Why do girls ignore texts when they simply aren't interested?

[kalel]

to the original poster:

it may come as a shock to you but both men and women play games. neither should but both do.

1) if you don't receive a response and you wonder why, stop wondering. life is too short to find the why behind the what when the answer is negative. that's time that should be spent on finding the next one that you'd like to bend over and have your way with
2) if you're not receiving the response you want, don't ask for it. neither gender is attracted to somebody who appears weak and needy. sadly enough women want to be chased to feel wanted but not too hard that it becomes needy. and oddly enough when you stop giving them attention they will wonder why. ironic, isn't it?
3) spend less time texting and more time fucking. as far as i'm concerned most men don't date for the sake of dating, but as a means to a happy ending. being a man of action is far more exciting to most women (that i know) than being a man of words.
4) i don't know alot about women. i just learned how to get my type

 

[NoSoundRain]

 

[LADY-VIA]

why do some ignore texts ?????? cause some of us just dont care enough to text you back... are already far over it.. and thinking about your consideration is too much thinking.. considering we are so not even iterested.----- just saying this could be the case as well.... aside all the "confrontational fears " "low self confidence issues" and "wishy washy" type personalities !!!!!

Its tough and rough world out there.. I wish you all the best

 

[LADY-VIA]

Ah one of the great lessons in life - women demand honesty from men.

Yet they are spinless wishy washy little twirps when it comes to just saying to a man -

"Sorry dude I had a really good time but I just don't feel it."

Unless you are in some kind of a commited relationship with someone else.. you do not owe them anything..... explanations are nice and considerate... but they are not owed.. and it doesnt make women spinless wishy washy little twirps to say nothing at all.... SILENCE CAN SAY ALOT AT TIMES.. ------------- couldnt hold my tongue

 

[87112]

Maybe they have pay per text and can't afford to text back. My carrier charges 20 cents per text if you don't have the 10 bucks a month for unlimited. Text tag can add up!

 

[bug321]

Why would she have to send you a message about not feeling it. Not replying is a pretty clear hint unless you suspect she was hit by a bus. I suspect you have a case of too much too fast.

 

[PlayfulAlex]

Old fashioned etiquette has flown out the window. Used to be people always answered the phone every time it rang, had to write thank you cards for every gift they received, and were expected to write a reply to every letter. Society has changed and so have the rules of the game.

This is an excellent point; maybe my comments in this thread were based on my outlook as a mature woman, and a younger woman would have handled the situation exactly as the OP suggested. Not interested = no reply. Maybe that's just the way the younger set does things these days.

 

[XLNT]

I know this sounds crazy but I have a much better time bypassing all aspects of "the game" and focusing my time and energy on those who are genuine and direct. If I go on a date I will text whenever I feel like it, whether it's minutes or days afterwards. If I don't receive a response that's all I need to know. I generally don't chase. End result: when I do connect with someone it is more often deep and genuine, not fleeting and superficial.

Anyhow... all I can advise to the OP is get used to it and don't emotionally invest or create expectations until a later stage.

 

[vancity_cowboy]

simple rule:

if they don't respond they are a TWOT and you want nothing to do with them

oh... and i'd take a hard look at the folks that tried to hook you up with them too

 

[Caramel]

because texting requires effort and added attention...and if a guy is a douche why waste finger energy and time pressing tiny buttons =)

 

[AA_Train]

Unless you are in some kind of a commited relationship with someone else.. you do not owe them anything..... explanations are nice and considerate... but they are not owed.. and it doesnt make women spinless wishy washy little twirps to say nothing at all.... SILENCE CAN SAY ALOT AT TIMES.. ------------- couldnt hold my tongue

I wholeheartedly disagree with this statement. It's basic humanity 101 to respond to people when they try to contact with you, even if your response isn't particularly kind or what they want to hear. Just because people are afraid of confrontation doesn't give them the right to avoid it. A simple one or two sentence statement in a text (which is still pretty chickenshit btw) can put a situation to bed and not leave people wondering and will at least garner you a sliver of respect. Silence can say a lot but words make the message crystal clear.

 

[PlayfulAlex]

I wholeheartedly disagree with this statement. It's basic humanity 101 to respond to people when they try to contact with you, even if your response isn't particularly kind or what they want to hear. Just because people are afraid of confrontation doesn't give them the right to avoid it. A simple one or two sentence statement in a text (which is still pretty chickenshit btw) can put a situation to bed and not leave people wondering and will at least garner you a sliver of respect. Silence can say a lot but words make the message crystal clear.

Like I said in my Post #19...with all due respect to the younger crowd, the way people do things nowadays really does seem kinda chickenshit...if you're simply not interested, just thank them, and be on your way. Now, if the guy was a douche bag, the ladies probably never would have gotten to the first date. So I'm assuming that was not the case...

 

[rickoshadows]

Perhaps the problem may be that there is a significant portion of people in this world who are unable to take "No thank you.' for an answer. Being thought of as inconsiderate/impolite is a much easier/safer route.