Should I pursue/ try and seduce work aquaintance or not.

[Ripped]

So it was really unexpected this morning, someone from one of our suppliers dropped of some items at our location. It was kind of a rush rush order, so they didn't use the regular shipper.
The gal who was going to drop the stuff off, is a person I deal with regularly on the phone. Funny I always thought of her as a PITA, and don't like dealing with her calls. I imagine I didn't sound too friendly at times on the phone. She sounds a lot older on the phone as well.

So she shows up at our office at 7:30 am. and she is a real cute hottie. There were definitely sparks a flying between the both of us.

She emailed me back later that morning, saying it was ...neat to come to our location... ...cool meeting me... before getting onto the work related stuff.

I have gotten the vibes from other women in the past, but never looked at following through. Lately I have been thinking about doing the extramarital thing (never done it before, most is a HJ from an SP)

The plus side, there is lots of attraction, she's hot, younger than me...
The down side, I may be opening a can of worms here, I am just not prepared for...

So what do you think?

 

[LaCreme]

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if you both like each other i don't see any problem.
be for i was a escort i was in love with a men much older then i do.
i thought he was very good looking with his gray-white hair and azure blue eye. i found him very attractive but i was to shy to approach him..
so nothing happen.. if you have the feeling some thing is going on HEY GO FOR IT!!! or is going to be too late

Good luck and kiss
from Mia Tara Fox

wisdom would say "work is work"

 

[Miss*Bijou]

Some honesty about the situation..

To avoid some unecessary worms!

I think you should be honest about your marital status (if she does not already know), then she knows what she is getting into before you both choose whether to go ahead or not. Sorry, I think going ahead without first making her aware of that is deceitful, unfair and cowardly. IM-very-HO, of course (and yes, *sorry* I guess this is stricking a cord with me! lol)

Aside from that, you may or may not be opening a can of worms.. No one can tell you for sure. It can be a mess you end up regretting or a passionate affair you end up treasuring... Or you may be glad you chose not to got there or else wonder what it would have been like. I don't think anyone can tell you for sure...

Good luck!

 

[edmontonsubbie]

perhaps I am way out of line on this....but...

as this is a "pooner" (i hate that word) type board....why would you seek advice on morals from here? Most of these people have, or should have, already come to a comfort level to allow them to do what they do. Perhaps they haven't, perhaps they won't, but that's their issue.

I'll give you my little rant on this....were I involved with someone....I would NOT be haunting this place....unless I was planning on becoming disentangled with said someone.

There are far too many interesting people on here that would rip up whatever bit of willpower I might have had left.

You know the right thing to do with your "coworker"....just as I would not request tax advice from here....

cheers!

eddie.

 

[looking4alady]

I've received some very good tax advice in an earlier post that I had back about a month ago!

I could tell that the "pooners" on this board come from various walks of life and am not hesitant to post a question here looking for advice.

 

[edmontonsubbie]

fair answer!

 

[edmontonsubbie]

NO!! Run like grim death is chasing you!!

Nothing is more horrible than when it goes wrong or something sours and your whole work/school enviroment is tainted and tense.

Don't do anything until you guys don't work in the same office. Trust me!!!

Danger Will Robinson.

I didn't want to be so blunt. Office crap cannot lead to an easy disentanglement. Fortunately, I'm extremely ugly so these things have never presented themselves. I just feel at liberty to comment.

eddie.

 

[HeMadeMeDoIt]

I would pursue her after clearly explaining that you're married and intend to remain that way. She's not a coworker. Suppliers and their employees are fair game in my books. I remember a few years back when I was still married I had a fling with an also attached client of mine. She unfortunately got caught and dumped but we still managed to maintain a strictly "fucktional' relationship

 

[coca_cola_bj]

It doesn't sound like a direct daily business contact. Talk , go for coffee it may only be mutual flirtation. Be honest about being married, maybe she is too! It may turn out to be the next chapter of your life or a wild sex weekend that doesn't reoccur. Nothing worse than wondering what might have happened.

 

[chilli]

I'm not trying to be holier than thou, but don't you have someone that loves you at home?

If you are not attracted to your wife anymore, maybe you should ask her to go to the gym with you or maybe take her out and buy her some sexy clothes, take her on a date.... add some spice to your marriage - boink her against the car in the parking lot.

I have an amazing girlfriend, I never want to lose that feeling of lusting after her, and vice versa.

