*~* would you date an sp? *~*
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hmmm, seems like a legit question and an goofy question at the same time. If one has hemmed one's life in to abide by 'social norms' the answer would have to be no and the question legit. On the other hand if one can live their own life without regard for what the neighbour thinks then its a goofy question in that the relationship one chooses ought to be the one that makes the person happiest without regard for anything outside the two involved. It may seem that would take mental strength but in reality all it takes is living your life, the life you want, not the life those "watching" want you to live.
Put that question to gay people. Some continue to hide in the closet for the social norms reason even though social norms are changing. Some our out and living their lives like there is no tomorrow.
In life we take chances and that includes every relationship we choose to become involved in - there are a couple quotes out there that we have all read or heard but few of us live by.
It's better to burn out than fade away (Neil Young and later repeated by Nirvana
Life's journey is not to arrive at the grave safely in a well preserved body, but rather to slide in sideways, totally worn out, shouting "Holy Shit, what a ride!"
Put that question to gay people. Some continue to hide in the closet for the social norms reason even though social norms are changing. Some our out and living their lives like there is no tomorrow.
In life we take chances and that includes every relationship we choose to become involved in - there are a couple quotes out there that we have all read or heard but few of us live by.
It's better to burn out than fade away (Neil Young and later repeated by Nirvana
Life's journey is not to arrive at the grave safely in a well preserved body, but rather to slide in sideways, totally worn out, shouting "Holy Shit, what a ride!"
I never ask a SP out I let her lead the way and ask me. I offer to pay and if she says she just wants to spend time and does not want to be paid. Then I would go out with her. I would never ever ask them to go out unless I was paying them. I love it when they ask what am I doing later or if they come back to my room or emails me or calls me to tell me they want to see me. That is the only way I would go out with them other wise it is a pay as you go.
So personally I would ask her. Keep it professional until she chamges the situation. Then if she does ask I would take for dinner take her on a trip or take her shopping like a real date. I would not expect sex unless she wants me but she has to make it very clear she wants me to make love to her. Just because she is a SP she might not want to jump into bed. I really leave that up to her. I really respect her as a person not think of her as a SP.
Just my thoughts
Good luck.
I never ask a SP out I let her lead the way and ask me. I offer to pay and if she says she just wants to spend time and does not want to be paid. Then I would go out with her. I would never ever ask them to go out unless I was paying them. I love it when they ask what am I doing later or if they come back to my room or emails me or calls me to tell me they want to see me. That is the only way I would go out with them other wise it is a pay as you go.
So personally I would ask her. Keep it professional until she chamges the situation. Then if she does ask I would take for dinner take her on a trip or take her shopping like a real date. I would not expect sex unless she wants me but she has to make it very clear she wants me to make love to her. Just because she is a SP she might not want to jump into bed. I really leave that up to her. I really respect her as a person not think of her as a SP.
Just my thoughts
Good luck.
Thank you for taking the time to reply.
I would love to do that for her, but my situation is complicated, I really can't wait till she leads the way. I might as well just ask her next time I see her.
I did... for a few months.
I was fun from the start, but things got weird and I travel for work and trust became an issue for both of us wondering if the other was going behind the other back.
We had a 3 hour dinner dinner discussion about it and felt it was better off to leave it as is...remain friends with some benefits and not let emotions run its course down the road.
Sadly...the sex wasn't the same anymore so things ended.... you live, you learn.
I was fun from the start, but things got weird and I travel for work and trust became an issue for both of us wondering if the other was going behind the other back.
We had a 3 hour dinner dinner discussion about it and felt it was better off to leave it as is...remain friends with some benefits and not let emotions run its course down the road.
Sadly...the sex wasn't the same anymore so things ended.... you live, you learn.
Yea everytime you say you are friend or the "R" wordenters the discussion it always ends badly. Nice to know I am not the only one.
Yea everytime you say you are friend or the "R" wordenters the discussion it always ends badly. Nice to know I am not the only one.
