Where has common sense and common courtesy gone?

[poonerboi]

Do unto others was how I was raised. Religion aside, best advice in the world.

Saw a thread asking about how far in advance should you book . Then after trying to book short notice with a lady and being told sorry she had someone coming shortly, i got another text 10 mins later saying the guy got called to work so she was available if I was still interested.

WTF is wrong with people?

Seriously, don't book if you aren't sure you can make it. It's not just lost revenue for the ladies! Some have children that require sitters, some have to taxi to an incall,some have to pay for the incall per use. And who knows what else.

Ladies, does this kind of shit really happen as often as it seems?

And what are some ways it has a negative impact on your day?

Maybe if you put it out there, some of us guys will take better care in the future.

 

[Cock Throppled]

I believe in courtesy, and obviously the guy was courteous enough to let her know.

I've had this happen. Literally driving to incall, when I get a message saying I have to get in to work ASAP because of an emergency.

Not all of us live orderly lives, and some have special skills that are needed when they're needed.

 

[MissingOne]

... Not all of us live orderly lives, and some have special skills that are needed when they're needed ...

This is it exactly. It's going to happen. Courtesy means doing your best to inconvenience the woman as little as possible, and finding a way to make it up to her if it's practical to do so.

 

[Lo-ki]

Where has common sense and common courtesy gone?

They both left a long time ago..........

 

[rlock]

Where has common sense and common courtesy gone?

The internet killed them. Sucked the life out of both, like a vampire, and left them for dead.

Now what's calling itself "common sense" online is a warped mockery of the real thing - invoked where you strap on your tinfoil hat and speak the most absurd shite in all creation, never mind logic or reality.

Common courtesy is neither common nor courteous. Actual politeness or respect has been replaced by some kind of weaponized outrage, where you automatically take offense at everything, whenever possible. It's actually a lucrative career for some people.

 

[80watts]

When is the last time you watched a movie where people are eating at a table and they say "please pass the _____". How many people sit down to dinner with family and that is how people ask for the potatoes.....

Well we do it to ourselves.. our short texting, shorthand code. LOL.

When someones holds a door.... say thankyou.... sometimes we are forgetful, or too preoccupied with life, that we don't notice it....

 

[sybian]

When is the last time you watched a movie where people are eating at a table and they say "please pass the _____". How many people sit down to dinner with family and that is how people ask for the potatoes.....

Well we do it to ourselves.. our short texting, shorthand code. LOL.

When someones holds a door.... say thankyou.... sometimes we are forgetful, or too preoccupied with life, that we don't notice it....

I will always hold the door open for the female of our species....no matter how old ,or how they look.
I will always , without fail use please or thank you.
Particularly at my parents kitchen table when paying them a visit.....I may be a trained killer, and life taker in the battlefield,..... but nobody matches my Mom in combat with a wooden spoon.

 

[MissingOne]

We always use courteous language in our household. Even to the dog. If I need to have her get out of my way, I start with "pardon me ...".

 

[poonerboi]

I received a pm from a woman who had quite alot to say about this matter.

She is not in red and so couldn't post here. One thing she said though cleared up something that is a common complaint on this board. How many times you show up at a ladies incall on time and she either a) makes you wait because she's not ready or b) lets you in and looks like she made no effort to look great for you?

This young lady said that she has had so many no-show and/or last minute cancellations that unless they are solid regulars she doesn't bother getting ready til they actually arrive! Sure wish the ladies were allowed to participate more here. I honestly don't kmow how they deal with the lot of us and still be able to smile and welcome us in!

 

[Miss Hunter]

Great thread. I’ve had no other choice but to enforce a mandatory deposit policy for new clients. I’m a full time student and a mother. I have to plan my sessions around school and study time, and arrange for child care. I have no time to deal with any flake/fake booking fuckery.

 

[Ray]

Common sense never existed. People figure things out based on their experiences in life.
Courtesy begins at home, from watching how your parents interact with each other and with others.

 

[Lo-ki]

Courtesy begins at home, from watching how your parents interact with each other and with others.

