Everyone has different reasons for pooning. This board is a place where we don't make judgements about those choices.
I also don't make judgements about the girls that are sp's. Most I've met are super people ... some of the nicest, generous, and most warm-hearted women I've ever met. And I don't expect judgements about my choices either.
I'm married ... have been for 15 years. I still care deeply for my partner, and I love my kids, and I take good care of them. My partner simply isn't interested in the physical side of our relationship anymore. Is that a reason to breakup? Maybe ... I'm not sure.
So what's worse, leaving and making the clean break (and hurting my partner and kids terribly), having an affair and likely breaking the family up (and hurting them even more), living unfulfilled and being increasingly unhappy (which would probably lead to break-up), or once and a while slipping out to see my favourite service provider. Who always welcomes me with open arms, and makes me feel wonderful by the time I leave. My favourites I consider to be extremely good friends, and I'd like to think they feel that way about me too.
If you want to come on the board, leave the moralizing behind. I've made my moral choices, and I can live with them. Don't need you telling me I'm a sinner!
Tom