about or the circumstances of how much information the wife really knew.
One conclusion that I have drawn : This issue would have been a whole lot simpler if JPR had taken the out from the wife and not talked to her.
