*~* would you date an sp? *~*

[Sinmelinoe]

I'm quite sure that Miss Cami is easy to fall in love with but did you actually read the opening statements of this thread (490 posts ago)? Or are you hoping that she'll make an exception? I wish you all the best!

erm, i guess i made you misunderstand me
the lady i wanna ask out is not Miss Cami

Ive never met Miss Cami before, but im sure shes a nice lady, in my case tho im dealing with somebody else, she is not a regular on this website so theres no point trying to guess

 

[Sinmelinoe]

Alex, I am just wondering why you think Sinmelinoe is referring to Cami in his post.

edit: are you referring to Cami, Sinmelinoe?

Nope Vanessa, you are right
I was talking about somebody else, i guess i really phrased it wrong, my intention was to "answer" Cami's post, but somehow it seemed like im "talking" about her ;(

 

[UhOh]

If she was honest about how she spent all her money, I would have to say money well spent.

The bottom line is, she is an amazing person, I have to ask her out even if that means I have to take some risks.

I'm getting the sense you haven't had many relationships if any at all. Sounds like your in dire need for a companion. Get a hobby or do volunteer work and wait it out for a conventional girl. Dating an SP: probability of success minimal, probability of heartbreak maximum. Unless you're an old guy with no other options or a pimp forget about it. I'm trying to do you a favor, sounds like you need it.


My post refers to dating an active SP

 

[PlayfulAlex]

Alex, I am just wondering why you think Sinmelinoe is referring to Cami in his post.

edit: are you referring to Cami, Sinmelinoe?

Oh I get it, you think that maybe he was just mentioning to Cami that he was thinking of asking her out...the lady in question. My bad...

Now that I've caught up with the other posts, I see that the question was answered...thanks for your patience with me, folks!

 

[Sinmelinoe]

Oh I get it, you think that maybe he was just mentioning to Cami that he was thinking of asking her out...the lady in question. My bad...

Now that I've caught up with the other posts, I see that the question was answered...thanks for your patience with me, folks!

no worries hon! prolly was my fault misleading you

 

[PlayfulAlex]

snip...My post refers to dating an active SP

...with financial problems, who just recently had a 3-hour appointment with someone who mostly talked throughout (a dream session?)...I don't think you're trying to be mean, I really think you're trying to give our guy some helpful advice. I'm sure she's an amazing person but theres a lot more to consider here.

 

[ltrain]

I'm getting the sense you haven't had many relationships if any at all. Sounds like your in dire need for a companion. Get a hobby or do volunteer work and wait it out for a conventional girl. Dating an SP: probability of success minimal, probability of heartbreak maximum. Unless you're an old guy with no other options or a pimp forget about it. I'm trying to do you a favor, sounds like you need it.


My post refers to dating an active SP

There really is no need for me to get defensive here, so I will choose not to say anything about my dating history and volunteer experience.
I am moving to a different city in a couple of months, probability of success is really not a concern right now.
Anyway, I want to thank you for taking the time to write this reply. I won't get myself into any real trouble.

 

[tadolder]

Oh I get it, you think that maybe he was just mentioning to Cami that he was thinking of asking her out...the lady in question. My bad...

Now that I've caught up with the other posts, I see that the question was answered...thanks for your patience with me, folks!

Its ok Alex i read it like you did.

 

[UhOh]

...with financial problems, who just recently had a 3-hour appointment with someone who mostly talked throughout (a dream session?)...I don't think you're trying to be mean, I really think you're trying to give our guy some helpful advice. I'm sure she's an amazing person but theres a lot more to consider here.

For me SP's are for fun. If I were feeling lonely the last thing I'd need would be having to pay for a companion. That would do serious damage to my self esteem.
I bet there are a ton of SP's here that are cool people to hang out with but a guy needing a companion is not a guy that could easily deal with sharing. If he makes due with that he would have to be at rock bottom.

Talking in general, not about anyone in particular.

 

[VanessaofBC]

For me SP's are for fun. If I were feeling lonely the last thing I'd need would be having to pay for a companion. That would do serious damage to my self esteem.
I bet there are a ton of SP's here that are cool people to hang out with but a guy needing a companion is not a guy that could easily deal with sharing. If he makes due with that he would have to be at rock bottom.

Talking in general, not about anyone in particular.

Please excuse me if I have misinterpreted this, but are you saying that if a man is dating a SP he is at "rock bottom". (bottom of the barrel.)

 

[Sinmelinoe]

Please excuse me if I have misinterpreted this, but are you saying that if a man is dating a SP he is at "rock bottom". (bottom of the barrel.)

seems thats what he believes

 

[yazoo]

Please excuse me if I have misinterpreted this, but are you saying that if a man is dating a SP he is at "rock bottom". (bottom of the barrel.)

