Why get hung up on one tree? For the sake of love, which creates a truly sad scenario.
Would you dump a hot looking girl if she said....
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She never said she wasnt interested in having sex at all. Told me whoever she is dating seriously that once or twice a month is plenty. Also told me that's how most females are and think. That if guys want sex daily or every few days then they are perverts and have mental issues. I just calculated that if i where to have sex with her and we dated then it's more costly than having escorts.
If you are dating someone you probably won't be having sex with them on a daily basis. If you are living together it would be more frequent. It is just a matter of how much time you spend together, how much "alone" time you have and how often the conditions are right. If this girl is relatively young, living at home and just starting a relationship, she is probably not going to be banging you all that often. That is just the way of the world. That would change as she gets older (and more experienced), moves out to live on her own or the relationship has been going on for a while.
Btw, if you are doing calculations comparing the relative costs of having a girlfriend compared to visiting an SP, you probably have no business being in a relationship in the first place. The purpose of having a relationship isn't so you can get frequent cheap sex. Well, maybe it is to you, but I doubt it is to most women.
Dude it's not the first time i ever dated. Actually, you mention something about her being young and that's the way of the world etc. I had some dates who where just as young and I got to bang them a few times a week. If they are this lame before marriage ...i cant imagine them getting better afterwards. I had a friend who married one of these girls who told him how discusting & demeaning a blowjob was. Also this guy gets it 1-2 times a month....man that's so fuckin depressing.
I wouldn't even consider a relationship with any female who wasn't a total nympho.
It would have to be several times a day, if she's going to be around all the time.
Otherwise she'd have to do her own thing while i whack off or go see SWs.
Welcome to married life in your 40's, with two kids, a mortgage, and two working parents. I'm sure 3/4 of the guys here fit that mold, and that's why we're on a site like this.
Beat me to it..if a couple of times a month as a problem don't even think of getting married.
She never said she wouldn't have sex with him, she merely said she doesn't want sex more than a couple of times a month. My point is that a woman can say what they want, but until the deed's been done, who knows how she's going to react afterwards. My guess is that if she enjoys herself, she'll be back for more, and least that's been my personal experience, but apparently it's not universal.
The worst thing, IMHO, going into a relationship is expecting the other person to change for you. If she doesn't change, you'll resent her. If she changes soley to please you, she'll come to resent you. But hey, if it works for you, who am I to judge?
I had people in this forum tell me just to bang her and maybe she'll change. But like wilde suggested people are hard to change and if they do then there might be resentment.
There's a lot of mights and maybe's in this sentence..and the bottom line is you're never going to know one way or the other..
Why not just have fun and keep your expectations low?
Why not just have fun and keep your expectations low?
True. I need it 3 times a day, preferably for 1 hour each time, plus the same for foreplay.
So 6 hours a day would be great, plus cuddling times.
If she doesn't change, go see SP's inbetween sex with her. Give it a try at least,
and then you won't regret missing out on what might have been with a stunner.
Who knows, maybe she'll go BB like the other you had. That would be fun, eh?
You can always break up with her later, if she cuts you back to once a year or
gets really bitchy {which would be reasonable excuses to leave her}. For the
sake of the forum here you should take one for the team, cause we all, 100%
of us, want to know what happens if you just go for it. After all, life is short.
Furthermore, there may be resentment in any relationship that breaks up, so
are you going to give up on them completely due to a fear of that? Living in fear
is no way to live, if it's even life at all.
I did call her and she's open to hooking up again. I'll pump whores on the side and see how this goes.
If its not the first time you have ever dated then you would know that girls come with a wide range of experience. Some start when they are 12, others when they are 18. Obviously their attitude is going to reflect that. If she is young and inexperienced she still has to grow. If she doesn't have a lot of experience (or none at all) then you are way off the mark if you think you are going to be banging her at every opportunity. It isn't going to happen and she will resent you for trying. For a girl like that you have to ease into it, and if you mess it up then yes, she will think that you are being disgusting. If you take a girl like that and push her, she will push back. You have to allow her to find herself.
And as I said, having sex is not the same thing as having a relationship. While intimacy is important to maintain a relationship, if you don't have a relationship the sex is going to stop or not happen. If the main thing you are interested in is sex, and that is the primary criteria you are using for a "relationship", then I can guarentee that you are not going to be getting it when you get older and have been married or "involved" for a long time, and become one of those sad confused guys who visit our ladies. This is something that many men find out, allthough most don't understand what is going on when it happens.