 

[edmontonsubbie]

I'm not trying to be holier than thou, but don't you have someone that loves you at home?

If you are not attracted to your wife anymore, maybe you should ask her to go to the gym with you or maybe take her out and buy her some sexy clothes, take her on a date.... add some spice to your marriage - boink her against the car in the parking lot.

I have an amazing girlfriend, I never want to lose that feeling of lusting after her, and vice versa.

forgive my bluntness.....why, then, are you here?

eddie.

 

[snowmonger]

you only live once

 

[Miss*Bijou]

forgive my bluntness.....why, then, are you here?

LOL

seriously... A few posts ago you were raving about Tianna.. What the hell? I don't get it?

oh..right... almost forgot! please forgive my bluntness too.

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I definitely think someone who doesn't work in the same office, not even for the same company, works for a supplier & doesn't usually even come anywhere near your office is far enough removed to not affect the workplace in case it goes sour.

Worse comes to worse you can just go back to how things were: disliking each other over the phone and that's it.

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you only live once

I agree.

But..
Be smart & don't get caught! But be aware that there is a possibility you might...and be prepared for what the consequences would be if you do get caught.
Figure out if you are really ready or even willing to deal with it if it happens..

Is It Worth The Risks you'll be Taking?? I can't answer that...but you have to!

 

[CalgaryJenn]

So what do you think?

It's ok to persue it. But be careful. Some girls will flirt their ass off, and then run and complain about sexual harassment. Or, she might just be super flirty with no intentions of taking it further.
There's nothing wrong with persuing it, but just make sure they are really "sparks" that your talking about, or you might end up in a bonfire.

 

[chilli]

forgive my bluntness.....why, then, are you here?

eddie.

I like to read the forums.

Very entertaining.

 

[edmontonsubbie]

I like to read the forums.

Very entertaining.

totally fair answer....forgive my ignorance and presumptiveness...or whatever the fuck that word is or should be.

 

[CJ Tylers]

Don't get involved. There's a big difference between paying an escort or rub & tug joint to help you out, and getting in an extra marital relationship. In the first case, there's attatchment formed that could cause your married life difficulties (just difficulties in explaining missing funds). In the second... if she's actually interested in you (lucky bastard)... emotions and attatchments can cause all sorts of trouble.

As others have said, if you can't cope with potentially losing everything that means something to you... then don't do it (and yes, I quantified "paying the time", just for fun.)

 

[sdw]

LOL

seriously... A few posts ago you were raving about Tianna.. What the hell? I don't get it?

oh..right... almost forgot! please forgive my bluntness too.

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I definitely think someone who doesn't work in the same office, not even for the same company, works for a supplier & doesn't usually even come anywhere near your office is far enough removed to not affect the workplace in case it goes sour.

Worse comes to worse you can just go back to how things were: disliking each other over the phone and that's it.

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I agree.

But..
Be smart & don't get caught! But be aware that there is a possibility you might...and be prepared for what the consequences would be if you do get caught.
Figure out if you are really ready or even willing to deal with it if it happens..

Is It Worth The Risks you'll be Taking?? I can't answer that...but you have to!

Speaking from some personal painful experience:

If the person works with you, you should avoid forming a relationship. It's always uncomfortable working with someone you've had a failed relationship with and if the breakup was bad, it can get very disruptive.

If the person works for a needed supplier or a wanted customer, it's actually worse. You may not have the supplier or customer at the end of the relationship.

 

[Ripped]

A lot of great responses ( I read them all)

Let me clairify; The person in question, does not work for our company. She works with a supplier for this project only (finishing in 2 months.) Her boss (female also), knows that I am married, we had lunch together, chewed the fat a number of months ago. I am 90% certain that, knowing girls, she will chat and ask about my status.

Long story, which I am not going to get into, W kind of started the ball rolling a few years ago, by her actions outside our marriage. Went to counselling etc etc. I had never considered looking outside our marriage before that time. Not blaming her, but maybe that has something to do with me flirting more and entertaining the thoughts of extramarital activities.

Maybe I should just look for non-sexual friendships, instead of jumping in with both feet. Be difficult to limit myself, I think, though.

 

[CJ Tylers]

Flirting is ok.

Non sexual relationships are ok.

Once things go sexual, it's hard to go back. Men have a tendency to be a touch more forgiving of their partners indescretions...not so much the other way around. Just keep that in mind.