Krustee, you really do sound sad. So you're saying it's all about addictions, sexual for the clients, chemical for the SPs, and about abuse, emptiness and of course all that money spent.
I've said earlier in this thread that I don't begrudge one penny I've spent on this pastime, but you seem to regret all of it.
That really is sad.
BS, you should realize that I am no novice to this hobby.
I have participated in it more than 15 years now.
I have seen incredible cruelty.
I have seen the lowest of the low, people who were mere shells of a human being out selling their bodies on Hastings.
I've been ripped off more times than I can count & when I first started it was a hard lesson I learned about the "Seymour Girls" & their masterful art of the "upsell".
Prior to starting this hobby I generally believed you could look at a person & tell whether or not they were honest & you could take them at their word.
Time & experience has taught me that gals in the escort business are among the most skilled swindlers in the world!
For many of them the word scruples is not even in their vocabulary.
Many of you will say well Krustee it's all your fault that you get ripped off.
Not true!
I started out very nice & naive & was taken advantage of for a couple years before I started to harden.
Once I became a bit more savvy what to look for with a provider my "luck" seemed to change.
What is it that makes some of these gals lower themselves to blatant theft & swindling of clients?
That is what Shelby is talking about, people who begin to lose their integrity & humanity through this occupation.
Many of the gals who ripped me off had probably been abused by other men & had no compunction doing something dishonest or unjust to me.
This occupation like few others in the world is exposed to the absolute worst of humanity.
How many here have never heard of an escort, hooker, SP, prostitute, floozy, 'Lady of the night', strumpet or courtesan being murdered?
How many have heard of the prostitutes who caused Spitzer & Swaggart to step down?
The gals Spitzer was seeing from the Emperors Club VIP, charged as much as $5,500 an hour.
Some claim these escort agencies were paid from the travel expenses of Spitzer & many other politicians, businessmen & civic leaders.
So that means that Joe taxpayer is actually the one footing the bill for this.
hardly what I would call justice!
That lady's picture on the article - she looks souled out like an empty shell but good for her for changing things around.
Krustee I hear what you are saying about all the money spent. Some SP's may feel the same in that they have/had money but they no longer have the chance to have a family or children. I think that is the saddest thing. I don't feel sad myself but I do think that SP' s have to be very careful to take good care of themselves and not work too hard. It seems to block your spirit when all you do is work and it becomes a lifestyle - that's when vices come into play. I am no expert by any means and can't speak for all SP's; I am only speaking from my own personal experience
I appreciate your candor & being willing to say what so many SP's are afraid of saying or even becoming public knowledge, cuz they want their clients to think this is the best business in the world & that ALL escorts love their clients & just want to make them happy.
Truth is this is a business & I am willing to hand out the title of my home to anyone who prove otherwise.
I challenge any guy here to tell his SP the next time he talks to her that she should give him a "freebie" because he has been such a good client.
You'll either get hung up on or slapped!
Most of these women would not give you the time of the day if you were not paying for their congeniality.
Ya wanna see how much they care?
Loan an escort $1000 & see how long it takes to get the money back!
After loaning money to those who absolutely begged me to help them - I've only been paid back once.
Don't get me wrong I am not saying all gals are like that I'm just saying that most are in my experience.
It does not matter how nice YOU are ...
it matters how nice they are.
Maybe it doesn't make sense... but I have worked in the industry consistently for the last 4 years. Prior, I have worked off and on since age 17.
So far, I remain unscathed. I have retired for long periods, and have a regular vocation. I've never been in a position where I have HAD to remain in the industry.
One of the reasons is that I do enjoy it.
So it's possible to be unscathed, and enjoy this work. Some of it is up to chance, and some of it is playing safer.
Some of the girls I know who have been around a long time (or are retired), are also unscathed. Many of us don't harbor addictions (other than a sweet tooth lol).
