*~* would you date an sp? *~*

[PlayfulAlex]

Not a popular opinion, but I agree it could possibly be biology.... But that's why God invented 3somes :nod:
You know what Robin Williams said... God Gave men 2 heads, a big one and a little one, but only enough blood flow to control one at a time... (Sorry guys, just a lil crack at your expense! LOL!)

This is part of the problem. When I've engaged in a 3-some with an SO in the past, bringing another lady into our bedroom, I found that my partner actually rather ignored me, and his focus was on 'the new toy'... call it biology, or whatever but, if he really wanted to have his cake and eat it too, he should have let the big head do some of the thinking. As it was, I lost a lot of respect for him that night...

 

[Cami Parker]

That is true...I've always tried to go above and beyond to give an SO whatever they desire in and out of bed. I had one that did this to me as well, and when I asked him why, he actually had the audacity to say "well, I'm with you all the time, I'm never going to see her again, so I want to take advantage of the situation." Basically he was cheating, but didnt feel he was since i was there, although basically just watching. It was HORRIBLE and I totally feel your pain. Needless to say, he got dumped.
But then I had another SO, who loved for me to be the star of the show and simply wanted a beautiful ladies assistance in devouring me from head to toe....And that was a lot of fun. I think that in order for a 3some within a relationship to work, it must be all about the lady that is in the relationship, given women's natural.... "Concerns"... with having another woman in bed with her man... I think that the man can make a 3some either an entirely miserable or completely wonderful experience for his SO, based on his thought process, his actions and the type of man he is.

This is part of the problem. When I've engaged in a 3-some with an SO in the past, bringing another lady into our bedroom, I found that my partner actually rather ignored me, and his focus was on 'the new toy'... call it biology, or whatever but, if he really wanted to have his cake and eat it too, he should have let the big head do some of the thinking. As it was, I lost a lot of respect for him that night...

 

[Cami Parker]

Yeaa, I guess everyone is different... But I still stand by the argument of biology! Lol

Don't necessarily agree with that. Every relationship that I was in, I never cheated .If one of us got bored we parted ways. Being together is a choice, just as cheating is a choice.
I'd much rather be single and poon as opposed to being with someone I can't stand being with.
Just my 2 cents.

 

[luvsdaty]

Yeaa, I guess everyone is different... But I still stand by the argument of biology! Lol

Agreed, i'm not saying I didn't notice other women while I was in a relationship.I just didn't act on any biological feelings I may have had.

 

[PlayfulAlex]

snip...I think that in order for a 3some within a relationship to work, it must be all about the lady that is in the relationship, given women's natural.... "Concerns"... with having another woman in bed with her man... I think that the man can make a 3some either an entirely miserable or completely wonderful experience for his SO, based on his thought process, his actions and the type of man he is.

Hence, why he and I are no longer together!

 

[sevenofnine]

I always found the comment interesting from an sp,

They would expect the guy their guy to still sleep with other girls sp's included.

Why?

I was faithful to my wife until she announced one day sex wasn't going to happen between the two of us any more.

I have been in this hobby ten years and most of it with one lady. She just does it for me.
I see other women from time to time but rarely.
Its funny but the emotions we have going on and the physical stuff just work.

I look around see other women younger different, but then go to her.

We are very close but have never had the talk or announced that we are a couple or an item, well the last time, never mind

But my point is, Im almost 100 percent faithful to her now,
if we ever got together and said lets try this you and me and see where it goes.

Its like hell I would cheat on her, I wouldn't want to.
But sp's always assume their guy would not be faithful its a given.

 

[sevenofnine]

Some one mentioned along time ago,
that in healthy relationships sex goes way down the list in terms of what is important.

But when your involved with an sp, it kind of, sex, just kind of gets thrown in your face.

Its one of the reasons why I am on this website, and she works and advertizes from another
I got rather emotional with an sp, still am by the way.

and you go online, you read reviews and see her flirting with other guys. Sex becomes an issue or more important then it should be.

I have no idea anything but what the lady tells me.
I know everything pretty much about her personal life, but nothing about her business life.

 

[PlayfulAlex]

Noted, and with thanks ladies.

But like the lottery, I find that if you are ever actually prepared, you'll never win.
It’s like all the millionaires for a few years that later file for bankruptcy not knowing how to treat all that money.
In this case, a lucky mans wins the sex lottery and squanders his windfall.

I can’t say that my SO would dominate my attention with someone new, but I’d be damned sure that she was being seen to by our new partner when exploring the unknown for myself.

Out of curiosity, what about him kissing the other?
Lots, some, very little, not at all?

Oh well, his loss, due to being a dumb fuck, sorry.

Luck is Preparation meeting Opportunity!

As for kissing, again, in fair proportions, why not, as long as he's kissing us both...I am not to be considered dinner, while she gets to be considered dessert! I can get pissed off really fast!

And, btw, I wasn't referring to being seen to by our new partner...that is equally lame. I'm not talking about her attention on me during this tryst, I'm talking about his fair attention on us both.

 

[To-lick]

My answer to your curious question, yes I have and will again if the opportunity arises again. I believe it really depends on each individual. It worked really well for me at the time. And the reason that we ended things were because she moved away. She was older than me by a few years and we were both really independent but we also spent a lot of time together as a couple.

Yes people will look at her when you're together on the street. Who wouldn't? I personally don't mind that people are looking also not to fazed on what they're thinking. All I know is that we're enjoying our time together living life. She stayed doing what she did and it worked for us. That relationship lasted for a while.

There were a couple of minor ground rules that she actually brought up but neither one of us got jealous.
That was one of relations I've had. The other ended due to life changes on both our parts.

