Thanks Len for starting this thread.
I’ve been doing this for a “few” years now, but I am still surprised by the range of human sexuality and pleasure, especially on the BDSM side of the ledger.
Back in the day I was pretty vanilla in my sexual tastes and experiences and I met a service provider who blew the doors off what consenting sexual play could look like.
I was doing her from behind in doggy one session and she turned around and looked at me coyly and she said, “spank me.” I was a bit shocked and taken aback by this request as I was a “proper” gentleman and never considered striking another person. Never in my previous sexual experiences had anyone made such an unusual request. So I gave a gentle tap on her ass with my fingers. She turned around again and demanded, “harder.” So I wound up and struck her hard enough with an open hand that I felt the sting in my hand and it clearly left the impression of my palm and fingers on her ass in a rosy colour. At the instant of impact she let out a low hiss of pleasure, like an animal, that I will never forget. In that moment a portal into a whole new world of sexuality opened up to me that I never knew existed. She was clearly a bottom and I was a top, but had no idea I was until she showed me in that moment.
I became smitten by her and this new world that she introduced me to. I was naive to be sure, but a relatively quick study. We dated and shared a roof for a time. While together she gifted me a copy of “The Story of O,” which further expanded my sense of what the boundaries of pleasure and pain are.
I don’t explicitly go looking for submissive providers (they are rare), but I will try to tease out, in conversation, what an SP’s kinks are. The most pleasurable sessions are those in which we both discover something new we may not have considered before. On this journey I’m regularly surprised by what some providers will reveal to me in the heat of the moment, and in the immortal words of James Tiberius Kirk, allow us to “explore new worlds.“
