Dating SPs
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For sure, Duneek.
I see it as a pretty slippery slope, this dating SP thing. We are all gonna meet someone we genuinely click with and potentially have stronger feelings for, but I think it's best to draw the line. I don't take away from the posters/SPs that have had success, however, as we are all different... and anything can happen. For me, it's the looks that have to be there first, for me to start "liking" an SP. That's why I try to repeat with good service providers that aren't mcot in the looks department, if that makes sense, lol.
So a few years back a dated an SP. she was a kgirl and she was studying english here as well. She was working out of the building i was staying at the time, and i ended up going to see her. At the end of the session she asks when i will be coming back to see her again. In my head I am thinking she just wants to make more money. But she was so damn sexy and we had a great connection so i literally came back the next day. She asked if i could come at the end of the night. So second session finishes and she asks to hang out afterwards, go for a drink.
We end up drinking all night and spending the night together. She gives me her number and we text here and there. She starts asking to see me every single night and starts calling me drunk when im not with her. I was so attracted to her that i let it go on and eventually we start seeing eachother all the time. I was travelling alot for work and she would literally fly on her days off to go see me. It was the weirdest relationship i have ever been in, with her talking about our future and making plans, saying that she loves me, etc.. and all the while i am thinking how can you be saying this when youre continuing your line of work. I know im not the person to judge, but i cant hell but feel it is all fake. I tell her this and next day she buys me a promise ring. An expensive one at that. Keep in mind she was literally paying for everything. She wouldnt let me spend one dime.
Ive never been treated that way and I couldnt help but feel she had some sort of ulterior motive. So the dating persists for months and eventually i go oversees for work. She begs me not to go. And offers to pay me to stay. She offered to match what i made to stay here and live with her.
By the end of it all it didnt end up working out. But it was a crazy experience. I have never shared this story in my life, as I feared i would be judged.
Just wanted to see if anyone else has gone through something similar. But its nice to just air it all out.
We end up drinking all night and spending the night together. She gives me her number and we text here and there. She starts asking to see me every single night and starts calling me drunk when im not with her. I was so attracted to her that i let it go on and eventually we start seeing eachother all the time. I was travelling alot for work and she would literally fly on her days off to go see me. It was the weirdest relationship i have ever been in, with her talking about our future and making plans, saying that she loves me, etc.. and all the while i am thinking how can you be saying this when youre continuing your line of work. I know im not the person to judge, but i cant hell but feel it is all fake. I tell her this and next day she buys me a promise ring. An expensive one at that. Keep in mind she was literally paying for everything. She wouldnt let me spend one dime.
Ive never been treated that way and I couldnt help but feel she had some sort of ulterior motive. So the dating persists for months and eventually i go oversees for work. She begs me not to go. And offers to pay me to stay. She offered to match what i made to stay here and live with her.
By the end of it all it didnt end up working out. But it was a crazy experience. I have never shared this story in my life, as I feared i would be judged.
Just wanted to see if anyone else has gone through something similar. But its nice to just air it all out.
LOL, I get what you mean. Rather get good service with less likelihood of developing feelings so you steer clear of repeating with providers you find extremely attractive.
This story jogged my memory. Years ago I was unknowingly dating a provider for a period of time. This was when I was a total civilian and had no idea how any of this works. I had thought it was odd she never talked about work, seemed to always have money, and would fly to different cities regularly but she was hot, we got along very well, and of course the sex was great. She would always buy me gifts, always catered to me in extremely thoughtful ways like starting the shower for me, cooking for me regularly, etc.
My suspicions arose when she attempted to tell me what she does for a living (even though I never asked). She said she was a "madame" but didn't provide services herself, just scheduled sessions and arranged for other SP's. I immediately thought that's a pretty thin line, running the show as opposed to performing in it. So I searched for her phone number online and up pops a craigslist ad that was clearly using her photos. I dug deeper and all the cities she was flying to used the same ad. Suffice to say, we didn't go any further together at that point. We're still friends though.
Count your blessings. That’s rare, she must have been lonely in Canada not knowing anyone.
"At the end it didn't work out"
So, what exactly are you asking for? It seems you already know the answer.
There are many people that have similar experiences. Yours sound like it's already in the past and its not that special. There are many examples here on perb and other online sources, so you shouldn't be worried about sharing it in the first place. It happens all the time in fact.
If it is in the present, then the question you should ask yourself is.
Can you accept the fact that she is still working when you two are "together"?
There are many people that can accept that factor and many cannot. Depends on if you can.