To-lick

 

[PlayfulAlex]

That would seem difficult to balance though.
Have you ever seen a guy with a new (car, phone, GF, video game, anything!)
Men tend to obsess in the very beginning so unless he in unattracted and the 3rd is for the lady, then I think it would be hard to have a mental 50% going on when someone new is in front of you.

From the post I quoted before, it seemed more like you just didn’t want to be watching and not involved.

So much work, I hope you're worth it

Please don't assume that I'm just laying there on the bed, going Do Me! I'm an equally engaged part of the 3some.

It's just very obvious that, if too much time goes by, and boyfriend doesn't seem to notice that you're there too, then 3some swinging just isn't going to work for us.

If I brought a lady into our bed (a third) and you think it's just too much work to pay attention to me (both of us), then I made a grave error in judgment as to who you are, and who we are to each other...if your one climax is with her, that's OK, just don't not notice that I'm there too, include me in the fun. She and I are probably sharing your man parts just fine. It's called respect.

I prefer to go out with men that have more brain capacity than that.

(yes, it's a touchy subject...)

 

[Cami Parker]

RIGHT!!! It's monogamy is 100% possible as a conscious choice, just not completely natural... L

Agreed, i'm not saying I didn't notice other women while I was in a relationship.I just didn't act on any biological feelings I may have had.

 

[Cami Parker]

Sometimes you just gotta kick em to the curb!

Hence, why he and I are no longer together!

 

[Cami Parker]

It's only because we meet so many men that aren't, and obviously we NEVER meet the ones that are ound:

I always found the comment interesting from an sp,

They would expect the guy their guy to still sleep with other girls sp's included.

Why?

I was faithful to my wife until she announced one day sex wasn't going to happen between the two of us any more.

I have been in this hobby ten years and most of it with one lady. She just does it for me.
I see other women from time to time but rarely.
Its funny but the emotions we have going on and the physical stuff just work.

I look around see other women younger different, but then go to her.

We are very close but have never had the talk or announced that we are a couple or an item, well the last time, never mind

But my point is, Im almost 100 percent faithful to her now,
if we ever got together and said lets try this you and me and see where it goes.

Its like hell I would cheat on her, I wouldn't want to.
But sp's always assume their guy would not be faithful its a given.

 

[BORKO]

It's only because we meet so many men that aren't, and obviously we NEVER meet the ones that are ound:

Don't you meet the single guys that are seeing hookers because they are waiting for Ms. Right?

 

[Cami Parker]

I really like to kiss, and I think it adds so much to an intimate experience, so I wouldn't take that away from him (assuming I get my fair share of kisses from him daily) I would hope that I would get to kiss the lady a lot too!!

Noted, and with thanks ladies.

But like the lottery, I find that if you are ever actually prepared, you'll never win.
It’s like all the millionaires for a few years that later file for bankruptcy not knowing how to treat all that money.
In this case, a lucky mans wins the sex lottery and squanders his windfall.

I can’t say that my SO would dominate my attention with someone new, but I’d be damned sure that she was being seen to by our new partner when exploring the unknown for myself.

Out of curiosity, what about him kissing the other?
Lots, some, very little, not at all?

 

[Cami Parker]

But it sounds like you don't want to know about her professional life?
And I always think good sex is SUPER important in any relationship...
But then again, I'm an SP, aren't I? :nod:
Lol

Some one mentioned along time ago,
that in healthy relationships sex goes way down the list in terms of what is important.

But when your involved with an sp, it kind of, sex, just kind of gets thrown in your face.

Its one of the reasons why I am on this website, and she works and advertizes from another
I got rather emotional with an sp, still am by the way.

and you go online, you read reviews and see her flirting with other guys. Sex becomes an issue or more important then it should be.

I have no idea anything but what the lady tells me.
I know everything pretty much about her personal life, but nothing about her business life.

 

[Cami Parker]

Riiiight... I wouldn't want to be an obligation... I'm sure our new lady is lovely, but I'm a pretty tasty treat myself!

Oh well, his loss, due to being a dumb fuck, sorry.

Luck is Preparation meeting Opportunity!

As for kissing, again, in fair proportions, why not, as long as he's kissing us both...I am not to be considered dinner, while she gets to be considered dessert! I can get pissed off really fast!

And, btw, I wasn't referring to being seen to by our new partner...that is equally lame. I'm not talking about her attention on me during this tryst, I'm talking about his fair attention on us both.

 

[Cami Parker]

Well I've had some guys that are not so into being with another girl, but more into watching me with another girl.... Everyone has a different approach, I guess...
It's a tough call...

That would seem difficult to balance though.
Have you ever seen a guy with a new (car, phone, GF, video game, anything!)
Men tend to obsess in the very beginning so unless he in unattracted and the 3rd is for the lady, then I think it would be hard to have a mental 50% going on when someone new is in front of you.

From the post I quoted before, it seemed more like you just didn’t want to be watching and not involved.

So much work, I hope you're worth it

 

[Man Mountain]

Cami, you really gotta learn how to multiquote! :fear:

 

[Cami Parker]

Wow, very insightful.
Thank you so much for sharing your story. It really shears a lot of light on an intriguing topic and shows a really different perspective. Thank you very much for that, an open mind is very well rewarded as you clearly found out...

My answer to your curious question, yes I have and will again if the opportunity arises again. I believe it really depends on each individual. It worked really well for me at the time. And the reason that we ended things were because she moved away. She was older than me by a few years and we were both really independent but we also spent a lot of time together as a couple.

Yes people will look at her when you're together on the street. Who wouldn't? I personally don't mind that people are looking also not to fazed on what they're thinking. All I know is that we're enjoying our time together living life. She stayed doing what she did and it worked for us. That relationship lasted for a while.

There were a couple of minor ground rules that she actually brought up but neither one of us got jealous.
That was one of relations I've had. The other ended due to life changes on both our parts.

To-lick