to add my voice as "4th sp"....
all providers should ask for the donation up front especially with a new client. there are a few of my regulars who i do not worry about and allow to pay after the fact but even that can be a risk
through out my career, as a boring, lackluster,lazy sp, (happy lenny?)anytime i have given an inch the client takes a mile. it leaves us open to rip off, less pay than was negotiated or no pay at all for services already received. unfortunately while most clients are honest and respctful, the few clients who do treat us badly define the rules.
i used to entertain 2 men at once in my incall, not any more after 2 men stole my rent money. the same goes for the donation after. a man who was my regular and i allowed to leave the donation after, didn't bother deciding instead to rip me off leaving without paying. he did not try to contact me for a few months but then tried to call me and come back as my client!!what a tool!
i always leave the donation in plain sight until after the session is over to put clients at ease but even this practice is a risk. i've had men try to take all or part of the donation back after the fact and have almost had to physically fight on 1 occassion.
you guys asserting that we will "loose" clients as a result of stating our "money up front" policy is a red herring. all sp's of any experience ask for the money up front and any workers who do not currently up hold this tradtion, are only 1 rip off away from embracing the practice.
nice though that you are assembling a list of workers people could exploit as a result of their inexperience.
You make it sound like this is the only industry that is at risk for a rip off Susi. EVERY INDUSTRY IS AT RISK OF RIP-OFFS.
The issue is that you assume that all men are dishonest and you treat them like they are. I have been asserting that I actually appreciate it when a provider doesn't treat me as such. Just like I appreciate it when I go to a fine restaurant - I don't have to prepay when I go to Hy's or Il Terrazzo to dine, do you??
For gods sakes, no one likes to get ripped off, but you make it sound like if it actually happened once or twice because a provider acts in a certain way to cater to the comforts of her client that it would be the end of the world. What's the worst that happens?!?! You lost an hour of your time? It only has REAL implications if you decide to "physically fight" as you said - and that's where you fuck up. Every retail owner tells there employees to just let a thief go...why would you do it differently and put yourself at risk. Its only dangerous if you decide to fight over it.
You said that "the few clients who do treat (you) badly define the rules". Why should I, as a paying client, have to accept that?? I think that if there are escorts that rip off clients out there, that this should "define the rules" - at least on any transactions I pay for.
According to your line of thinking EVERYTHING THAT A CLIENT SEEKS IS EXPLOITING A PROVIDER. If I want sex from an sp, I'm exploiting them in exchange for payment of cash. If I want a bj I'm exploiting them. If I want bbbj, I'm exploiting them...where does it stop.
Get off your high horse. Again...don't provide a service if you don't want to. But don't make exaggerated accusations painting us as if we're exploiting children or beating women up. That's what upsets me the most about the accusations in this thread.