I don't think that's what he means Vanessa - he just expressed himself poorly. He meant that if the only way you can have people like you is for you to pay them to pretend to like you then you must pretty unlikable.

It has no bearing on SP's.

My presumption though was that the OP was planning on asking this gal out in her capacity as a woman, not as an SP. Her occupation is just that - her occupation. If the OP is not ruled by his reptile brain, then he should at least give it a try if he gets a vibe that she may be interested.

Pretty hard to determine whether that vibe is true or not when you are paying for a GFE though...

 

[Man in Submission]

I don't think that's what he means Vanessa - he just expressed himself poorly. He meant that if the only way you can have people like you is for you to pay them to pretend to like you then you must pretty unlikable.

It has no bearing on SP's.

My presumption though was that the OP was planning on asking this gal out in her capacity as a woman, not as an SP. Her occupation is just that - her occupation. If the OP is not ruled by his reptile brain, then he should at least give it a try if he gets a vibe that she may be interested.

Pretty hard to determine whether that vibe is true or not when you are paying for a GFE though...

Regardless of vibe, I'm thinking you would be best served letting the lady take the lead though? Well, actually, I've always kinda done that myself, lol, but especially in this type of situation. If she is interested I'm sure the lady would let you know. I would suggest practising patience and being as supportive as possible without encroaching on her space and privacy.

 

[thebuttdance continues]

My advice would be: don't look for a relationship in the wrong places, urban cowboy ...a variation of that Johnny Lee song

I've seen her a few times already. The last session I had with her was a 3 hour session, we spent most of the time talking.



I am not sure if I should still ask her out. She suggested a duo session this time. I think it's pretty obvious that she will not go out with me

 

[webster333]

Dating an SP for me would be okay so long as we were both very open with our communication with each other. The idea of emotional monogamy is more important than physical so long as you know what is going on up front. There still needs to be common interests like any other relationship. Sex work is work.

 

[PlayfulAlex]

Dating an SP for me would be okay so long as we were both very open with our communication with each other. The idea of emotional monogamy is more important than physical so long as you know what is going on up front. There still needs to be common interests like any other relationship. Sex work is work.

If only it worked this way.........................................but it mostly doesn't.

The guy typically thinks that, if she's getting extra sex (whether or not she enjoys herself, regardless of who she sees or how well she may be performing during her GFE), then he should too. The only thing is that her extra sex is for work, while his is for pleasure. So the emotional/physical monogamy line, although it may start out reasonably clear, begins to blur.

So I'll stick with single!

 

[1nitestan]

I know a few mechanics...who work on cars all day. They drive the shittiest cars as their personal vehicles. Just sayin'

 

[kauffman]

Work always comes first. That's why. It's kinda like dating a cop or firefighter or anyone w/ an on-call job (code blue!!! someone needs his dick sucked! Stat!!! LOL). Work happens and leisure time gets pushed. Granted, not every SP schedules this way. Some ladies are so financially unstable/inconsistent that any opportunity to make cash trumps everything else. Just gotta deal with it.

When someone is really into you they will FIND the time to spend with you. It's not likely that work comes first in All situations but work comes before YOU. When someone excites me I will always figure out a way to see them and vise versa if someone is REALLY interested in me he will do what he can to make sure that it happens. When money and work become excuses all the time then the motivation is clearly not there.
It'e easier to believe that she's unstable and inconsistant than to consider perhaps that she's just not that into you. AN SP job is nothing like a cop or firefighter.

 

[BORKO]

I've been wondering lately if its even possible for an sp or former sp to have a "normal" relationship. My SO & I for the past few years rarely go out and do anything together. When we do go out he's really irritable. He recently confessed to me he's uncomfortable being out with me because any time another man looks at me he wonders if its a client/ former client. Ive been working for 8 years so I can understand where he's coming from but wow its not a good feeling when the person I'm sharing my life with pretty much just admitted he's ashamed of me.

Doesn't really sound like that relationship is working though. Is it just the escort part or is it something more?

 

[VanessaofBC]

Dating an SP for me would be okay so long as we were both very open with our communication with each other. The idea of emotional monogamy is more important than physical so long as you know what is going on up front. There still needs to be common interests like any other relationship. Sex work is work.

That is a great phrase "emotional monogamy".

I know a few mechanics...who work on cars all day. They drive the shittiest cars as their personal vehicles. Just sayin'

I don't know what your sayin' but I think it's kinda funny.

I've been wondering lately if its even possible for an sp or former sp to have a "normal" relationship. My SO & I for the past few years rarely go out and do anything together. When we do go out he's really irritable. He recently confessed to me he's uncomfortable being out with me because any time another man looks at me he wonders if its a client/ former client. Ive been working for 8 years so I can understand where he's coming from but wow its not a good feeling when the person I'm sharing my life with pretty much just admitted he's ashamed of me.

That is a sad story, get rid of him.