So, what exactly are you asking for? It seems you already know the answer.
There are many people that have similar experiences. Yours sound like it's already in the past and its not that special. There are many examples here on perb and other online sources, so you shouldn't be worried about sharing it in the first place. It happens all the time in fact.
If it is in the present, then the question you should ask yourself is.
Can you accept the fact that she is still working when you two are "together"?
There are many people that can accept that factor and many cannot. Depends on if you can.
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A couple years back, there was a post about an SP (kgirl) getting married here locally. The man was her client. A bunch of guy friends during the wedding after party were gossiping on who went and visited (f****d) the SP. Of course jokingly, but you know how some guys are.
These type of stigma is also involved. And people who are in the relationship should be aware and should be able to take the experience as a whole.
This is also why many kgirls DON'T actually want to stay here to live. They just want to make the money and go home and live a normal life.
These type of stigma is also involved. And people who are in the relationship should be aware and should be able to take the experience as a whole.
This is also why many kgirls DON'T actually want to stay here to live. They just want to make the money and go home and live a normal life.
OP you're killing me! you skipped the middle of the story lol
did you accept her offer and stay with her, and how did the remainder of the relationship go? or did you end it there? in the end do you suspect she was genuine or did she actually have some ulterior motive?
I know how some guys are...I wonder if they ever think about how many times their wife/girlfriend has been F***ed before? It really shouldn't matter.
I didnt end up taking the offer. My ego wouldnt let me do it. Although it wouldve been nice to be a sugar baby. LOL. Either way, it didnt work out because she actually ended up getting too insecure with what i was doing.
I guess it works both ways, you as a guy knowing your girl is with other dudes, and your girl knowing you could hop onto LL and do the same thing with another SP.
To this day I still feel like she had an ulterior motive. Our communication wasnt great. But she told me she loved me every chance she could. Something felt off.
I guess it works both ways, you as a guy knowing your girl is with other dudes, and your girl knowing you could hop onto LL and do the same thing with another SP.
To this day I still feel like she had an ulterior motive. Our communication wasnt great. But she told me she loved me every chance she could. Something felt off.
strange. maybe she was playing the long game and hoping to rope you into marriage for her benefit? or maybe your suspicion was off!
either way, thank you for sharing your story Jjjj. it was an interesting read. and that is why, among many other reasons, i have not and 100% will not ever be involved with an SP past or present. i know my limits and insecurities, and i couldn't handle the many things that i see as problematic with that kind of relationship
either way, thank you for sharing your story Jjjj. it was an interesting read. and that is why, among many other reasons, i have not and 100% will not ever be involved with an SP past or present. i know my limits and insecurities, and i couldn't handle the many things that i see as problematic with that kind of relationship
I think if you took the offer it would have eventually bothered you that she was paying for everything with her earnings. A few years later you would probably want her to quit if you wanted a serious long term relationship, but then poof no more earnings.
It's normal to have your antenna up since her marrying you could be her ticket to citizenship. Her getting drunk all the time is not a good sign, perhaps she was feeling trapped in a vicious cycle ?
Curious if you know she's still working and/or fishing for another sugar baby.
You shouldn't be embarassed at all by what happened to you.
I was seeing a Kgirl (not an provider) and we got into chatting about Korean dating culture - I was genuinely curious and wanted to compare what it was like with my background.
She says that typically the woman in the relationship pays for everything during the dating phase and once they are married the man will take care of the woman financially - so in a sense the woman in the relationship is essentially helping the man save in the long run because he will be making more money in his career. The wife would be a stay at home mom.
Sorry to hear how it ended. But if you had even the slightest doubt about her and her motives, then that's pretty much the end of that. I once was involved too, but in the end I knew it wasn't going to work out because that slight distrust I had would just grow everyday.
You know, it's probably for the best if that's how you feel. Don't want to be married to someone you couldn't trust because no matter how much they explain themselves, you won't be able to trust her.
Newsky, I think you really hit the nail on this one.
Trust means a lot. Some people can trust each other even in an open relationship. It really depends on what your personal line is.
Some people can keep a relationship while the SP is still working, some cannot.
It bothers some people if people knew about their past, and it doesn't bother some.
It better to know yourself and find the compatible mate from there.
Trust means a lot. Some people can trust each other even in an open relationship. It really depends on what your personal line is.
Some people can keep a relationship while the SP is still working, some cannot.
It bothers some people if people knew about their past, and it doesn't bother some.
It better to know yourself and find the compatible mate from there.
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