When SP give you their personal #

[eggtart_prince]

When this happen, would you use that # to contact her from now on?

I can see several reasons and problems.

1. She wants to hand pick her own customers.
2. She wants to make 100% of the money.
3. Your schedule can overlap with the one made by the phone girl.

What are you guys' thoughts on this?

 

[badbadboy]

Or maybe she likes you as a client?

SP's like to turn off their work phones when it suits them. Perhaps if you communicated on her personal number it makes her more accessible for you when you communicate with her?

I wouldn't be too quick to assume there is anything wrong with receiving a personal number. I enjoy communicating with some SP's via their personal numbers. It's not always about the biz

 

[Sibar]

Likes you as a client.

Happen to me recently with a owner of a MP. I was getting dressed and the MP walked out. After 30 seconds, I started for the door and the MP greeted me in the hallway with a smile. And then the owner gave me their personal cell number, for future bookings.

 

[summerbreeze]

Sometimes they are just keeping the personal friendship option open.

 

[sdw]

Sometimes they are just keeping the personal friendship option open.

The fact that we are discussing it means that she made an error in who she gave her number too. When an SP gets burned like that a few times, she learns to completely separate work life and real life.

 

[take8easy]

One theory could be that SP who gave you her number is that this SP is working for an agency, may be she is trying to build her own client base so she doesn't have to pay the cut to the agency.

Which basically means that her personal number is not really ... a personal number. She intends to use it for her business on a later day.

Now, if she is already working independently, then its a whole new ball game with multiple possibilities.

Just my two cents.

 

[Lurker 123]

It is a special privilege! As BC babe said you are her "Ideal Client."

 

[PierreCoeur]

I don't think it is about wanting to have 100% of the money. From my experience the girl really liked my visits and really wanted to stay in touch as she moved from one place to another. Some of those girls could go independent if they chose, and could achieve higher pay if they did, but they feel more safe and secure where they are. So at the worst they are trying to secure regular safe clients. At the best, they really like you.

Speaking to my own experience, I have two regrets. I lost this girl's phone number and when she texted me about a year and half after losing contact with her, I immediately erased the text because she sent the message to my business cell.

 

[Cami Parker]

You're overthinking it........

 

[Larry Storch]

I don't mean to toss water on the fire, but in my case, it eventually led to a major financial problem. I am not saying this is the case with you, but it is a possibility to consider. If you begin to get requests for loans or just needing "a little extra help" because business is slow, you know where it may be heading. You may not be the only one who has her personal number.

 

[Elm]

I don't mean to toss water on the fire, but in my case, it eventually led to a major financial problem. I am not saying this is the case with you, but it is a possibility to consider. If you begin to get requests for loans or just needing "a little extra help" because business is slow, you know where it may be heading. You may not be the only one who has her personal number.

This 100%.

What if an sp share's her personal info with you, her real name, personal life, and social media? Why would she do that?

 

[yasmine]

bingo. it is also very misleading for the client which is the exact reason why this thread was started.

The fact that we are discussing it means that she made an error in who she gave her number too. When an SP gets burned like that a few times, she learns to completely separate work life and real life.

 

[summerbreeze]

You're overthinking it........

I agree

I suppose it is easy for people on this board to forget this but in certain cases the sp is from another area, possibly another country

they are working almost 7 days a week, they are people with emotions and feelings and get lonely and would seek friendships just like anyone else

tricky to have friendship with someone you are intimate with for your business but don't forget, sp's are people with feelings, emotions, plans, dreams, etc.

not everything in their world is about money or sex

 

[rick hunter]

I don't mean to toss water on the fire, but in my case, it eventually led to a major financial problem. I am not saying this is the case with you, but it is a possibility to consider. If you begin to get requests for loans or just needing "a little extra help" because business is slow, you know where it may be heading. You may not be the only one who has her personal number.

This 100%.

What if an sp share's her personal info with you, her real name, personal life, and social media? Why would she do that?

If she is asking for loans or favours then that is a red flag. I've been with this personal sp and she has given me her real name and life story. I have to contact her if I want to see her.

It's not always that they want your money, they might see you as more than just a client but someone who they can talk about their problems and concerns and not be judged for it.

 

[xRiCeYx]

A SP gave me her personal # and ever since then I treat and consider her just like my other female friends. We go out and eat, clubbing etc etc.

I've stopped seeing her as a client cause I think it'll be weird since we hang out.

QUESTION: If I wanted to see her as a customer/client...Would it be awkward to ask her? Wouldn't she find it weird to bang me since we friends now and hang out? Or $$ is $$ and she would be fine with it? Should I ever ask her such a question?

 

[summerbreeze]

not sure if would matter if she was born in asia and brought up there, with a north american girl would be different,

in asia the women like to be looked after by men so from a practical perspective in most cases like any other service/friendship relationship. one is commercial, the other friendship

the expect the man to pay for everything so buying them dinner or paying to be intimate in many cases is not that far apart for them

of course if you wanted to be more than friends that would be different

 

[Sonny]

QUESTION: If I wanted to see her as a customer/client...Would it be awkward to ask her? Wouldn't she find it weird to bang me since we friends now and hang out? Or $$ is $$ and she would be fine with it? Should I ever ask her such a question?

Answer is YES it would be awkward.
You are no longer a customer whom she fucks for money.
And don't ask, unless you want the friendship to exit.

If you want sex with her, see if it develops as part of a relationship rather than paid.

 

[tiger69]

I did become good friend with one of my ATFs who is no longer working. And it did...get a bit awkward sexwise cause I just was no longer comfy with asking her for sex and then paying her- it's really weird to explain...I almost was afraid that paying her for it would offend her...somehow and there was no easy way to ask. I in a sense, she gained a good friend, but lost a regular client- I guess now that she no longer works it all worked out okay, but it's a definite thing to consider.
For those that give you personal numbers, don't over think it. Just go with the flow. Txt them once every so often to wish them well, especially on special occasions, but don't push it. SPs are like lawyers, counselors, doctors, they need to have very firm boundaries so if you push too hard, too soon, you are going to find yourself rejected rather firmly.

 

[Cami Parker]

I don't think it would be weird. If you were her friend, then found out her job and asked her THATwould be totally weird. But I'd bet she wouldn't turn away the business since you were a client before. Especially if you had good sex :eyebrows:

A SP gave me her personal # and ever since then I treat and consider her just like my other female friends. We go out and eat, clubbing etc etc.

I've stopped seeing her as a client cause I think it'll be weird since we hang out.

QUESTION: If I wanted to see her as a customer/client...Would it be awkward to ask her? Wouldn't she find it weird to bang me since we friends now and hang out? Or $$ is $$ and she would be fine with it? Should I ever ask her such a question?

 

[newatit]

There are several suppositions in these replies and that a "personal number" really is personal. With SIM cards and cheap plans even the same phone can manage more than one number. Throw away phones are useful too. I would look on this issue that you have been moved into another business realm only and for some good reason to the SP
IT Doesn't matter what the reason is but now you are on the special list for something so watch for that. It might be good or not good.

In my experience a personal number is the one mom calls her on.