I won't lie and say that my relationships aren't affected. I could not date and be an escort - it is rare that one should find a gentlement that is secure enough to be able to be comfortable with "sharing me". I am ok with this though, as dating isn't for me at the moment
Although I do have friends outside of the industry, I now find myself gravitating to other escorts.... as the facade when meeting "squares" can get exhausting. It's nice to be able to have associates to talk to, and takes away some of the burden of lying to family!
It is rare indeed Odette that a gal has her head on well enough to survive the occasional trying times in this industry.
I agree with you that there is chance & choice that affects the outcome for a provider.
As you say, "playing it safer" is what makes the difference in my opinion.
Some gals take this to the extreme & others do not take it serious enough or at all.
It just adds to the risk you are placing yourself in when you do not make intelligent choices on who you see & how you ply your trade.
there are goodplumbers and bad plumbers, good salespeople and poor sales people, good polititians and rotten polititians. SPs are no different. Some love what they do and some hate it. Everyone makes choices about what they will and will not do and how they will or will not do it. The real difference between all other professions and SPs is how the profession is viewed by housewife prostitutes who view honest working girls as competition. That leads to all kinds of political and religious persecution. What most housewives fail to understand is that without SPs to relieve the pressure, the divorce rate would skyrocket.
Wow sailor, you sound like an authority here.
I don't think divorce rates would skyrocket personally.
Let's keep in mind that while the men are cheating on their wives, in this day & age you have a lot of the wives cheating on their husbands too.
Being faithful to your spouse seems to be some kind of fairy tale to the "Y" generation.
As for an escort being like any other occupation I seriously think you are oversimplifying things.
What other occupation do you know of where you are being paid to fuck or suck somebody?
Do you not think that kinda thing is just a wee bit more personal than some greasy guy turning a wrench on your car or a nurse sticking a thermometer up your ass?
Isn't spraying your jizz all over the face of some SP a bit more personal than being a bank teller or shaking hands during an election campaign like politicians? (or "polititians")
I dunno man ...
seems to me the sex trade really has no easily comparable occupation.
Like I have said before, you are selling something that was never meant to be sold.
Human intimacy is a gift it's not a commodity!
If you gotta bust a nut then go for it but let's not make out like it's the greatest thing since sliced bread!
Making love to the person you love is the greatest thing there is.
Busting your nut in some stranger you had to pay is just hedonism with a price tag.
I meet a lot of nurses on disability, mostly for mental stress. That is one stressful job. Sometimes they are asked to do or not to do things and it goes against their conscience. They are often poorly treated by both doctors and patients. I don't see any Christian groups agonizing over these women who now live on disability and not very well btw.
The reality is these groups hate prostitutes. They think we are dirty. They wouldn't care if we all died right now, just so long as we didn't do it inconveniently in their neighbourhood. They don't wanna save us. They wanna get rid of us.
Oh, and the young women they offer up as reformed prostitutes, really? How do we know they were anything more than party whores at their local high school.
Like I said above, there is no equal to the sex trade.
Nurses do sometimes have a rough row to hoe but I also have seen them be incredibly lazy!
You should see some video shot of nurses ignoring patients as they gossip with one another & socialize when they are supposed to be working.
Nurses are not immune from the "lazy gene".
I've seen some go through a rough time but I've also seen how rewarding that job can be when practiced by a person who shows they care about their patients.
As for your assumption that Christians just want to kill & get rid of prostitutes ...
THAT'S RIDICULOUS!
I know many Christian folks who genuinely care about those they try to help & not only would but sometimes do give the shirts off their back to help!
I can certainly imagine a wife, who may or may not be Christian, being upset enough to want you dead if she found out her husband was fucking you though.
I guess you would not mind at all if you found the reason your husband stopped having sex with you is because he was sleeping with a paid provider eh?
I especially can see how understanding you would be when you found out he spent the money you needed to buy school clothes for the kids on a hooker - right ...
you would be understanding of his needs wouldn't you?
That is all