Today's family interaction....... all looking for the word "Courtesy" on Google and not finding it.

 

[BCS2018]

We always use courteous language in our household. Even to the dog. If I need to have her get out of my way, I start with "pardon me ...".

Haha, I really didn’t like how I heard people talking to google speaker or other devices ( always aware of terminator factor, and I’m a sucker for the movie A.I.). So I always make sure to thank google speaker and give other salutations. In life, I watched my mother always on the verge of tears working hard to look after her family. I knew one nasty person in a bad mood could shatter her. I use this often when I find myself feeling upset or curt. It allows me to swallow what ever lack of courtesy my instinct is with some stranger, and instead treat them how I wish random strangers would have always treated my mom.

 

[Abby Ryds]

Great thread. I’ve had no other choice but to enforce a mandatory deposit policy for new clients. I’m a full time student and a mother. I have to plan my sessions around school and study time, and arrange for child care. I have no time to deal with any flake/fake booking fuckery.

I have no choice but to do the same.
A plus side is that I am always on time and prepared for new clients, the more I am respected and valued, the more turned on I am.
Why did it take me so long to realize this?

 

[tadolder]

I received a pm from a woman who had quite alot to say about this matter.

She is not in red and so couldn't post here. One thing she said though cleared up something that is a common complaint on this board. How many times you show up at a ladies incall on time and she either a) makes you wait because she's not ready or b) lets you in and looks like she made no effort to look great for you?

This young lady said that she has had so many no-show and/or last minute cancellations that unless they are solid regulars she doesn't bother getting ready til they actually arrive! Sure wish the ladies were allowed to participate more here. I honestly don't kmow how they deal with the lot of us and still be able to smile and welcome us in!

She can post in the lounge without being in red. She can't advertise or post in reviews.

 

[poonerboi]

She can post in the lounge without being in red. She can't advertise or post in reviews.

Apparently, she can not discuss anything pertaining to the business or it is considered unpaid advertising. That is why there is so little activity from the female perspective in the lounge.

 

[poonerboi]

I believe in courtesy, and obviously the guy was courteous enough to let her know.

I disagree. He had no business booking short notice if there was a chance he would have to work. Or at the very least he could have let her know "I'd like to see you asap but there is a slight chance i may get called in to work " . Let the decision be hers if she wants to take the chance or wait for a sure thing.

 

[Miss Hunter]

I have no choice but to do the same.
A plus side is that I am always on time and prepared for new clients, the more I am respected and valued, the more turned on I am.
Why did it take me so long to realize this?

I've played around with a deposit policy for over a year. It's reduced my work related stress by over 90%. It reduces the amount of bookings I get from new guys, but most of the ones that do book show up. And it leaves my schedule open for reliable established clients. Nothing more annoying than turning down a regular because of what turns out to be a flake had already booked the time he wanted.

It's not just men who waste our time, sometime other ladies in the industry, and/or their pimps/handlers, fake book. I caught an sp trying to fake book me just the other day, I posted screenshots on my twitter. And this isn't just an isolated incident, it's happened many times in the past.

I look at it on the bright side though, fake and flake bookings are what's motivated me to adopt better screening methods.

 

[ddcanz]

I've played around with a deposit policy for over a year. It's reduced my work related stress by over 90%. It reduces the amount of bookings I get from new guys, but most of the ones that do book show up. And it leaves my schedule open for reliable established clients. Nothing more annoying than turning down a regular because of what turns out to be a flake had already booked the time he wanted.

It's not just men who waste our time, sometime other ladies in the industry, and/or their pimps/handlers, fake book. I caught an sp trying to fake book me just the other day, I posted screenshots on my twitter. And this isn't just an isolated incident, it's happened many times in the past.

I look at it on the bright side though, fake and flake bookings are what's motivated me to adopt better screening methods.

Welcome back to the Lounge, T.

 

[MB Mod]

Apparently, she can not discuss anything pertaining to the business or it is considered unpaid advertising. That is why there is so little activity from the female perspective in the lounge.

You are correct discussing business is considered unpaid advertising.