If she says no, you can always ask for a session. It's like having 2 bites at the cherry, so to speak.
Well, I think I will pay the donation first and then ask her out. If she says no I will probably just leave. But again, since she's having some financial problems, I wouldn't mind seeing her in the future if she's ok with thatIf she says no, you can always ask for a session. It's like having 2 bites at the cherry, so to speak.
Are you saying that you haven't even met her yet but you're going to ask her out with no preamble? Like you're attracted to her body or her face but have little knowledge about her personality or her interests or her actual lifestyle?
Or is this date request going to be during a follow-up visit, only you're not interested in the service this time? If so, that's kinda cute. Hope it works out!
I've seen her a few times already. The last session I had with her was a 3 hour session, we spent most of the time talking.
I am not sure if I should still ask her out. She suggested a duo session this time. I think it's pretty obvious that she will not go out with me
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So the question is this:
GUYS: Have you/Would you date an SP? Why or why not?
LADIES: Would you care to share some of your "real world relationship" experiences while working? I prefer running my business while blissfully unattached... Makes my life easier... How about you?
I CAN't wait to hear everyone's insight. I'm sure it will be fascinating.....
hmmm, Cami, I already wanna ask her out, but to be honest im just scared as hell :fear:
I really really like her, even tho its not so long we've met each other, but i just cant stop thinking about her, im simply trying to give it more time, so may be we can get to know each other a little more before me actually asking her out.
Honestly im not that worried about what may happen in our relation later on, whether its gonna hurt us or not, am i going to be jealous or not ...
I believe every relation regardless of the 2 person involved in it, can and always will have some hardships, many of them will go south, now granted when one partner has a profession that deals with companionship it makes it slightly more risky, but thats all to it i guess. you can say the same about relations that happen when you are younger, or when someone falls in love for her/his boss, or exactly when you like someone "more than your usual", in all these situations if you lose your gamble it will hurt you more than a so called "regular encounter" at a bar, but no one will suggest anyone not to try it simply because "if it fails its gonna hurt a lot!!". thats what commitment means, bringing all you have to the table. thats what i believe.
I understand that jealousy to a little extend, not as some posters has mentioned here, but i too do feel worry about whats gonna happen, but thats who she is and this is what she does; and i dont think its a bad thing. i think whats important is to not let the jealousy turn into some kinda bitterness in hope of controlling my partner, but that aside, its also part of caring.
if im going to be a partner, i should be able to handle it, so she be able to talk about it, and frankly i really wish those other men who she sees threat her nicely.
What scares me the most is "will she say yes?"
for now my plan is to wait till her birthday, i bring flowers for her, so she most likely already knows how i feel, but i think asking her for dinner on her birthday (which is about 1 month from now) can be a good occasion to make it "her" night instead of mine.
but that relies heavily on my assumption that shes gonna be free on that night and no plans to be with friends/family...
urgh! its getting a very looooong post >_<
tl;dr : yes i would, and probably will, why? because i like her, because i would love to take dance classes with her, because i wanna go camping with her, because i want to take her hand and walk with her on streets
An SP with financial problems, seriously dude? Do yourself a favor, stay home and beat off.
Maybe sponsor a hot asian for permanent residency, work out an "arrangement" in the mean time during the waiting period.
If she was honest about how she spent all her money, I would have to say money well spent.
The bottom line is, she is an amazing person, I have to ask her out even if that means I have to take some risks.
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LADIES: Would you care to share some of your "real world relationship" experiences while working? I prefer running my business while blissfully unattached... Makes my life easier... How about you?
I CAN't wait to hear everyone's insight. I'm sure it will be fascinating.....
I'm quite sure that Miss Cami is easy to fall in love with but did you actually read the opening statements of this thread (490 posts ago)? Or are you hoping that she'll make an exception? I wish you all the best!
Alex, I am just wondering why you think Sinmelinoe is referring to Cami in his post.
edit: are you referring to Cami, Sinmelinoe?
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